Question about bid day
 

This is my first posting but I've been learning from all you wonderful ladies for several months. Thank you so much! My dd is going through recruitment at Ole Miss tomorrow along with a few others from our hometown (OOS) as well as her roommate from another state. However, I am the only mom in our small group who was in a sorority so they are asking me questions. (I know, bad idea). One comment that another mom heard that I haven't been able to research/verify is regarding the multiple selection process and bid day. I know there is a thread for that but I didn't find the answer there. She was told that if her dd was invited to THREE houses for pref AND if she ranked all THREE, that she would, for sure, get a bid to one of those 3. I never thought that to be true but I'm obviously from the dark ages before RFM and computers and quota being adjusted and finalized during the week. Can any of you enlighten me?

She is not "guaranteed" a bid if she does that but the odds are very high that she will get one of the three. And the reason we say it isn't guaranteed is because she could commit some dreadful faux pas, reveal some "sordid" information about herself or a chapter could find out something last minute that no one knew before thar deems her not desirable - if you get my drift. Or as some of us say, she is very friendly with the entire football team. It is unusual in this day with RFM for one not to get a bid if one maximizes one's options - and is willing to accept a bid from any of the ones she lists.

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As Tichou just said, there are never any guarantees, but yes, it is highly, highly unlikely to not get a bid as long as you attend pref and list all of your pref chapters on your final bid card.

NO NO NO :mad:

Please, Softychik, please READ about the other qualifiers that are explained in this thread. It is not just as simple as getting an invite to a Pref party.

ThetaLady is right. I've heard of girls who just had one invitation for Pref parties and did not receive a bid. It does happen; that sorority might rank the PNMs lower on their bid list and the ranks didn't match up.

No that is not the way RFM works. Ole Miss is using a Quota additions method. If a PNM gets invited to prefs then she will get a bid to one if those chapters if she lists all of them on her pref card.

If she only gets invited to one pref - she will get a bid UNLESS there is sonething really really wrong (GPA too low to initiate, going to prison after recruitment?)

If she went to prefs and didnt show up bid day odds are much more likely she turned dien her bid.

PNM advice: Listen to your gamma chi (not to strangers on a message board -- regardless of how seasoned and authoritative they may sound) and enjoy! This is one of the best experiences of your life. Those of us who have gone before remember it well.

All the best.

Nope, this is not the issue anymore.

PNMs only hear the part that says "If you go to Pref Night, you have a bid."

The parts that PNMs fail to pay attention to is that they MUST "MAXIMIZE THEIR OPTIONS".
This means they must go to ALL pref parties they are invited to AND they must rank ALL of those chapters on their card, in order to have the best chance at getting a bid.

If the PNM goes to 3 Prefs, but they decide not to list all 3 groups on their card, they may NOT get a bid. IF they only list 2of the 3, deciding that they would not accept a bid from the third chapter, then they risk receiving no bid at all. IF they SIP, they may not get a bid.

IF chapters find out something really, really bad about a PNM after Pref invites go out, but before Bid lists are done, they may also drop a PNM. It can happen.

Really? I thought that if a PNM came to Pref that they must be on your bid list somewhere. I have never heard of being able to drop a PNM of your bid list.

Perhaps that depends on the organization. We may have different rules.

I assure you that you can leave a pref attendee off your bid list. You most likely will have to explain why to the GA but it can be done...for a valid reason unknown before pref. They cannot make you take someone you do not want - unless you are at Tufts....

So you know differently than EVERYBODY else here? :rolleyes:

I have to respectfully suggest that there are women on this site who are RFM experts. They travel to different schools to help with RFM. Undoubtedly, they are more schooled and knowledgeable than most 20 year old gamma chis. Gamma chis do an excellent job but they OFTEN make mistakes or don't realize that the pnm is only hearing about of half of what they are saying. There are numerous examples on here that support this scenario.

So, a pnm can do far worse than listen and learn here.

To be clear here, the issue is with the black or white sentiment of GUARANTEE. It is highly highly likely that if you attend preference party/ies and list every party to which you were invited you will get a bid. But the way I've read it, if you go to a party and are a snotty pants to one party to ensure that you don't get ranked highly on their list, you can be CUT from them at that point, and that could jack up the whole process for you. It would, however, have to take an extreme measure like fighting back against really bad behavior in order for the rules of RFM to be overridden. Play by the rules, don't be a snotty pants, don't let that felony conviction leak out between getting invited to pref and bid list time, and yes, you should be guaranteed a bid. It's not something to worry about; it's just that we here want to be pristinely clear with the rules which do allow for an out for a chapter who has vehemently changed their mind about you.