Then, my question to you would be why become a Delta when everyone in the group doesn't appreciate you? Why become greek when non-greeks challenge you or hate you? To me, that's the same kind of situation.

No matter how much someone claims to love their organization and respect their sorors, EVERYONE isn't going to appreciate you regardless of your past affiliation with an auxillary group or for a whole lot of other reasons - I was never in such a group, but I don't think it is fair for sorors to be questioned or belittled about it later. Their affinity for their auxillary affiliation is no different than someone elses' disdain for the same group!

The point you just made is the point I've been trying to make. As far as the discussion goes, there's always repetition on message boards...and I hope noone on here was getting upset over the mere exchange of varying opinions. I think this was a good discussion.

I don't know how to quote, but RowdyRed, you do have a point about affinity/disdain, but my question was not answered. How would you feell if you were in my shoes? My question to you would be...(read last post)? I also do not mean to offend, and it is a good discussion because I get to state my points on one side, and sorors get to state points on the other.

Hey soror, I'm going to TRY to answer your question...let me know if I'm misunderstanding it please. I think there may be a perception that you are (again) comparing membership in an auxiliary to membership in DST. Among other things, the dynamics of your memberships are different and your level of recognition for being an Iota Sweetheart is also different than that of your being a Delta.
I think you asked why someone would want to join an organization when they're not appreciated. I don't know what you mean by appreciated. But, you can't please everyone. But I certainly would not recommend someone choosing loyalties to an auxiliary over their sorority. Meaning, if your sweetheartdom isn't "appreciated" by your sorors, you don't have to deny your friends (the sweethearts), but you don't have to speak of your sweetheartdom around the sorors. You don't have to badmouth sweethearts or say anything negative...just leave that aspect of yourself outside. That's not to say that you can't defend sweethearts if someone makes negative generalizations about them.
Why become Greek if non-Greeks have disdain for you? Who cares what people think? Of course we all want to uphold our oaths and do what our Founders had intended...but other than that, you can't please everyone in the audience.
I just don't think anyone should shape their opinion of their sorority based on some of its members' opinions on sweetheart organizations. As humans we may judge eachother or shape our opinions based on such things...but as I was telling you a few posts ago, we need to see pass that and at the best interest for our sororities.

Soror, in no way is being a sweetheart equal or comparative to it. No, again, I'm not comparing one to the other. But the question was posed to me as why join an auxillary group if you aren't appreciated by the people you support, because that's what they think the situation unfolds, and I in turn posed the same question back, but as a Delta or greek, but was unanswered. When I answered, knowing both worlds, I said that that it was not the case for me, nor MOST of the hearts that I know, because I do know some that have bad experiences, and some who fall into the stereotype, but it seems like you won't need an answer if my answer was already posed by the questioner, you know what I'm saying? Why ask me if you already included my answer in your question? For example, a soror asked me why I joined if I was nappreciated, and I told her that was not the case with me, and she told me that if I had read her question thoroughly, I would have seen that I was already taken care of. Okay...But what I meant by appreciated is not taken seriously by non-greeks and such, and you answered just fine soror. I agree about separating heartdom from being greek, because it just doesn't mix. I also agree about the answer for disdain for greeks, I do the same thing, because it's true, I can't please everyone. But the question was posed first, why join? And I answered, but I was met with nothing but reasons why I shouldn't. My thing is sorors, you don't have to like my decision, but just be happy for the positives it has brought to my life. Wonderful, supporting friends, great opportunities in community service, and a membership in Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Without them, I wouldn't be a soror. No disrespect intended.

That one confuses me, but nuff said. I feel what you're saying and I think we're still kind of on two separate pages, but atleast we're in the same book now :)

Thanks for understanding, Soror.;)
I don't know if I should explain, being such a sensitive topic, but they gave me the support system I needed to get through membership intake. But yes, we are in the same book.

Actually, the post was in response to ChaosDST, but if some of the remarks in there were some you said, then...I don't know. But I was simply explaining the situation for Ms. Dst. I didn't recieve any e-mail from you, however. I wish I did, so we could continue discussion.

Auxiliary groups
 

Yes I am a member of The Ladies of A-Heart XI chapter at Wilberforce University. Yes I pledge blood sweet and tears just like the greek organization. The reason Why I desided to Pledge was because the organization was do a lot for the community and having a lot of information semiars on campus. These women were strong and Talented and I knew I could contribute to the cause and there organization. This is why I Join. The only Constutional greeks that are truely brothers and sister are Sigma's and Zeta's and the others just cal them selfs brother and sister. Be for you comment check your history. Many of women who join greek organization pledge sweet heart organization.
I would like to give my sister lots of love Asweettttttttt:)

Ms. Daniele

You bumped a 7 year old thread to say that?

"Be for" you comment, check the post date.

Sorry
 

Sorry for spelling I was in a rush.:confused:

I don't know what's has me laughing more -- her post or this smiley above!! Seriously LOL!!

LMAO that was the WORST thread revival i've seen in forever.

I feel like this would be a good time to ask
 

How is the spell check function used? Since I use the .coms to edit myself I never got around to finding out how to use the spell check feature. I think that I now need to know so that I can pass this information on to other people who may not know how to use the feature. I really want to know, but dont want to take the time to figure it out myself. (I know that's lazy)

As a member of Alpha Angels Inc, I can say that people dont understand the meaning of becoming a part of these organizations. Dont get me wrong, each chapter does their own thing and to each its own, but my chapter is not about being nobody's groupie or anything even like that.

On my yard, the scouting process is the same as it is for a sorority or fraternity with the exception that the boys going on request which girls they recommend. You have to qualify as a woman worthy to be apart of something so sacred, which cancels out those "groupies." A brother/sisterly bond is built between us because we are each others' support system as we go thru this process together.

We dont claim to be greek and we respect those who are (those who EARNED their letters) We are Incorporated on our own and dont consider ourselves to have affiliation with the Fraternity because although they are why we exist, we are woman first, with beliefs of our and can exist without have any man to lean on. So although we thank the Fraternity for having a hand in our existance as Alpha Angels, if the Fraternity was to become extinct, (NEVER, LoL), Alpha Angels will still have a job to do supporting womanly deed, love for all mankind, and scholarship.

*scratchin' my head* What? Is he saying he is going to depend on the "Alpha Angels" to "hold up Alpha" if they ever cease to exist? I need that scared as hayle smiley to insert right here...

I think the person was just saying if Alpha Phi Alpha, Inc ceased to exist (not that it ever would...), the Alpha Angels, Inc. would still be in existence, be able to continue doing everything it does now, and uphold its ideals. That was my interpretation...

You're in a sweetheart org, who are you to think you know anything about respect and earning letters? Like your respect means something. LOL.

Greeks: I don't care that these auxilliaries are their own orgs now, keep them in their places.

That is an Alpha Angel.

GRITS' interpretation is correct.

I stopped right there. :rolleyes:

DSTChaos, thanks for the clarification. I'm still tripping that auxillary organizations are still relevant! LOL

they're not.

I would be somewhat "interested" to read about any service efforts that sweetheart orgs (not the Iota Sweethearts---I know they are extremely relevant and active) have done at the undergrad and alumnae level.

I've never heard of anything so I'm cyber-curious.

@ MeezDiscreet - That threw me off, too.

As much as the young lady tried to validate her "organization" with an intelligent yet spelling error-filled response, I still have to stay on top of my niece to be sure she doesn't fall for the okey doke and become an auxillary. :(

Truthfully most of the aux groups that I know are groupies:( or just kept around to please the frat men "needs." Nowadays if you are a sister group then to a frat, you are nothing but someone who is there to have sex with. Not to offend anybody, but that is just what I observe. At my school most of these groups are viewed in the negative and is a bad move if you want to join a sorority. In my opinion, I really dont think that auxillary group is the right way to go.

These groups don't matter. Period.

I believe in life no matter what u do people will always have a negative or positive (MAINLY NEGATIVE) thing to say. If you want to join an auxiliary group and hope to join a sorority no one should have anything to say about that.... this pisses me off because I hear people say wicked things about the girls who support auxiliary groups and I almost changed my mind about pledging for one.... I am the complete opposite of the stereotypes that have been assigned to these groups but still I hold my head high and keep pushing. I love the men of Omega Psi Phi and am joining the auxiliary group because their founders had all the right reasons for being established, it wasnt because of a boyfriend but because she truly wanted to help those men establish themselves. I also love the beautiful women of Alpha Kappa Alpha and hope to join them in their incredible services to mankind. I will try hard and be myself. I say forget what ppl say and do you.

I feel ur pain
 

I believe no matter what u do people are always going to have something negative to say. If you really want to be in auxiliary group it's ur choice. It is extra hard for me because I am pledging to be an Omega Pearl and I kno exactly how you are feeling BECAUSE i also want to join Alpha Kappa Alpha because I love them so much and want to help them service mankind. The thing with me is the bruhz asked me was I interested im not the naive type and they have never came off on me the wrong way but i hear all the smack about "u wont be accepted" and all that. Do what you feel and remember it is ur life, u control ur own destiny, God controls ur fate, and u only have one life to live.

:eek::confused:

A MIAKA and Omega Pearl in the making?

ETA: I thought the poster was a dude. So what we have is an Omega Pearl in the making and a wannabe AKA (good luck with that one.)

I just came back from Homecoming and celebrating Obama's win to come back to this? :eek: :confused: And did he/she/it say "the bruhz"? Really? SMH.

For posterity! :D

There's nothing like a troll that makes a statement/asks a question and attempts to respond to themselves/co-sign.... only they don't realize that they didn't sign out of their original troll account.

FAIL!

And still they post....:rolleyes:

LMBO! I *heart* you :D

Guys, I have a confession to make.....

This weekend.... I fiiiiiiiiiinalllllyyyyyy became......



















A Beauxaka!

(Pronounced bo-ZAHK-a)

I loved y'all both too much to pick just one!!!!

Yes, you should. And be sure to list it on your application to the sorority of your choice.

^ I can't stand Senruset. bwhahahahahaha!!!

Um. . .

Nevermind.

Yeah I was thinking the same thing. That sentence needs a little rewording.