Dear Bethechange: I DO know your school. But I do not know anybody who can help you or harm you. I deperately wanted you to succeed. I know that it is EXTREMELY difficult for Sophomores at your school, period. I suspect that your experience was largely shaped by the fact that you are a Sophomore. There is a small much more informal Spring Rush. Not all sororities participate in it. I think that there is a formal one and a very informal one where one of your girlfriends might just approach you. Also I'm pretty sure that there is some form of snap bid after this formal Fall rush is over. Remember maybe some sororities were so picky that they didn't get the number of girls they needed. There are sites on here which are tracking which sororities had x number of bids accepted. The more knowledgeable women on this site can direct you about how to go after these things in general. Concurrently with checking out these things go to your school's student life--office of campus programs & organizations. There are non Greek organizations which you might enjoy. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

So sorry it didn't work out for you. I was pulling for you. But you go to a great school with tons of opportunities and you never know what will happen. Just keep that positive attitude up to everyone, because you never know who's listening. Good luck to you!

I just want to wish you the very best this semester in anything you do!:)

Aww i'm so sad for you. good luck. i liked your story a lot. hey don't say not a fairytale ending, maybe its not your ending yet :D

Thanks everyone. You all have been so sweet! I had an amazing year last year without being greek so I know I'll be fine. Besides now I am going to take the money that I was going to spend on a sorority and put it towards a trip to Africa this summer to volunteer in an orphanage, which is something I have wanted for awhile. Everything happens for a reason and I have no hard feelings towards any of the amazing women in the houses here. Thanks again!

I admire your attitude and optimism SO much. You seem like you have a really good head on your shoulders, and I'm sure you're a great person - sorority sister or not :p. Honestly though, your outlook towards life is something I strive for. Kudos to your parents ;).

UPDATE!
 

So after a lot of thought I decided to go through spring recruitment at my school and can proudly say that I am a.....



PHI MU!

wow congrats!! i'm so glad you're happy! :D

You, once again, prove that one should never give up. It can be easy or difficult, but you have years and then decades ahead of you with Phi Mu. Everyone loves the perfect rush, but these kind of stories are even better. I think that you will know that the struggle was worth it. http://www.tke-miami.com/graphics/GreekChat/icon14.gif

Congrats!!! I'm so glad it all worked out for u :)

WOW WOW WOW!!!!:D

That is wonderful!! We always like an ending like this!

In the words of Mother Superior in The Sound of Music, "When God closes a door, somewhere he opens a window."

(I am a little emotional today!)

Congratulations! Can you tell us which color was Phi Mu?
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Congrats!! I am so happy for you =]]