I'm confused as to which part of my rush could even be taken as a lie or exaggeration. I didn't say they showered me with roses and threw me a party. I said they took me into a room and handed me a bid. How outlandish is that?

I sent you a PM.

I'd rather not discuss it here because Miss Moderator will get mad if I don't "PLAY NICE". :)

Good for you Christi! Don't let anyone spoil your special memories and welcome into Phi Mu.

Hi Christi:

Thanks for sharing your story about your bid night. I love hearing happy endings like yours! Enjoy your new member period-- it's going to be such a fun time for you.

You don't have to explain or justify your story to anyone. Just be happy in your new life with Phi!

Congrats!!!!

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And because there are other avenues, there was no reason to post your thoughts here, in the first place. Your comment was unecessary and didn't add to the discussion in a positive manner.

I only enforce the TOS, I don't get mad.

I tried to send you a PM, but your box is full.

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I was wondering the same thing...

Anywho... I am not too surprised that Christi's recruitment process went the way it did.

She is a legacy to Phi Mu.

They are COBing.

If I was advising a chapter that was COBing and a legacy came through, as interested as Christi was.... I would strongly advise them to give her pref treatment. You are COBing, because you have slots to fill. I would rather fill them with not only someone intrested in my chapter, but someone with the built-in, vested interested, i.e. family/tradition. **Note: This of course is if the PNM meets/exceeds the standards set forth by the chapter/HQ.**

Congrats Christi...

-Rudey

Congrats!!! I hope you'll keep us posted on how things are going for you.

I don't have a clue! Where in S Fla & when? My parents live in Miami.

Ok, does anyone else feel like this was a book and somebody ripped out a few chapters in the middle? I was in the dark that she was a legacy and I don't see the part about how her bid was offered with all the drama and deleted posts etc.

Glad she found a wonderful home at UF!

Denise

Some people knew I was a legacy when I began talking about my recruitment. Someone told me I was giving out too much information, so I edited my posts so much less information was given out.

My older sister was a Phi Mu at FSU, pledge class 1991.

The drama was deleted basically because it was uncalled for. A few people think I'm either lying about how my bid was given to me, or that my chapter bent some rules in giving it to me the way they did. I see no reason to lie, so I couldn't really care less.

Thank you :)

Congratulations! Now, isn't it time for you to get on over to the Phi Mu forum and connect with some of your new sorority sisters? :)

christi, I missed all the drama, but I see nothing wrong with how you got your bid. It's not unusual for spring bidding to be a more spread out than usual and I thought the whole process seemed just fine.

Many Many Congratulations! :)

Congrats, and welcome to the bond!

That said, I feel a need to respond to some of the other things posted here as a member of Phi Mu who knows membership selection inside and out.

During informal recruitment, the RC can say whatever she wants to a PNM. If she said something like "It's your choice, not ours" to Christi, that merely means that they really like her and are prepared to give her a bid. It does NOT mean they are prepared to give anyone a bid.

It can be tough to gauge a PNM's interest, and it can be hard to time a bid. You don't want to wait too long and have her look elsewhere, but you don't want to offer it too early and appear desperate for members.

Therefore, it is very possible that the RC liked her a lot and was trying to feel out the timing of the bid.

Also, I won't talk too much about membership selection, but it is presumptious of others on this thread to do so. You have no idea who votes on a girl or who authorizes COB's. Don't pretend you do when giving advice to PNM's. Thanks.

I just wanted to say congratulations! Sounds like you found a great place!

How's it going so far, Christi? Keep us posted.