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Corollary: A dog always has flies and let sleeping dogs lie... You want a "virginal buddy"--most of your "boyfriends" are going to stop playing that mess, right now. Hey, can't buy a dildo or vibrator and a fake warming pillow of a man? It will NEVER cheat on you, and if it stops working, you just change the batteries... Really, you ain't got no playa cards. And to play this game, there is is a high stakes ante, and you have to ante up. The name of this game is called 5 card stud and the joker is always wild... If you not ready to play this game, don't start and move on... |
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Lol, touche Monet. Touche. :D |
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i suppose ill throw my "woe is me, im single" post:
ive been single for... a few years, i guess 6 years now? the last real relationship i had was short and sweet. ive been on a couple dates over the years since then, but they were all lame ducks--dudes who wanted to do the friends thing, dudes who liked dudes, dudes who had girls already, etc. i've done the "im single and loving it" thing. and the "im single and hating it" thing. and then the "im gonna dress really provocatively and see who will take me home" thing. and then the "im gonna be a total spinster and see who will ask for my number. the "ill be a woman of the new generation and ask HIM out" thing wasnt so empowering. so now im doing the "welp im almost 25 and ive never felt this much pressure to be in a relationship" thing. of all my friends, one recently got married, another engaged, and the rest are either in committed relationships (im the oldest of 4 and all my siblings are in relationships!) or desperately single like myself. so now... im just doing me. which is what i shouldve done all along. but dammit, man company is nice you know! |
Look at it this way...when you're single you can have tons of no-strings-attached sex, date multiple people even at the same time, and you can flirt with who ever you want.
If you're not getting enough attention, change where you hang out and who you hang out with. This made a HUGE difference for me, within the last year. I think many of you are making the mistake of avoiding bars. That's where you will find MANY MANY other single people...for fucking, for relationships, or just for friendships. Playing sports is another good way to meet single people. It's not a time for tears :( it's a time for joy :) |
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Regarding marriage at 23, I have to comment because I got married at 23. :) But, I never planned to get married at that age. It just worked out that I met my ideal man and there wasn't much point in putting it off.
We've been married 7 years now, and we do not have kids. That's one thing that I knew wasn't going to happen right away. I still don't know when we'll have kid(s), but I know I'm a lot more ready now than I was 7 years ago. And, I'm so happy that we have had all these wonderful years just the two of us. I would never advise someone to get married young, but if you've found the right person you know it, and there is nothing wrong with changing your plans to accomodate a change in situation. The bottom line is no one has any business being married until the time is right, and 'the time' varies from one individual to another, and completely depends on when you meet the right person to get married to. It doesn't work out for everyone, but I have no regrets at all. |
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ive also done/doing the "hey, maybe 'the one' is on Myspace/Match/Eharmony/Yahoo Personals so ill spend money and sad nights on there." man i wish i could get that money back. the same people out there are on the internet. i actually did meet someone on the internet but it was long ago, back when internet hooking up was still new and kinda freaky. being 16 doesnt help that, but the situation was awful, just awful. not that i wouldnt do it again, but im a lot more apprehensive about it. but i havent done the "get a BOB and call it a night, a good night at that" thing. in a while, sigh. |
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i need to think about this. |
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You really should try Borders. There are a lot of one woman men there. The kind where getting to know the woman is 1st, starting a serious monogomous relationship 2nd, and the sex is....well...soon after?:p:) |
Borders is a bookstore. If you're going there to find men or women, you're lame and might by trying too hard.
I don't suggest anyone go anywhere to find someone. (with exception for those of you who do the singles mixes, dating sites and events--wasn't my cup of tea when I was single, though) Just live your life and what is meant for will be wherever you go. You will find your mate in the most unpredictable of places, especially when you were minding your own business and not thinking about the opposite sex. |
^^^Depends on what he's reading... LOL... ;)
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My Human Sexuality teacher told us to meet people by reading our human sexuality textbook in public... :D awkward.
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I don't think anything is wrong with being single. It's not that big of a deal. At least it wasn't for me. I've always had hobbies that I was really interested in. For that whole year and a half I didn't think about it much. I dated a lot but nothing serious. Hobbies will keep you occupied. I remember I had a date the same day Mars, Jupiter and Saturn were going to be lined up. This doesn't happen very often so I bought a telescope and cancelled the date.:o
Anywhooo, just thought I would get a couple of posts in before I go to work.:) |
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I don't think I go places to meet anybody. I go to Barnes and Noble, the best bookstore in the world, because I was either a) getting a book or b) going to work. I don't think I really go anywhere except the library, friend's houses, restaurants, or the movies. Other than someone buying me and my friends a round of drinks (and they were sent to our table, so I never even saw him) I haven't met anyone by going out. I meet most of the guys I know through school (so they're married) or at work (and I don't date co-workers). I'll just say God's trying to tell me something and leave it there. Anymore thought and I'll depress myself. :o
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Sometimes, you never know when you are going to meet that special someone (for the night, the evening, the week, the month(s) or the year). Making the co-workers off-limits, unless it is in your HR Code of Conduct manuals, then, you never know that on that special projects, sparks may fly... Sometimes, you have to go to those conferences, meetings, in far away places, to meet those gentlemen you desire the most... Communications is very much different than when I was your age, most professionals have linkedin, facebooks, and Ning accounts. Singles have more information at their disposal than ever before about one another. No way you cannot find out about another person fully before dating. Which makes me wonder why its so hard to meet someone? :confused: But, meeting THE ONE is different than meeting someone, and you said, you just want to basically "hangout". Since you like movies, how come you don't support the "film festivals" in your city? If you like the new comic-cons, then how come you are not going to them? And if I was single, I would be attending my Boule, that just sounds fun! But, my husband's and mine's funding is tied up to different travel arrangements. |
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What were you thinking? lol seriously I wanna hear.:p |
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I know this post is like 5 years old, but I couldn't stop laughing at the OP. Especially, what's in bold. I was already laughing really hard about something else, and now this. I feel sorry for her but she just kept going on and on whining about some sob story of how she can't get a guy.:rolleyes: Looking for a box of kleenex from laughing.:p lol :D:D:D I think I'm just really tired from work. I tend to laugh at a lot of things when I'm tired.:( |
The OP is funny to me as are most rants about being unable to find a date.
But NOTHING is funnier than you passing up a date to watch the planets line up. Too bad you couldn't incorporate that rare event into your date. You suck. |
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And I don't suck! |
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To tld221. I posted the borders thing to get a reaction from CG. The barnes and noble CG, not the Captain Kirk CG.:rolleyes: We've had this borders and barnes and noble rivalry going on for a while now.:D Anyway, if you go to church you might want to try one of the singles retreats. A lot of churches have them. Of course not to meet a man, but to learn and be around single good people. I agree with AKA_Monet. You never know where you'll meet a joker.:) |
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ETA: check your PM. |
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I belonged to a singles' ministry about 7 years ago. It wasn't a dating pool. It was just Christian singles who didn't have family responsibilities so we wanted to hang out. Very platonic environment.
It was fun but, again, singles' events are sometimes too obvious of places to find dates. The obvious places often don't provide what you need. I still say let your guard down in your normal routine (work, leisure, hobbies, etc.) and what God has for you will be for you. :) |
i agree sometimes i get really sad and wonder why i am alone. its so nice out during the summer that i think i need a date so badly. in fact yesterday i watched a walk to remember with all the windows open at night but i just wanted to kill myself at the end. they were so in love and it was jamies first boyfriend!!! ive had four boyfriends this year alone and i cant seem to find mr right. i dont know maybe some of us are supposed to die a sad lonely death. i think ill go watch the notebook and cry some more.:(
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This was the same joker with the ju ju beez right? Broke joker.:rolleyes: |
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Okay, I'd have to go through like 3 years of backstory to completely explain why I don't date men from church, so I'll just let the statement stand. Only PB knows the whole story and that took awhile to get out. :rolleyes: As for work...IDK, I guess that's a good point that you never know until you try. But men keep getting fired for sexual harassment at my job. :eek: I think I'll stay away from them, too. However, I've decided to go to this year's ABPsi convention! Lots of young, talented black men, aspiring to be psychologists...I'm smiling just thinking about it! I know it might be like 70% female, though, so I have to step up my A-game. ;) |
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