I think this is exactly what I said!

I'm crossing my fingers for you and Amber!!

Wishing you all the best with Amber!

I have a special feeling for UK as I was born in KY. I hope you get your top choice!

asking PNMs where else they were going..
 

Maybe it was just my school, but we were instructed to not ask "what other parties will you be going to today" type questions for several reasons.

The main one obviously being that if a PNM only got invited to a handful of parties and didn't have a full schedule, she might be feeling bummed about being rejected from the other houses she may have been interested in.

Like someone mentioned, for a lot of women, being cut at rush may be the first taste of "rejection" these women have to go through, so even though it may very well turn out to be a blessing in the end, there is still the possibility they are upset that they don't have a full party schedule like some of the other pnms may have, or maybe they got cut from a house that was their favorite up until that point.

Anyhow, I'm sending you the very very best wishes CW!!!

I am in no way advocating lying, but I also want to point out that the chapters have virtually zero contact with one another during recruitment outside of submitting disks (or whatever they're submitting these days to get invite lists). This isn't a hard and fast silence rule that I am aware of, but they're far too busy (or in many cases don't have the relationships) to ask about specific PNMs and invite lists amid the other chapters.

If anyone asked another PNM point-blank what other sororities she was visiting, that would be pretty uncomfortable! I think a smart PNM who wants to be invited back would smile brightly answer, "Oh you know ---I don't think that's important! I'm standing in the only one that matters!"

I would think responding somewhere along those lines the sorority woman would be flattered and a PNM could change the subject by asking her hostess what she loves most about her sorority, her favorite sorority experience/tradition, etc.

While I'm all for answering this type of question in a positive way, I think the real challenge is finding an answer that doesn't sound like the PNM is blowing sunshine up the rusher's butt. Some of the responses suggested would have rubbed me the wrong way. (I'm not trying to pick on adpiucf - her response was simply the most recent.) Of course, it's often difficult to get the right inflection when you're reading such lines as opposed to actually hearing them.

When I rushed, our Rho Chis advised us to be pretty up front at the beginning of the parties regarding our excitement level (only if we were super excited about the house, of course). That way, the rusher never had to ask questions like, "What other houses have you visited today?" in order to mentally rank where the house stands with the PNM.

Good luck CW - I hope you really click during Amber's pref party!

No offense taken. I was never asked the "Where else are you visiting today?" question, but I could see it happening. No matter how much training and practice, there are some rushers who totally (for lack of a better word) suck at conversation and may ask an inappropriate question out of nervousness (or general stupidity).

Or say something incredibly dumb. I again reference the sorority woman who introduced herself to a PNM at a party as, "Hi! I'm Bree. You know-- like the cheese?" ;) True story!

...Like the cheese? Wow, she sounds great.

Every group has women who are more skilled at rush than others, but some women are so off the mark it's crazy. When I rushed, at one of the parties a couple of the members were talking about how you never see cows in the process of lying down - you always see them either standing or lying. Another member overheard, interrupted our conversation, and said, "I've seen it! This is how they do it..." then proceeded to demonstrate how cows lie down. That was a fun day. :D

Sadly, I just found out that I didn't recieve an invite back to pref. :(. I'm still considering COR. Thank you all for your support.

Please do. It's a way for the groups to get a better look at you, in a less competitive enviroment.:)

Sweetie -

I'm really sorry and can imagine your disappointment. Hold your head high. With COR, COB, or Snap Bidding, you never know what might happen.

CW-- I'm sorry it didn't work out. It's totally ok to be bummed and we're sending hugs your way. This also calls for a chocolate sundae and some retail therapy!!!!

Don't be a stranger, friend. Please keep us posted on your college news/sorority persuits if you go to post-recruitment events. We're all rooting for your happiness!!!

I'm really sorry. Sometimes it happens, but that doesn't make it suck any less. You went in with a good attitude, though, and I'm glad you're still considering COR...there are usually several chapters participating in COR every year, so don't give up. You might also be eligible for a snap bid...someone correct me if I'm wrong?

Definitely keep your options open & consider COR after formal recruitment is over! You'll definitely find chapters participating & you'll probably like the atmosphere a lot better too.

Do COB. :) That is where we got some of our best girls.:cool: Also many may suicide :eek: after prefs and leave a lot of open spots. Good luck & keep us posted.

So Im kinda confused on COR, is it that you participate with all of the chapters that are eligable or is it focused on one house for each girl?

COB/CR/COR/Informal recruitment events are held as events individual to each sorority. To solicit your interest, contact the office of Greek Life (or if you have friends in the chapters, let your friends know of your interest). Sometimes some chapters hold open house events for anyone to come to COR. Likely each sorority holding these events will have your name on a list of unmatched women from formal recruitment. It is up to them if they will invite you to an event. You can go to events for as many sororities as are invited to, or decline invitations that you are not interested in.

You only go to the COR events for the chapters that YOU want to. If you want to go to Beta Kappa Upsilon and Sigma Rho Alpha, those are the events you watch for. Usually sororities advertise via fliers, school newspaper ads, chalk on the sidewalk...etc...

You may get phone calls from the recruitment chariperson from chapters or see signs posted around campus. You can also call the greek life office and ask them when COR will be taking place and who will be participating. They may not have the information until a couple days after bid day.

From the University of Kentucky Panhellenic Association
 

Continuous Open Recruitment (COR) - (Formally called COB)

"Open Recruitment begins after the conclusion of Sorority Membership Recruitment Week and continues throughout the academic year. Open Recruitment is recommended for anyone who chooses not to participate in Membership Recruitment Week or did not receive a bid during the week. It offers women the opportunity to participate in sorority life and join a sorority through an informal process. Membership recruitment activities might include pizza parties, bowling outings and TV nights. Participating sororities will contact you by phone, letter, or personal visit to invite you to attend their membership activities.

You can register for COR in 575 Patterson Office Tower or by clicking here."

For more information: 859.257.3151

And for what it is worth, if you do consider COR, in my humble and completely unbiased opinion, all chapters at UK are great.

Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Thank you all, I just registered for COR, I will be sure to keep you all updated!

Yay! Good luck :)

Yay!!! I think that was a really good decision! :)

Good Luck with COR and keep up your positive outlook! I'll be sure to keep you in my thoughts!

Hey I'm about to pm you Curious!

COR is a very good choice. Keep us posted.:)

I joined through COB after I had to drop out of rush, and I thought it was really great-you know that they are all really interested in YOU!

I don't want to say too much, but this is a GREAT year for COR at UK. GOOD LUCK!

Well, there are usually several chapters doing COR after rush, so if this is a typical year, then you'll have a few to look at.

good luck with your cob experience!

CuriousWildcat, I've sent you a PM.

Please stay positive and go through COR.

Back when I rushed, I found COR to be a much better fit for me. More personal, I guess. Good luck!

note: just this last year, it was very clearly noted in the panhel recruitment rules that you are NOT to EVER ask a PNM what other house(s) she is going to, what she thought of them, etc. A huge no-no and could result in stiff penalties. That was the policy at Minnesota, anyway. I know many larger greek schools do things quite differently sometimes, though.

And in regards to COB, I was pretty sure that I did NOT want to go through formal recruitment, so I joined through COB, and later was COB chair for my chapter. :D In my opinion it is not only less-stressful, but you can be more personal with your potential sisters, conversations are less forced, and you can talk about more topics (that were taboo during formal, etc)- in other words, just get a better feel for the sisters and chapters.

CuriousWildcat, I am really impressed with how well you did during formal recruitment and your great attitude!
Enjoy your school year and GOOD LUCK with COB!

And let me say this, COB is about getting to know the real YOU more.

Good luck to you in COB! I hope you find your home.

CuriousWildcat, I'm sorry you didn't have a full week of rush, but I'm excited to hear you'll be looking into COR! Those events are a lot more relaxed and you'll get to know folks better during those. Good luck and keep us updated!

what is this COR thing?


also, as this is essentially all lexington people, i really hope none of you were affected by flight 5191.

COR = informal recruitment

Thanks... I wasn't directly effected and hope that you aren't either... but my thoughts and prayers are with the families of flight 5191. How sad to be married for less than 12 hours...