It's OK, I'm sure BamaDadDZ already told us. :rolleyes:

How did nationals find out?

If it was via you or your mom, well, umm, I don't think I have to say anything more here.

lilly, how did your mother react when you were cut from her chapter? Especially since she was asked to host teas for them?

The words in bold is what I deem inappropriate. "*DZ used to be on old row but was kicked off for some reason."

A sorority with 223 members doesn't just get kicked off the row, and I'm sure Delta Zeta wouldn't appreciate the defamatory statement.

No, I think kicked off is the correct term. Old row is not university sanctioned so it has no bearing as to the sorority's standing on campus except socially. I don't think DZ was ever old row, but who is or isn't has changed throughout the years so that is a possibility. A chapter's standing on old row is decided by the other chapters on old row. So it is easy for a chapter to be kicked off and a new one brought on if that's what the included chapters wanted. Though no one has been brought on or kicked off old row in the past 10 years or so.

it's the machine. i don't make the decisions. my apologies for offending you. again, just stating the facts.

She's a Phi Mu wannabe!!

Hard rushing girls when they're juniors in high school? Don't these sorority women - both collegiate and alumnae - have lives? There must be something more important to do with their time, such as getting to know the new members that DID join their house? Something about that seems very sad and pathetic, and, well, desperate to me.

I don't think it is appropriate to say that it is desperate when you are talking about one of the largest, strongest, and fastest growing greek systems in the country. It takes a lot time to do all these things, but when they are divided between 200 girls, it's really not that bad. I promise!

Great Odin's Raven.....

I've missed a fight.

I said it seemed desperate. Why else would they feel the need to grab these girls and basically brainwash them years before they even set foot on the college campus? Are they afraid the girls won't like them and pick them once they have a chance to meet the other sororities? And they're so afraid of that that they'll invest years of their lives in trying to win over these girls? Yep, that sounds desperate to me.

You are totally lurking on the wrong thread. Get the popcorn out!

It is a bit sad and pathetic, though not really desperate. None of the chapters are desperate.

However, it is horrible to lead a legacy on as badly as lilly was. But it happens a LOT at Bama. With my chapter not so much, considering we're just 20 years old and most of our legs are in-house or from other chapters. But it happens!

So, until the PNMs know the truth -- that they're not guaranteed ANYTHING, even if their mama, sister, 3 cousins, 5 aunts and both grandmothers were an XY(Z) -- there's going to continue to be a lot of letdowns during Bama rush.

I honestly didn't know recruitment was that tough down south 'til I read so much about it on GC. I know it's just "the way things are", but I gotta tell ya, it just sounds brutal to me. I know what you're saying about dividing the work between 200 women, but still, sheesh! I didn't have 2 passing thoughts about being in a sorority when I was a jr. in high school! And I got accepted to Bama, seriously considered it, but went north to Penn State instead (was from DC area). I didn't know it at the time, but there is obviously NO WAY I'd have been greek if I went to Bama, I didn't have a rec, didn't know a soul, nothing. I can't imagine how different my life would have been!! See, things happen for a reason...