Well things are NOT ok. I am completely heartbroken.

Frosted Wheats
Apple Jacks

My bottom two. That's it. And I'm one of the lucky ones. I'm going today just to give it a chance but it isn't looking good. I might just go through informal if I don't find my home now. Thanks for reading. I wish I could say this is me having a positive attitude but my mind is completely blown on this one. I don't understand it at all. I always knew it was competitive but that's why I had a lot of recs, great grades, and a positive attitude. I guess it's just not enough. I'm still deciding what to do.

Frosted Wheats- Surprised me with really good conversations but I don't think it's for me. I can't explain it. I just don't feel the connection.

Apple Jacks- I felt a little better here today. Once again, not the strongest connection.

I know that it is easy for everyone else to say because we are not in your shoes right now...but just see how it goes. I understand what you are saying about making connections - but sometimes it just takes a little longer to make that special connection. Sometimes women who thought about dropping out stayed and didn't hit it off right away with their new member class - but over time they really fell in love with their chapter. With others that "connection" they thought they had during recruitment wore off big time. You just never know

I hope that you have a good day : )

I understand your hurt and sadness, but remember that these actives have CHOSEN you! They see something in you and want you to come back, so try to see something in them. Don't rule out Frosted Wheat because of the rumor mill - you yourself said that you had great conversations. Sleep on it and you will feel better in the morning - shock can upset anyone.

I wish I could give you a big hug right now!

I rarely post but wanted to throw in a little bit of encouragement to you. I've known several girls who've gone through IU rush in the past few years. Two were roommates - one did well with rush as the rounds progressed (although not without her own angst moments), the other...sounds similar to you. Started okay and then kept getting more and more cuts and she was really struggling to hang in there. I'm SURE you know where this is going...she did hang in there and got a bid to a house. She was wrung out by the end of what is a very competitive rush and was happy to have a bid. She ultimately loved her house and was very glad to have participated in the greek experience at IU. Good luck...whatever you decide...but I hope you'll hang in there a little bit longer.

It sounds like like Apple Jacks COULD work. Only you can judge - but speaking as someone who got their second choice, let me assure you that often it is for the BEST to be where you are really, really wanted. Give them every opportunity, and understand that the system is imperfect. There is no telling why you were cut - and you should try (easy for me to say, I realize) not to take it too much to heart.

Here's hoping for a happy ending for you -:)

I think this is excellent advice. Remember what some of the IU girls have said here - all the the houses there provide the members with a great Greek experience. After all the effort you have put into preparing for recruitment, you really owe it to yourself to finish it out. Otherwise you might always wonder, "What if?"

I don't know if you read the thread I started about "When did you KNOW?" but some of the women who shared their stories didn't know until preference, after preference, or even after their bid came. I really encourage you to finish it out and see what happens. You have NOTHING to lose by finishing and the potential to gain a lot.

Perhaps you will be one of the women who helps unleash the potential of one of these chapters.

keep your chin up hoosierxgirl! Just keep going, so many girls have felt this way at one time or another. I know it feels like there is something about you that the other houses didn't like and that there's something wrong with you. there's not. unfortunately, its just that competitive and you are amazing for making it this far-- i don't know if i would have been able to keep positive for so long.

Hang in there! It will all work out in the end

((HoosierGirl))

I'm sorry about your disappointment. Once I was on the other side of Rush at IU (as an active member), the first thing that went through my mind was "How the heck did I get in HERE?"--Why? Because there were so many amazing girls that came through the doors of the house that got cut each round. Way way more great girls than spots for them. I know its hard not to take it personally. And it can be so disheartening to get your hopes up and then to feel that they've been dashed.

If you made it back to 6-party, trust me, there are women in those houses that are disappointed that you weren't invited back to their house, too.

My house didn't do informal rush, so I don't have any experience with that, but I do remember my freshman year a few sophomores on my dorm floor that went through informal recruitment in the Fall.

I hope that you choose to stick it through Pref.--maybe you will feel differently after tonight.

Hang in there Hoosierxgirl-it is tough at IU and you rightly are one of the lucky ones. There are few COR opportunities and if you wish to PM me feel free. I am not an alum but have a Greek there now. I think you should rank and see what happens and review the threads of those in your situation who now love their homes. Good Luck!!!!!

I think your best option is to see if you get a bid and TRY IT OUT. I think that if you give your potential new home a chance, you may be very surprised at how much you love it. You owe it to yourself to give it a try. Again...they cut girls to keep you. They want you. Remember that! They think you are special! So go in there and give it 100%!

Excellent point. So often, PNMs get (understandably) hung up on who cut them, and they forget that the groups they have left are the ones who WANT them. These 2 chapters obviously want to see more of you, so keep that in mind.

Also consider the fact that informal opportunities may be limited if the chapters take their quota of new members during formal and fill to total.

Again, only YOU know how you feel right now, so do what's best for YOU. Keep us posted!

While I'm not a collegiate member at IU, I do have good friends there, and they have given me a feel for the campus culture. Rushing as a sophomore at IU is not easy at all, and it rarely works out the way you want it to. If you drop out now, you don't stand a very good chance of getting a bid in the future at all. It seems as if you had a good experience at your actual pref parties, and I'll remind you now: the women you meet at rush are a very small percentage of the entire house, and you don't know your pledge class yet. For all you know, you could love them. I would go through with it, and I would keep in mind that most houses at IU do not do informal. You were right to say that falling in love with a house takes time. My sister who cried and cried on bid day was sullen for the first few weeks, finally opened up and became one of the most active girls in my chapter. IU recruitment is competitive, and I know its a hard day, but the best thing you can do is stick with it. Recruitment isn't easy, but the system, for the most part, does tend to work when you've gotten this far. Good luck tomorrow, and try to stick with it.

Just so you all know... I talked with my Rho Gamma and decided it was best for me to drop at this point so I don't get stuck with a bid if I choose not to accept (becasue then I can't do informal). Soooo, I'm sure I will always have the "what if" feeling just because it's unavoidable but I am confident I am making the right decision for me. It just didn't work out this time around. I had really high hopes for the system but it's not fool-proof and I'm sure with added experience I'll be a little more prepared. I hope everyone doesn't think I'm giving up because I'm bitter or anything. Feel free to PM me if you want a more detailed explanation. I will keep you all updated on COR when I find out more information. I cannot tell you how great it has been to share my story...just to have an outlet and a way to document my rollercoaster ride. I'm confident things will work out in the end...sorority or not.

I'm sure everyone here will respect the fact that you made the best decision for you. Best of luck to you in your future endeavors (whether you end up Greek or not). Keep us posted if you end up doing informal.

From what I've seen, it's hardly ever that a sorority did not "like" you. It's more a matter of who is ahead of you on their list and you can hardly ever control that.

good for you hoosierxgirl. you made the right decision for YOU and thats what really counts. You seem level headed and im sure whatever happens in the future, it will be for the best. I won't wish you luck because I don't think you need it.

Best wishes!

I am so sorry things didn't work out.

Keep us posted on informal rush. Follow your heart, and you won't have any regrets.

Well everyone....I have been doing informal and I've been to two houses for a few events. I'm really glad I gave it a second chance and I'm happy to say that I am.......


an ALPHA GAMMA DELTA!!! I'm so happy! I just found out 30 minutes ago...I can't wait!!!! Thanks for everyone following my story and for all your support and kind words. Now the fun begins!

Oh! I'm so glad that things worked out for you! Your story was so sad, but now it has a happy ending!!!! Congratulations!

Wait that means you and Iheartstarbucks are new members together! YAY!

Yay! Red and buff roses to you!

Woohoo! Welcome to the sisterhood!

Well done! I'm so glad things worked out for you!!!

Excellent news! Welcome to the circle that never ends!

How fun!! Two Indiana rush stories that ended with the same chapter!! You guys gotta figure out who each other are! lol

I went through recruitment through AXiD at UIUC this past fall and while I was lurking the boards here for info, I found another girl who was rushing too. We introduced ourselves (well, as best as you can through GC) and we both ended up getting bids. It wasn't until the second colony meeting after bid day that we met in person. I heard someone say her name, and I was like, "Oh, YOU'RE the one I talked to on Greek Chat!" :)

Congrats to you and Alpha Gamma Delta!

when i read the happy conclusion for this thread, i had to do a double take-"didn't i just read last night that starbucks had pledged agd or was it this thread?" so glad that it was two separate threads with two happy new members. congratulations!!

Welcome to the sisterhood, Baby Squirrel! Congrats to you, Starbucks and us.

Congrats and welcome to our sisterhood!

~AGD, AGD, That's my Fraternity,
We are true sisters now
and evermore shall be
and where ever life may lead us,
throughout the coming years,
we will always remember our Fraternity so dear.

Our bond of sisterhood,
Can never be denied,
Share each day by each of us,
By this we do abide,
You may search the world all over,
and never ever find,
That special kind of feeling,
It's ours all the time,
AGD~~

Hoo Hoo Hoo Hoosier!!! Awesome. 2 of my friends are Alpha Gams-one from IU and one from Denver. Please keep us updated on your new member period.

Omg Hoosiermama...I get that the Hoosiers are your mascot, but is your username supposed to be a pun? Lol! Like who's your mama?

Congrats to you and Alpha Gamma Delta! Welcome to the Syracuse Triad

YAYYYYY!!!!! I am SO happy for you and that you finally found your home at ALPHA GAMMA DELTA! Keep us updated please!

p.s. are you going to find out who I<3Starbucks is? Just curious! :]

Congrats and welcome to the Syracuse Triad! (PS...which one was AGD in your code?)

AGD was Apple Jacks. :) Thanks everyone...I'm working on finding out who I<3Starbucks is!

I am so happy for you! Congrats to you and AGD!

And welcome to the Triad!! :)