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DSTCHAOS 10-28-2006 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1347394)
LOL. O.K. AKA_Monet. Here's the deal. I'm not saying I'm a pretty boy. I'm just saying what women have always told me. It goes all the way back to the 1st time I went to a Kappa interest meeting. On that day most of the frats had their interest meetings at the same time, so when everyone left the interest meetings, women would be outside to see who was coming out, and they would say to me "Oh we know what you're pledging. Pretty Boy!" After the interest meeting even the Nupes made comments about me as I was leaving. I've been told this so often that I just said hey, why not go with the flow. Now as far as my picture is concerned, I wouldn't put it on the net especially directed toward a married woman. I'm single because I don't hang out. I study and work too much. When would I have time to meet a nice young lady?


Guffaw! :rolleyes: :p :cool:

DSTCHAOS 10-28-2006 10:10 AM

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Originally Posted by delph998 (Post 1347418)
I like giving you a hard time. :D


He doesn't make it hard to.

PrettyBoy 10-28-2006 11:38 PM

LOL. DSTCHAOS and delph998 you two are somethin' else. ;) I really do have a busy schedule.

RedAngel 10-29-2006 07:28 PM

I think men and women can be truly just friends.
I have a few male friends that are just that.

AKA_Monet 11-02-2006 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1347394)
LOL. O.K. AKA_Monet. Here's the deal. I'm not saying I'm a pretty boy. I'm just saying what women have always told me. It goes all the way back to the 1st time I went to a Kappa interest meeting. On that day most of the frats had their interest meetings at the same time, so when everyone left the interest meetings, women would be outside to see who was coming out, and they would say to me "Oh we know what you're pledging. Pretty Boy!" After the interest meeting even the Nupes made comments about me as I was leaving. I've been told this so often that I just said hey, why not go with the flow. Now as far as my picture is concerned, I wouldn't put it on the net especially directed toward a married woman. I'm single because I don't hang out. I study and work too much. When would I have time to meet a nice young lady?

There is always room to meet someone when you want to... ;)

And... What do you "study" and "work" too much (at/for)?

Your little comments... You ain't gonna meet "nice young ladies"... That will be a little tough for you... ;)

delph998 11-03-2006 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by RedAngel (Post 1347869)
I think men and women can be truly just friends.
I have a few male friends that are just that.

Question: On both ends is there absolutely no chemistry? I'm just curious; not doubting what you say. :)

BellaSF 11-04-2006 12:41 PM

It depends...
 
I believe that men and women can be friends in certain circumstances. After great thought about this subject I realized that I dated most of my male friends. In fact, last year I was dating a friend and he told me that he had feelings for another female which also happened to be a friend. We vowed to remain friends. And we have...but we still go on dates, flirt and all that stuff. We just don't admit that we have feelings for one another.

PrettyBoy 11-07-2006 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1350649)
There is always room to meet someone when you want to... ;)

And... What do you "study" and "work" too much (at/for)?

Your little comments... You ain't gonna meet "nice young ladies"... That will be a little tough for you... ;)

I'm in school for industrial design. I work midnights so I can go to class during the day. The little time I have left (when I'm not in Bible study) I sleep. I never have time to meet nice women.

DSTCHAOS 11-07-2006 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1353447)
I'm in school for industrial design. I work midnights so I can go to class during the day. The little time I have left (when I'm not in Bible study) I sleep. I never have time to meet nice women.

You better be lucky you're a Kappa and your name is PrettyBoy. When I read this post an image of a recluse(sp) like Norman Bates popped in my head.

PrettyBoy 11-07-2006 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1353451)
You better be lucky you're a Kappa and your name is PrettyBoy. When I read this post an image of a recluse(sp) like Norman Bates popped in my head.

You lost me with this post.:confused:

DSTCHAOS 11-08-2006 12:35 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1353465)
You lost me with this post.:confused:

The idea of you working all the time, only taking a break to go to Bible study and sleep, and not having time to meet nice women. Makes you sound like a loner with a hairy back. Maybe even a man who wears women's underwear and dances around his bedroom.

But we all know that a Kappa named PrettyBoy couldn't be a loner with a hairy back who wears women's underwear.......I guess.

PrettyBoy 11-08-2006 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1353533)
The idea of you working all the time, only taking a break to go to Bible study and sleep, and not having time to meet nice women. Makes you sound like a loner with a hairy back. Maybe even a man who wears women's underwear and dances around his bedroom.

But we all know that a Kappa named PrettyBoy couldn't be a loner with a hairy back who wears women's underwear.......I guess.

LMAO:D . No, I don't have a hairy back and I don't dance around in my bedroom with womens underwear on. I'm hardly ever at home to do any dancing in my bedroom at all.:) When I do get a little time, occasionally I do twirl my kane in my bedroom though.:p

DSTCHAOS 11-09-2006 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1354167)
When I do get a little time, occasionally I do twirl my kane in my bedroom though.:p


:(:(
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PrettyBoy 11-11-2006 02:37 AM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1354574)
:(:(
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:o Sometimes I get bored. Gotta keep my kane skills though.:)

delph998 11-11-2006 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1355807)
:o Sometimes I get bored. Gotta keep my kane skills though.:)


WOW.

PrettyBoy 11-12-2006 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by delph998 (Post 1355854)
WOW.

Do you ladies want to see a clip of me twirling my kane?

DSTCHAOS 11-12-2006 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1356071)
Do you ladies want to see a clip of me twirling my kane?

No.................

neosoul 11-12-2006 06:20 PM

are you twirling your kane or jerking your mutton? all this sexual innnuendo is making my head hurt...

DSTCHAOS 11-12-2006 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by neosoul (Post 1356237)
are you twirling your kane or jerking your mutton? all this sexual innnuendo is making my head hurt...

I really tried to pretend it was all very literal. LOL.

Dionysus 11-12-2006 07:56 PM

My head is in the gutter and I usually pick up on SI "like that" *snaps*. I had no idea he was talking about having sessions alone. I was like why would he practice twirling his cane in his bedroom. He could break something. :o He would have better luck twirling his cane out in the front yard. :p

DSTCHAOS 11-12-2006 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Dionysus (Post 1356259)
My head is in the gutter and I usually pick up on SI "like that" *snaps*. I had no idea he was talking about having sessions alone. I was like why would he practice twirling his cane in his bedroom. He could break something. :o He would have better luck twirling his cane out in the front yard. :p

I think he was really and literally talking about twirling his cane. Kappas practice dropping their canes in all sorts of places. :)

If he was talking about a different kind of twirling, I don't believe he would admit to solo twirling.

AKA_Monet 11-12-2006 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1353447)
I'm in school for industrial design. I work midnights so I can go to class during the day. The little time I have left (when I'm not in Bible study) I sleep. I never have time to meet nice women.

Like my Ph.D. professor said: "Sleep?!? Sleep?!? You can sleep when your dead!!!"

I know it can be done, but how do you even have the focus to goto school, work until midnight to go to class during the day? And still have the GPA to graduate? Just asking?

Oh, so now you're being the "church marm"... Telling us you found "Jesus" but say you "give your cane a twirl"... O.K.

I see why you fail to meet NICE women... ;)

PrettyBoy 11-12-2006 11:59 PM

All this because I like twirling my kane? LOL. It just hit me how that sounded when I asked if you ladies wanted to see me twirl my kane. LOL. That's not what I meant. But that tells me where your minds are. DSTCHAOS is the only one who's mind seems to be clean. That's pretty gross. I was just kidding about the video clip. I would never put my picture on the net.:p .

PrettyBoy 11-13-2006 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1356278)
Like my Ph.D. professor said: "Sleep?!? Sleep?!? You can sleep when your dead!!!"

I know it can be done, but how do you even have the focus to goto school, work until midnight to go to class during the day? And still have the GPA to graduate? Just asking?

Oh, so now you're being the "church marm"... Telling us you found "Jesus" but say you "give your cane a twirl"... O.K.

I see why you fail to meet NICE women... ;)

I already have a college degree, so I'm just focused on building a great portfolio. I work two jobs to pay for it. I don't like taking out loans. What's wrong with twirling my kane? I can still go to church and occasionally do that when I'm bored:p .

I meet nice women all the time, but I'm not physically attracted to most of the ones I meet. That's the way I should have put it. I do have a friend who's also on greekchat. She's the one who told me told me about this site.

PrettyBoy 11-13-2006 12:17 AM

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Originally Posted by neosoul (Post 1356237)
are you twirling your kane or jerking your mutton? all this sexual innnuendo is making my head hurt...

You've got issues. How do you get sex out of twirling a kane? :confused:

Dionysus 11-13-2006 12:38 AM

A cane is long and hard and able to manipulate.

A penis can be long and hard and able to manipulate. :o

You also said you did this in your bedroom.

PrettyBoy 11-13-2006 12:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Dionysus (Post 1356354)
A cane is long and hard and able to manipulate.

A penis can be long and hard and able to manipulate. :o

You also said you did this in your bedroom.

My stereo is in my bedroom. Again...not what I meant. But I see where your mind is. :o

AKA_Monet 11-13-2006 12:55 AM

Hunny, you don't know where it's at...
 
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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1356345)
I already have a college degree, so I'm just focused on building a great portfolio. I work two jobs to pay for it. I don't like taking out loans. What's wrong with twirling my kane? I can still go to church and occasionally do that when I'm bored:p .

I meet nice women all the time, but I'm not physically attracted to the ones I meet. That's the way I should have put it. I do have a friend who's also on greekchat. She's the one who told me told me about this site.

Sweetie, a note of caution, there are plenty of women here that have flying hormones... Spell that as "biological clock" or "time bombs"...

I am sorry, but what you are saying is rather seductive to women whose minds tend to wander...

Don't be angry by it, just be amused or amazed by it...

You may be one of the few men that can hold a decent conversation, be interested in women and have a lot going for himself.

And you can "twirl a kane in your bedroom"...

Now, even an old married lady like me has to admit that is quite enticing...

As far as nice ladies, I am sure you meet them. And I can imagine why you have not met one that physically attracts you... Your interest my not be trying to find an inner core that is the definition of plenty of women's attractiveness and physicality. Unless your recruitment is that jacked up...

If you get to know some of these nice women, believe me, there will be more that you are capable of doing besides "twirling a kane in the bedroom"... ;)

PrettyBoy 11-13-2006 01:06 AM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1356372)
Sweetie, a note of caution, there are plenty of women here that have flying hormones... Spell that as "biological clock" or "time bombs"...

I am sorry, but what you are saying is rather seductive to women whose minds tend to wander...

Don't be angry by it, just be amused or amazed by it...

You may be one of the few men that can hold a decent conversation, be interested in women and have a lot going for himself.

And you can "twirl a kane in your bedroom"...

Now, even an old married lady like me has to admit that is quite enticing...

As far as nice ladies, I am sure you meet them. And I can imagine why you have not met one that physically attracts you... Your interest my not be trying to find an inner core that is the definition of plenty of women's attractiveness and physicality. Unless your recruitment is that jacked up...

If you get to know some of these nice women, believe me, there will be more that you are capable of doing besides "twirling a kane in the bedroom"... ;)

I'm not angry. It is rather amusing, silly but amusing. But that's the way it is. A lot of women think like this now a days. I like inner and outer beauty. I'd rather be alone than to be with a woman I'm not physically attracted to. But the ones that I have met are good friends and I do know these women. As far as kane twirling, it's just fun to me.

AKA_Monet 11-13-2006 02:40 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1356376)
I'm not angry. It is rather amusing, silly but amusing. But that's the way it is. A lot of women think like this now a days. I like inner and outer beauty. I'd rather be alone than to be with a woman I'm not physically attracted to. But the ones that I have met are good friends and I do know these women. As far as kane twirling, it's just fun to me.

My issue is physical attraction can mean different things to different people... Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder...

Meaning what one finds attractive in one person is unattractive in another...

And like I was brought up to believe, "pretty is as pretty does"...

For instance, you may find some supermodel extremely attractive, but is a mindless brain fart tard.

But a girl you would fail to give the time of day is extremely intelligent, with some clean up, she could be an extremely attractive catch...

I find that many ladies would discount themselves from relationships may have negative attitudes about relational approaches. They blow it with unattractive conversation or aggressiveness in other ways.

So, it really depends on what are you attracted to...

Is your physical attraction purely a body one? Or a stereotypical male image of what a woman ought to look like?

Just asking.

PrettyBoy 11-13-2006 03:17 AM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1356392)
My issue is physical attraction can mean different things to different people... Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder...

Meaning what one finds attractive in one person is unattractive in another...

And like I was brought up to believe, "pretty is as pretty does"...

For instance, you may find some supermodel extremely attractive, but is a mindless brain fart tard.

But a girl you would fail to give the time of day is extremely intelligent, with some clean up, she could be an extremely attractive catch...

I find that many ladies would discount themselves from relationships may have negative attitudes about relational approaches. They blow it with unattractive conversation or aggressiveness in other ways.

So, it really depends on what are you attracted to...

Is your physical attraction purely a body one? Or a stereotypical male image of what a woman ought to look like?

Just asking.

AKA_Monet you make some great points. I see you have a clean mind, I can have an intelligent conversation with you, unlike some of the ladies on GC...if you know what I mean. "The whole kane thing.:rolleyes: " But anyway, I agree with you when you say there are some attractive women that are very shallow, and there are some that are very intelligent that are not so attractive, but could use a little fixing up, but I wouldn't want to be with either one of them. I would rather be by myself, though I would never throw away a friend, no matter what she looked like.

I'm attracted to a lot of things in women. My ideal mate is very difficult to find, though I'm sure there are some out there. I'm interested in women that are not only attractive to me, but have different hobbies, can talk about world events and current world issues. Not saying she has to know everything that goes on in the world, b/c I don't know everything, but I have to be able to have a conversation with her about some of the issues. The whole body thing? I have my preferences, just like any other man, but for the most part my ideal mate is very, very different from what I've been exposed to. Times have changed, but some women have not, they're just really hard to find, not that I'm looking, I just haven't run into the woman that I would be compatible with.

DSTCHAOS 11-13-2006 12:56 PM

PrettyBoy, stop following the white rabbit down the hole. ;) How did this become PrettyBoy's PsychoAnalytical thread?

delph998 11-13-2006 04:15 PM

How did I miss all of this?! LOL!

PrettyBoy 11-15-2006 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1356517)
PrettyBoy, stop following the white rabbit down the hole. ;) How did this become PrettyBoy's PsychoAnalytical thread?

LMAO. You are too funny.:p

squirrely girl 11-16-2006 03:39 PM

i'd have to go with a no on this concept - if only from personal experience guy friends (who aren't gay) generally turn into one of the two people wanting some.

and if you started as a fling and the sex was good - you're screwed out of having a true friendship afterwards because at least one of those people is going to want some more.

PrettyBoy 11-17-2006 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by squirrely girl (Post 1358505)
i'd have to go with a no on this concept - if only from personal experience guy friends (who aren't gay) generally turn into one of the two people wanting some.

and if you started as a fling and the sex was good - you're screwed out of having a true friendship afterwards because at least one of those people is going to want some more.

I can't agree with you more:p . I think it also causes problems in relationships. Like if I was with a girl who had several male friends or if I had several female friends, while involved in a serious relationship. That to me just causes so many problems.

teena 11-18-2006 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1356395)
I'm attracted to a lot of things in women. My ideal mate is very difficult to find, though I'm sure there are some out there. I'm interested in women that are not only attractive to me, but have different hobbies, can talk about world events and current world issues. Not saying she has to know everything that goes on in the world, b/c I don't know everything, but I have to be able to have a conversation with her about some of the issues. The whole body thing? I have my preferences, just like any other man, but for the most part my ideal mate is very, very different from what I've been exposed to. Times have changed, but some women have not, they're just really hard to find, not that I'm looking, I just haven't run into the woman that I would be compatible with.

I have found that when men say that they are unable to find what they are looking for in a woman- they have been the first ones to knock over good women to get to sleezy gold diggers. I hope that doesnt describe you.

Back on topic, i think that men and women can be friends- but it is very rare.

DSTCHAOS 11-18-2006 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by teena (Post 1359810)
I have found that when men say that they are unable to find what they are looking for in a woman- they have been the first ones to knock over good women to get to sleezy gold diggers. I hope that doesnt describe you.

Back on topic, i think that men and women can be friends- but it is very rare.

Same applies to women who claim there aren't any good men.

There are plenty of good men out here but unless you're a good woman the two of you will keep evading each other.

PrettyBoy 11-23-2006 12:55 AM

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Originally Posted by teena (Post 1359810)
I have found that when men say that they are unable to find what they are looking for in a woman- they have been the first ones to knock over good women to get to sleezy gold diggers. I hope that doesnt describe you.

Back on topic, i think that men and women can be friends- but it is very rare.

I'm not sure. It could. I have had nice women approach me, but I wasn't physically attracted to them. The women that I have been in serious relationships with were a little too fast for me. My X was a gold digger. I learned the hard way with that one. Now I look at family background. That's priority number one. If her family background is similar to mine, and I find her physically attractive with a good head on her shoulders, then I could see getting involved with a woman like that. The women that I've been involved with and the ones that I keep running into have family backgrounds that are opposite of mine. With that I know I'm not compatible with women like that.

PrettyBoy 11-23-2006 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1359816)
Same applies to women who claim there aren't any good men.

There are plenty of good men out here but unless you're a good woman the two of you will keep evading each other.

I agree with you all the way.


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