In my particular chapter, almost every alum member was in the same collegiate chapter, most know each other or were in the chapter at the same time together, or have advised for years etc. And of course all of that is a connection I don't share.

I know not all chapters have the same type of recruitment. My feeling was more along the line of collegiate members who have dealt with the stress of recruiting new members. Also while specific drama will depend on the chapter I feel nearly all chapters across the board deal with similar types of drama that non-sorority members don't deal with while collegians.

Hawaii is like that as well, being the only NPC on campus.

Auburn, Berkeley, 'Bama, UCLA, Illinois, Oregon State, Michigan State -- just some of the campuses represented by our alumnae, and obviously different collegiate environments than the one I went through.

We also have a big group of AIs initiated when my chapter was installed in 1992.

So yes, not everyone goes through the same collegiate experience.

I see. For my alumnae chapter, of all the women who are VERY involved, there are women from Alpha Eta (Dal/Halifax-area schools), Delta Nu (U of Calgary), Zeta Chi (Western). Of course, there are many Tau alumnae too. But it seems that many of the women who're really involved are NOT from Tau.

It is up to the moderators to determine what violates a TOS violation. It is a waste of everyone's time to argue over who is more in violation than someone else. From where I sit, all of you need to find something better to do with your time, like keeping the discussion on topic.

Right or wrong, like it or not.. free speech does not apply to internet message boards. The owner of the board makes the rules and enforces them or appoints deputies who are charged with enforcing them. Think of it as being a guest in John's living room. If he doesn't like your behavior, he can ask you to stop, and he can make you leave his house.

Even if an internet chat board was a democracy, in the U.S, at least, there are still rules governing "libel." Infact, people have successfully sued for libel on the internet.

http://www.wave.net/immigration/lawyer/libel.html

Here are more recent cases:

http://www.phillipsnizer.com/library...mation_cda.cfm

If a moderator deleted the post, then it was deemed legitmate. For the record, I don't delete every reported post, sometimes I edit them or request the original poster to do so.

I recommend everyone take a break and review the TOS for the Recruitment Forums:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/announcement.php?f=27

I'm thinking of what it might be like
 

I'm trying to stay on topic for once.

Differences in college experience are quite pronounced, and that's why Scarleteriberry's situation is complicated, and why I suppose she's asking for advice here.

At Georgia State, for example, the average age of undergraduates is older than many colleges. It has a large non-traditional student population. I don't know if this is reflected in the area of Greek Life or not.

If it is, and many of the undergraduate members are in fact older than those at more traditional campuses, I can see how a young graduate school student could fit in completely in the chapter. The Greek Life office and the undergraduate chapters are going to best understand their policies.

But if the members of the active chapter encouraged you to do AI, I think that's a great direction to go in. You can work with a young alumnae group.

I understand that with AI you do a lot of waiting and seeing, but perhaps if you stay in contact with the active undergraduate chapter, you can stay more in the loop.

As far as having too many AI in an alumnae chapter, isn't it really the ideals of the group that need to be shared at that age anyway? Who cares if you shared the same undergraduate experience or not when your 35 as long as you're interested in supporting the philanthropy and living out the creed, purpose, symphony, etc?

Actually, free speech does apply to internet message boards. Obviously you haven't checked the Bill of Rights lately. Yes, TOS does prohibit racist, obscene etc. messages, but nothing you're complaining about can be considered a violation of TOS. Plus those sorts of posts are not protected by the first amendment.
Here, let me help you out with a handy dandy link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_A...s_Constitution

As for libel-libel is a civil suit, extremely difficult to prove and many cases are usually dismissed. Anything said here is opinion, and for that reason alone you cannot take anyone down for libel. It's been done, but it's so hard to do it's basically impossible unless you have an extremely strong case.
Sorry to burst your bubble.

Um, maybe you want to re-think that
 

As I understand it, people can be banned from Greek Chat; it's not an entirely public forum. It's also not an agent of any form of government. SO, restricting your speech on Greek Chat is not a Constitutional issue.

You aren't entitled to use someone else's platform to express your opinion. (and, those sort of offensive posts that you mention, ARE protected by the Constitution, except for some rare exceptions like "fighting words," "imminent threat," etc. Congress can make no law that abridges your right to say racist or sexist things, but that still doesn't mean you get to do it on Greek Chat)

You also may want to check your understanding of libel. Qualifying something as your opinion wouldn't be a solid defense.

Anyhoo, what the point of posting answers that, in addition to being unhelpful (as, I confess, many of mine are), are insulting to the person asking for help?

I'll be more direct this time - cut out the name calling, legalese, etc. If you want to debate points of law, TOS or anything else, do so via PM or in the Chit Chat forum. This is NOT a topic for the Recruitment forum.