*christiangirl sits in the corner sharpening knives and humming "He's Mine" by Mokenstef*

just kidding...of course

ok i have to give CG points on breaking out Mokenstef. kudos.

-tld221
--plays it on her iPod when she pours one out for the mid-90s

I never said you had to have ANY sexual partners to know (or be able to learn) how to please your mate. I'm just amused that the "how many" question is still asked and that there are people (usually men, since women know that sexual promiscuity is accepted from men) who formulate how many partners it's okay for their partner to have had.

I've known women, who have only had 1 sexual partner, refuse to answer such a question from their mate. Simply because the "how many" question was created to perpetuate a gendered double standard. :)

So you've been burned before, at least figuratively.

That's the reason many people waste time conceptualizing such requirements for their mate's past. :) The rest of the people who waste time on that are usually whores who want to redeem themselves through their mate's chastity.

I've been wondering the exact same thing.......

Can't necessarily judge a man or woman by the number of partners they've had. I'd look more for clues like numbers on bathroom walls, the number of persons in the room who snicker when you announce you are dating this person, etc.

That's what I've learned anyway. I've dated several people. Except for one, there was no corolation between # of partners and how they treated me. And the one was a man-ho, but as it was dating, not bf/gf, I let it go. He was cute. ;)

And because I spent a lot of time hanging with the guys, I knew which girls caused the collective snicker...ironically I knew some who had been around the block twice as many times...but were discrete...and still dateable.

Yeah, I couldn't remember my password so when I clicked "forgot password", it never sent it back to my e-mail. So, I tried to go back on as a new KAY 10 with a different password but it wouldn't let me, it said "already exist". I thought I couldn't get back on GC because I have the same e-mail, (the reason for the long absence). The GCer who told me about this site said I could under another user name. PrettyBoy is what I originally wanted to choose, but I liked KAY 10 better. I didn't know I could do this, otherwise I would have earlier. My password eventually came back to me, but I was already using PrettyBoy, so I kept it, and no longer use KAY10

O.K. I'm not very computer literate. You guys are detailed though.:)

I don't know why I keep ending up around the same types of men. Pheromones? I need a new scent.

:eek: LOL. I just woke up and I didn't think I was going to get up to this. OMG I'm laughing soooooo hard. PB, are you Bi-Polar? You didn't tell me this.

christiangirl I don't know what a Mokenstef is but I'll make a deal with you. You can have KAY10 and I'll take PrettyBoy.:p LOL.

PB check your v-mail. I just left you three of them. One for you, one for PrettyBoy and the other one is for KAY10. LOL. Awwww man, does anyone have any Advil, I have a headache now from laughing so hard.:( I need some kleenex too.:p :p :p :p :p :p

It's something about you. Until you fix whatever it is, it could be the places you frequent or a vibe you give off, it's a good thing that you've been abstaining and single.

Same to you.

DSTCHAOS, that's funny how you pegged that because my brother already told me what it is. He said that since I'm very quiet and reserved, the more outgoing women are going to approach me. He said they've been with the wild guys. He said that after a while they get tired of that, so they eventually want a more reserved guy who doesn't hang out at the clubs and places like that. He said the more reserved women want to approach me, but since they're reserved like me then we don't approach each other, and those are the ones I'm interested in. I don't like the loud, fast women.

The only places I go are to the book store, work, and school, so I don't understand why I'm attracting the wrong kind of women. Actually I'm getting tired of it. Maybe I should start wearing my fraternity ring on my left finger.:rolleyes:

To be honest with you, the women I know and I would probably find you very boring. :p

Not because we're loud and fast but because we like jokes and charismatic personalities--men who aren't loud but can light up a room even in their silence. Being quiet and reserved may not show your true personality. First impressions can determine whether a woman wants to give you her number and so forth. Also the book store, work, and school regiment is something for old professors to do. :) Those of us who are young professionals want some spice when we're "off the clock." That doesn't mean you have to be running the streets or having sex, but don't think you have to live the life of a monk, either. I don't know how old you are but I imagine you're a few years younger than I am. So if I find your routine BLAH then that says something. ;)

Your brother's assessment may be accurate. Other possibilities are that you just have limited interactions with women due to your routine. That's basic probability statistics--if you are set to only meet 3 women per month, they are likely to not be what you're looking for and those negative encounters will stick out because you haven't had more positives encounters. Lastly, the women you encounter (the quiet ones, the louder ones, or whatever) may label your quiet reservation for insecurity or being an antisocial cornball.

If you're reserved then I really don't hear it when I'm talking to you on the phone. Maybe when I see you, it could all change.:rolleyes: I think you're very funny and you make me laugh so hard.:p You and your jokes.:rolleyes: I know about your last relationship and I think you're just attracting the wrong women that's all. Personally, I think the person you choose to get involved with on a serious level will cause 90% of your happiness or 90% of your pain. Like the last person you were with did. You sounded miserable to me. I'm surprised you stayed in it as long as you did.

One of the biggest things I look for in a guy is that he can be himself no matter what I think of him. Maybe I like him, maybe I don't but if a guy isn't himself then what's the point of going out with him. This is the problem I have. Guys are never themselves around me. They're too busy trying to impress me. I think DSTCHAOS is right. A guy can light up a room without saying a word. Based on you're personality I get that from you, but not all women are the same.

I have to agree with your brother. I'm very outgoing. I guess I can be considered a former party girl, and I like you a lot just based on our phone conversations. I can talk to you fo-eva!:p We never run out of things to talk about. I've never met you in person YET, but I already feel like you're a really good friend. You're a really cool guy PB. The wild guys, I'm not into so I think your brother hit this one on the nose. If you get bored call me, I have to tell you something funny.:)

One more thing. PB whatever you do, don't give up on relationships. It's no fun being alone.:( There are some good women out there that would love to be with a guy like you. The bookstore, work and school? LOL. Hey, some women would love this, because they would know you could only be at one of three places.:p

DYING. DY. ING. In fact, I think I did die and my ghost called 911 for me.:)

the turn this thread took killed me a couple of posts ago.....:confused:

You mean the "Dear Abby"-ish turn?

I'm pretty sure Cheerfulgreek is just trying to see if Prettyboy has a big penis or not.

Scaaaaaaary......

Thanks for the kind remarks.

I got your picture you e-mailed me. Hey you cheated. I thought we weren't going to send pictures? Well I don't have any recent pictures of me, so you'll just have to wait for the real me.:)

I did picture you to be attractive based on how your voice sounds but, I didn't know you looked like that. Is that a recent picture. You're a very attractive woman. :D

Nope. We're engaging women with great personalities. :)

I love Borders too but my routine isn't just school, work, and bookstores. ;)

Or maybe you're repressing your personality. ;) Cheerfulgreek said you're not boring and you're funny. Is that not something you give to some people as a first impression? :(

This is where the PM option is grrrrrrrrrreat.

I'm glad somebody said it...*sharpen, sharpen*

Most people open up when they get to know the person but I didn't think that's what you were initially saying. I thought you were saying you were basically mute until you got to know someone. Is that what you're saying?

We have different routines and I've never had a problem finding the right person to spend my life with. ;) Try something new.

Is that much worse than the whole world reading your on-line "dating" attempt?

I never said they wern't drawn to me. I don't have a problem there. The wrong ones are drawn to me, but that comes from being very picky. Yup, I'm mute/quiet until I see if the girl is worth my time. I observe 1st then I open up. If we don't have anything in common then what's the point?

We have different routines and diffenernt taste too. You're probably not as picky as me. ;)

See my edit.

That depends on what things you can observe without talking to a person.

You don't know what my tastes are. All you know is that I date men and you date women.

If your criteria are silly and ridiculous, then you're right. But if your criteria are reasonable then you're probably wrong. Don't present yourself as too much of an unattainable prize. ;)

Yeah, don't take everything so literally.

LOL, not to be a total smartalic, but how many have you found? :) :o

How many have you?

None, which is why I remain CG:o. Relax, it was just a funny sounding sentence, like life partners are in great supply or something. Just had a little titter, that's all.

I'm usually relaxed.

Potential dates are in great supply for some of us. Where you take your dates from there is up to you.

You quoted me saying "life partners" so why even ask if I was talking about "sex partners" or "potential dates"? :confused: You said something that I thought sounded funny even though you didn't mean it to be, so I poked a little at it. No biggie.