I'm not usually the one to say this, but I'm quite sure you gave yourself away with that last post, if the actives at NAU didn't already know who you were.
But I'm glad you mostly enjoyed your day today, and wish you the best of luck with the rest of FR!

[quote=disasterscookie;1710271]Oh. My. God.
I would have to say that this night was the longest night of my short existence. I am so glad that I don't go to a really large really competitive school because I don't think I could handle that kind of pressure! I was there from about 3:30 to 11pm without having eaten and barely drank the entire time! But all and all it was a good night. I am going to go through the different sororities and what I thought of them in the order was saw them.
So in no certain order, I am going to rename the houses:
Muffin
Cupcake
Scone
Cake
Pie

It sounds like you had a very good round ( minus the lack of food and water) i look forward to the next round and hearing more about it!
I also like your openness and honesty about being married.

Yesterday was Pref Night, her comments were on the 1st day of FR.

Today is Bid Day.

According to the NAU website, bids get handed out at 6:30.

(NAU's schedule is the same as ASU's, thats why us alums couldn't help out both chapters :D)

can't wait to hear!

Yeah, those were my feelings about the first night, Info/Orientation Night. Tonight is Bid Night, and though I don't know if I got a Bid or not, I don't feel like posting this is going to inhibit my chances really. You'll see why :)

My fingers are crossed for you disastercookie- I look forward to hearing the rest of the story

Second Day Formal Recruitment/Philanthropy Night
 

Another severely long day. Only this time, I decided to do crack and thought I could wear heels for 5 hours! Worst decision ever! *sigh* Ok. So it takes me forever to pick out my outfit. I wanted to make sure that I would stand out, considering we are supposed to dress up, I knew a bunch of girls were going to wear brown, black, white, and other such boring colors. So I decided to go with RED!

Ok, so I get there and I check in and get my schedule. I was plesantly surprised to see that I got invited back to 5 out of 6 of the sororities. Being a married junior is kind of a negative in this realm of my life. I was a little disappointed to see that I was cut from Cupcake which is the group that I ranked second last night. But I didn't let it get to me because I had parties to go to and people to dazzle :) My schedule looked like this:
6:05 Muffin
6:50 Cookie
7:35 BREAK
8:40 Cake
9:25 Scone
10:10 Pie

So not bad :)
Muffin: We go into their chapter room, and it is decorated really cute in a jungle theme. I get introduced to the same girl that rushed me yesterday so I felt confident that she would remember. But this time, instead of having one sister to 2 PNM's, there was one sister to 3 PNM's. We sat down and we were doing a craft for their philanthropy. The girl that is supposed to rushing me literally turns her back on me and talks one of the other girls because they are both from Colorado. Me and the third girl just kind of raise our eyebrows to each other because this is really rude. Then the sister gets bumped and we now have the President of the chapter rushing us. She sits there very awkwardly with her hands folded in her lap basically staring at the table like she is the PNM all nervous going through rush and we are judging her! Again, super surprising and a large turn off! Then she gets bumped and again, me and the third girl are COMPLETELY ignored because this girl too is from Colorado and is all of the sudden BFFL's with the other girl. I was really irritated by the time another sister came by to talk to us. She was really trying very hard to strike up conversation with us but man...this group cannot talk obviously. The entire conversation was really strained and forced. I wanted to just roll my eyes and leave. I was so relieved when they said our time was up! I would have RAN from the room had I not been wearing heels!

cookie: I was really surprised to be invited back to this house because I just rambled on to the girl yesterday and didn't make a good impression, I know this. The girl who rushed me was really sweet and soft spoken. We had a pretty relaxed conversation. She asked me why I decided to rush so late in my undergrad career and I explained to her that my undergrad experience so far has been everything it's supposed to be, but not everything I wanted it to be. She seemed really impressed with my answer. So we basically talked about their philanthropy and I thought that was really cool. I told her how I did BBBS in high school as an after school program and helped kids with their homework. She thought that was pretty cool. It came up that I was married, and she didn't seem shaken by this at all. She said that every chapter has live in requirements but that their are always exceptions. Though this girl was super nice and cute, I didn't leave this group super impressed, but they were alright.

Break time! I ate goldfish and cookies to refuel and sat to try to make my feet stop throbbing! Again, I was on crack and thought I could wear heels for 5 hours STRAIGHT! disasterscookie is on CRACK!

Cake: I some how got matched with the same amazing bubbly girl as last night! It was really comforting because we had a great conversation last night, so I was sure that it would come easily tonight. Their philanthopy is really awesome. They showed a movie about it and how they have a very large part is what goes on and what they fund! I just thought it was amazing and the emotions are so overwhelming about this cause. Another girl that I knew was there and we talked too. Then I got introduced to another girl. One thing I like about this group is that instead of bumping they were just adding sisters to the conversation. It made the whole thing a lot more comfortable. I like this group :)
Scone: I wasn't too excited to be invited back to this group because I had ranked them last the previous night. But boy did they change my mind! Their chapter room was decorated in a blast from the past style. They were all dressed up from the 60's, 70's and 80's and the whole theme was just amazing! They sang adorable songs to us and I loved it! The girl who rushed me was awesome and she and I hit it off like no other! She too is obsessed with cupcakes! We talked about that for a long time, then we got into majors and grad school and the conversation just flowed really amazingly! I really felt like I connected with this group and I liked how fun and relaxed they were even in a serious setting. Their philanthropy was interesting and we were doing crafts for it. I had such a good time! I absolutely loved the girl that rushed me and just the entire atmosphere. I fell in love with this group! And I was so glad that I gave them another chance and that they gave me another chance as well!
Pie: I was so stoked to be invited back to this group! A lot of girls got cut from this group, even some that were freshman and sophomores, so I took this as a good sign! I got rushed by a girl who was super cute and really easy to talk to! We talked about our majors, our parents, and their philanthropy. The girl that rushed me yesterday came up and said hi to me and gave me a hug (which I also took as a good sign) and told me how glad she was that I was back! :D *ding* Then the first got bumped by a girl who was in my ethnic studies class last year. We talked about how awesome that class was and the classes we were taking this year. The conversation flowed really nicely with her as well. Then she got bumped by a girl, she was really awesome too and we had a good conversation. I am absolutely in love with this group as well and I was sad to leave!

Then we had to go meet with our Rho Chi's and rank our top 4 and chose a 5th that we wouldn't mind going back to (in case you don't get invited to all 4). I had 3rd and 4th picked, but I could not decide whether to put Scone first or Pie because I loved them both. My Rho Chi assured that even though ranking tonight is important it doesn't really come down to the wire until the next night, which is sisterhood night and the night that we pick our top 2. So I ended up ranking them as such:
1. Scone (which is awesome since I ranked them last last night)
2. Pie (I am so in love with them!)
3. Cake (as much as I love their philanthropy, I don't really see myself fitting in well here)
4. Cookie (only because the conversation wasn't as bad as...)
5. Muffin (if I don't get invited back to my top 4, I can still go to muffin if they invite me...it could get better I guess but with 2 bad days in a row for them, I've lost interest pretty much completely!)

Tonight is the sisterhood and sorority night and at the end we have to pick our top 2. If I get invited back to Scone and Pie it is going to be SO HARD!

I think I am going to go to the store and buy myself a plain pair of black ballet style flats, I am never wearing heels again!

Wish me luck!
Hope you guys are enjoying this thread :)

Sounds good!
 

It sounds like things are going well!! i love your descriptions of each of the houses and conversation. I look forward to hearing more!! I love the idea of the red dress! And yes, heels can be killer on the feet!

I look forward to your next post!!!

wasn't bid day @ NAU yesterday? :confused:

Bid Day was last night

oh. oops. thanks for filling me in!

Ok so I was super nervous about this night. I mean this would be the night that could make me or break me! So I get there at about 5, I get my schedule and I feel my heart breaking. I got dropped from SCONE!!! The group that I had ranked as my number one the night before. I was sitting there waiting for the events to start and a bunch of girls were talking about who they got invited back to and they were like "Scone, and I didn't even like them..." I was IN LOVE with them and I thought the girl and I had clicked so well! I was REALLY disappointed. I had also gotten dropped by Cookie but I didn't mind. The girls were nice, but way to reserved and conservative for me. So my schedule looked like this:
6:10 - Break (yeah, break first, haha.)
7:00 - Pie (so freaking excited to be invited back here! I ranked them 2nd last night and a BUNCH of girl got cut from them!)
8:00 - Cake (also really excited and surprised to be invited back here! I ranked them 3rd the night before and again and a ton of girls got cut from them!)
8:50 - Muffin (shrug)

I looked amazing! I got so many compliments on my outfit, and on how brave I was to wear heels a second night in a row. These were wedges though so they were way easier to walk in.

Pie: I am still super big fan of this group. The girl who rushed me was really sweet, we talked about majors and school. It's really hard to remember exactly what kind of conversation I had with this girl, just because they are all starting to really mesh together. They showed a super cute slide show/movie about what sisterhood means to them. I could definitly see myself as a part of this group :)
Cake: I was really kind of struck at being invited back to this house. They are really 'prestigious' on my campus and I thought they only took freshman. I walk in and I am talking to a girl whom I had Social Stratification with last year. She is such a sweet girl. Within seconds we were talking and laughing and having an amazing time. Sisters again were added into the conversation, rather than switching completely which again I totally appreciate :) Then like 10 of them stood at the front of the room and told personal stories about what the sorority means to them and how much cake changed their lives. My friend walked up and gave me a hug and told me how glad she was that I was there. Then another girl that I kind of know came up and was also really excited I was there. Then the girl that rushed me the first 2 nights tapped my shoulder when we were leaving and was like "I'm so glad you're back!" I know that they are supposed to be super nice to everyone, but being approached by 3 different girls and told how exciting it was to them to have you there, I can't help but take that as a good sign, you know? I had so much fun with this girl tonight and not only that but she is totally not your stereotypical sorority girl, she is a super hippy like tree-hugger girl and I love that about her. Their group really seems very diverse! I like this group so much and I am so glad I got invited back :D
Muffin: I was kind of annoyed that I got invited back to this house, a lot of girls did that ranked them last and they just didn't go. I was not about to be that disrespectful, so I went trying to have an open mind about it. Their room was super cute! It was decorated like Tiffany's with the little boxes and bags all over. I loved it, and I just happened to be wearing a Tiffany's necklace. The first girl to rush me tonight was the second girl who rushed me yesterday night. It was kind of easier talking to her tonight because there wasn't so many people talking at once. She is the philanthropy chair and I really appreciated how passionate she was about their philanthropy. Then she got bumped and this second girl was like straight up pulling teeth. She was so awkward and had nothing really legitimate to say about the sorority. I was asking her all the freaking questions and her answer to everything was "I really love the girls." But said in a really non-convincing voice. To me, if you have girls that aren't super good at talking with people or have poor conversational skills, don't have them participate in rush because it makes you look really bad and unprepared and to be honest I have never been more annoyed or turned off from a group. *sigh* I just feel bad for them to be honest because they have been like this to every girl I have spoken with and I have not heard one girl say "OMG! I love Muffin!" we are all just kind of going to their parties to not be disrespectful.

At the end of the night I ranked them as such:
1. Cake
2. Pie
3. Muffin

Tonight is Preference Night and you can get invited back to a maximum of 2. Cross your fingers for me that I get invited back to my top 2 so I don't have to suffer through an muffin party! I would love to be a part of both of my top 2, like I see nothing negative about either group! I am so nervous though! My recruitment counselors told us that if we got dropped by both of our top 2 they would call us and ask us if we wanted to continue with our bottom choice. I haven't gotten a call yet, so lets hope this is a good thing! I was actually praying last night to be invited back to my top 2 and get into one of them. This has been an amazing experience though for me! I have had a lot of fun and met a bunch of awesome girls!

OMG! I almost forgot the most unfortunate part about tonight! I completely lost my voice! Like nothing comes out of my mouth except for random squeaks when I do try and talk! My husband looked at my throat and says it looks like I have puss pocket on my throat! God Damn it! Hopefully it's just phelm because my allergies are acting up! I have no insurance to go to the doctor so I'm pretty much screwed! But I have to go tonight and try to make the best impression of my life without a voice! Now I know how Ariel felt! Haha.

Wish me Luck!!!!!

Best of luck ... take some allergy medicine, drink some tea and have a wonderful time!

good luck!

So did you get a bid or not??? :)

Pref Night
 

So I get to the recruitment building at about 5:30 and everyone is just flooding the doors! I could tell that there were a lot less girls here than had been previously, to me I was thinking 'wow, I can't believe I made it this far.' I am such a 'nontraditional' student (being married is really rare and being a junior going through rush is rare as well, I only met 2 others besides myself) I walk up to my Rho Chi's (who have probably been the best part of this entire experience) and they smile and ask how I am. I had texted them earlier to tell them I had completely lost my voice and asked what to do. My voice was back a little so I assured them that I was sure I would be ok. I get my schedule and it looks like this:
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6:10 - Muffin
And that was it. My heart hit the floor. I wasn't so upset because I got Muffin, I was upset because I really thought that myself and the girls at Pie and Cake really clicked...but apparently I am a horrible judge of character? I was shaken and confused, but I had a new found place in my heart for Muffin, I mean taking me on as a junior, married, and unable to live in, I appreciated this astronomically. I really wanted to be a part of an organization, and I thought I had my ideas about which ones...but I could not deny Muffin the opportunity that they had alloted to me. I went to the party with an open mind and open heart, the same way I felt that they were approaching me. And this is what happened:
Muffin: The girl I got paired with was really cute. She did nothing but gush about how much muffin meant to her and how much it had changed her. Unfortuantely though, she did seem rather awkward, nervous, and uncomfortable. Their room was beach themed and all the girls seemed a lot more relaxed. We were nonchalantly chit chatting it up when they begin to serve us our little treats. Do you know what they served? CUPCAKES! I got way too excited and tried to explain to this poor girl how I have an inexplicible obsession with anything and everything to do with cupcakes. She thought this was really funny and also admitted that she too had a deep felt love for cupcakes. She also disclosed to me that there was a cupcake shop downtown! I probably got way too excited about this fact, but she took it all in really good stride. Their preference ceremonies were really pretty, really heart felt, and I thought very genuine. They all really seemed to have a strong connection with each other (though they do have difficulty communicating with others, maybe too dependent on the sorority?) and their bond as sisters really seems to go beyond that of greek affiliation. They sang really pretty songs and I got goosebumps.

After that I didn't have any more parties so I hung out with my Rho Chi's and waited for my husband to come pick me up so we could get something to eat.

Tomorrow is bid day. Muffin usually has cute shirts, I guess?

The other two not inviting you back does not mean you are a 'horrible judge of character"... it also does not mean that those two groups have bad character. They simply had to narrow the list and for whatever reason you didn't make the cut. It doesn't mean they didn't like you.

I don't know if you just phrased that incorrectly, or what but I thought I should clarify that for you.

Congrats on your invite to Muffin. You REALLY made me want to find a bakery for a cupcake :p

ETA: I don't go to NAU... but I feel it's a little disrespectful on your part to give off identifying "clues" about Muffin in your last post (i.e. how the room was decorated, etc). I didn't see that in either of the other two descriptions and for women who DO go to school there, it's very easy to identify which group was which and who you are, so it's disappointing that you would talk bad about them and then give off hints as to which group it is. Additionally, you never know if there are women who would like to be Muffins. That all just sounded overly negative to me. </soapbox>

I love the thread and can't wait to see what happens on bid day!

can't wait to hear how it ends up.... it only takes one pref party and one bid...

Hanging on for the news!

BID DAYYYY where are youuu? lol

Maybe it's just me, but she didn't say anything negative about the sorority as a whole, she said that the girl who began rushing her was awkward. Just because she felt this one girl was awkward and uncomfortable should not/would not reflect on the sorority as a whole. I'm sure every single one of us can pick a girl in our respective houses/chapters that was just awkward at rush. Some girls just can't rush, plain and simple. But it sounds like from the post that once dessert was served, that the conversation seemed less forced. Plus, she went on to say that the preference ceremony gave her goosebumps. And as for the "difficulty communicating", that is just her opinion.

I have read worse than the above on GC from PNM's.

disasterscookie: I thought your post was well written. I hope that everything worked out for you in the end and that you found your home!

I didn't think I said anything too negative about any of the sororities I interacted with. I was just voicing my opinion. And if girls from the group are reading it they shouldn't be offended by my 1 opinion of their chapter. The whole point of rush is them developing opinions about us and us developing opinions about them...so technically I am doing what I am supposed to do and the groups that cut me for one reason or another were doing what they were supposed to do. Form opinions, make decisions, cut or not. And that's what I did in return.

I did receive a bid from Muffin but I declined. I couldn't see myself as a Muffin, and I am not saying anything bad about them because they got 17 new members this pledge period so obviously there are other people who did see what they needed in them. I did not. I think if I would have done rush as a freshman and unmarried it would have turned out much differently. But hey everything happens for a reason :) I did however, instead of attending bid day celebrations go to the first day of rush for Omega Phi Alpha and I love it. I think I definitely found my home in this group.

Like you all told me, Greek Life isn't for everyone. I'm not being bratty insofar as saying things like "I withdrew because I didn't get the house I wanted, etc." I withdrew because I didn't feel I belonged in any of it. The more I learned about Greek Life, the more I realized it just wasn't for me. I'm married! I can't be going on date dashes and date parties...my husband would not be comfortable with that and neither would I. There were so many more reasons as to why I declined my bid. But I am glad I did, I am absolutely in love with OPhiA and their interview portions start tomorrow. If you are interested I could let you all know how that goes.

I want to thank you all for following my thread and being interested in my recruitment story. If you are dying to know my code just PM me.

Hope you all have wonderful Fall semesters, greek or not :D

YAY FOR OMEGA PHI ALPHA!!!

I'm soooo happy to hear that you may have found your home with OPA!!!

I'd like to hear how that goes....:)

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I would like to know too! YAY O PHI A!!!! :D :D

I hope things work out with Omega Phi Alpha! Good luck!

Why did you rank Muffin only to decline a bid from them the next day? Why not just drop out?

I am a firm believer of sleeping on things. So I wanted to give it a day to sink in and decide whether or not I would take the bid. I thought that night that I just might...but the next day I was sure I wouldn't. I rather be sure than cut my losses before they are a loss.

I would be happy to keep you all up to date on how things go with OPhiA. We had 3 days rush...in which we learned about the group, took part in a service project, and played sisterhood strengthening games. I really really feel at home with this group. Instead of being weirded out that I was married, they all congratulated me and demanded to see a picture of my hottie of a husband. Haha.

Tomorrow are interviews. I am sure it will go well. But I will keep you updated.

I am in love with OPhiA!

Congrats!
 

It sounds as if this is a good fit for you.... isn't that the goal? It sounds like you are happy. Congratulations. I look forward to hearing more.

YAY OPhiA!! I'd like to know how that goes for you too! Good Luck!

I can speak from experience that NAU's OPA chapter is awesome! :)

OMG!! I have been addicted to your thread since you started writing it and when I read that you got cut from pie and cake, I was thinking "I wonder if she knows about the OPhiA chapter at NAU...." I did a little happy dance in my chair when I read that you had attended their recruitment events.

Please let us know how it turns out! I know some active sisters at the NAU chapter and they are wonderful!

I have some unfortunate news, but hopefully it doesn't end badly.
The lovely ladies of Omega Phi Alpha have been completely overwhelmed this semester. Last night was interviews and they had a total of 26 girls show up! They thought that they would be able to take us all, but unfortunately we all got emails this morning asking us to let them know if we are absolutely sure about joining OPhiA, if any of us would prefer to wait until the Spring, etc. I emailed them back and let them know that I want to be an OPhiA sister as soon as possible and that I also felt that I would be a wonderful asset to the group as well as they be a wonderful asset to me. From the email, it looks like we won't know if we have received bids or not until Wednesday.
Keep your fingers crossed for me!!!

I know this is driving you nuts, but it is a FANTASTIC problem for them to have!!!

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! I'm an alumni from the OPA chapter at Arizona State, and we do district rallies with the NAU chapter. They are a great group of girls and they would be very lucky to have you!

Please let us know how it goes!

I know 26 girls isn't bad for them...but it's bad for me!!! I am pulling my hair out with anxiety! I have no patience! Ugh...I'm praying :)

Hang in there, DC. Try not to think about it. Go out for a run to release all of that energy.

BID!
 

I got my bid!!! Bid day excitement and celebration takes place on Wednesday then initiation on Sunday! Wooooooo!!!!

Say Hello to the Pi pledge class of the Alpha Alpha Chapter of Omega Phi Alpha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:):):):):)