Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1649616)

I don't think I'm being dense, and I don't ask questions I don't already have the right answer to. No one said anyone hated anyone. Maybe I'm not that knowledgeable on this subject, but I refuse to let outsiders determine who I decide to have a love life with. I honestly think when you see a black guy with a white woman in a relationship, you don't give him the benefit of the doubt unless you know him on a personal level. I think at the first look of seeing an interracial couple that you don't know (a black man and a white woman) you automatically start having negative thoughts in your mind. Like "Why is he with her?" or "He's one of those guys who thinks white women are better." You seem to link the two together as a bad thing and because associated concepts are essentially linked together in a person's mind, a person would be faster to respond to a related pair of concepts and in your case a black man and a white woman. Personally, I think this is a form of self interest, and self interest often shores up implicit biases. It's basically to bolster our own status. We are predisposed to ascribe superior characteristics to the groups to which we belong, or in groups, and to exaggerate differences between our own groups and outsiders. I think your basic visual perceptions on interracial relationships are totally skewed.

ETA: You also seem to hold strong emotions with interracial relationships (black and white) and some implicit biases appear to be rooted in strong emotions. Deep within our subconscious, all of us harbor biases, but the problem arises when we act on them. This is also something we can overcome since this is all based on brain activity.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1649607)

AKA_Monet, expanding my knowledge is always of interest to me. So I'll read what you want me to read. I honstly don't think it's necessary to do so and I know I won't agree with it, but I'll read whatever it is you want me to read.:)

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1649607)

Which thread are you referring to in the news and views forum?

Originally Posted by neosoul (Post 1650086)

everybody typed a dissertation :(

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1649987)

Originally Posted by preciousjeni (Post 1648571)

I think you gotta do what you gotta do to stay free and alive. There's no justice in this country.

Originally Posted by preciousjeni (Post 1648569)

My mother says I borrow trouble - worrying about things before they happen - but I think about how to protect my future children. Things like not wanting them - especially boys - being out at night...not for fear of their safety in general, but for fear that the police will get them. I don't want to sit at home wondering if my child has been arrested.

Originally Posted by southernelle25 (Post 1651256)

Such might keep you alive, sure, free... not so much. And then the question becomes, is such life worth living?

Originally Posted by southernelle25 (Post 1651256)

So, don't let your boys be out at night. In my family, all children had to be in the house by a certain time. Once they are grown, well, there is nothing more you can do. If you don't believe in your ability to raise black boys into responsible black men who won't be arrested (or at least convicted), then maybe you shouldn't have any. :(