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PrettyBoy 10-25-2009 07:31 AM
That was funny, but anyway while I'm in the DST forum I just wanted say happy birthday to ladygreek. Happy Birthday LG.

MasonsInquiries 10-27-2009 09:38 PM
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Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest (Post 1859777)
All stereotypes come from somewhere (including those about Black men) but that doesn't mean that they are true in a great or majority capacity. This is what many don't seem to get. If you are being truthful, then it's really a shame that you've had such experiences but you have not met most Black women, so MOST would not be the right word to use. SOME according to your personal experiences would be more accurate. Perhaps it's the circles that you have been part of or perhaps it's you. Sometimes we all need to take inventory and look at ourselves; sometimes we are the problem or part of the problem. I'm not trying to be negative or funny either. Among the many books that have impacted my life immensely over the years, probably one of my top five is one by Osho (I've read many of his books), called "Journey to the Heart." This book will encourage you to be more calm, peaceful, and patient with people and yourself. I am a Humanist so I work at understanding people better since we are often too hard on ourselves and others (which is why sometimes I break down and help the trolls on GC...DrPhil sometimes scolds me for doing this...LOL!). Anyway, the book includes real life examples and stories of how one can change an outcome or circumstance merely by thinking before they react and changing their response or reaction to things. Individuals have the power to choose a social outcome in many cases. Although, I am still a work in progress and will always be, in some cases I try to stop and think first before reacting or responding to a situation or person. Sometimes more understanding and empathy is required but I have been able to change many outcomes by responding positively instead of negatively and offering solutions instead of being a part of the problem. Good luck to you in finding that Black woman that will change your mind if that's what you seek but I am blessed to have so many beautiful, intelligent, loving, and supportive Black women in my life.
like yourself, i also have alot of wonderful, supportive, and intelligent black women in my life (including my wife, mom-in-law, mom, grandmom, etc.). you're absolutely right about me using the word "most" in the incorrect manner that i was using it, so i apologize for that.

it's just frustrating when i see alot of black women act the way they act (in public at that!). when i made my original comments in this thread, some of the negative comments i recieved were exactly what i expected.....shallow & misunderstood (i'm not referring to your comments in any way, of course). i just get tired of seeing sooooooo many sistas that have a gift to potentially do anything they want in their lives, but can't because of their ways.

here's a perfect example.....i have a coworker i work with here in the baltimore city public school system (BCPSS), and the woman is so outstanding at what she does, she could damn well run her own school if she could, but because of her trashy attitude, she'll never get there. again, it's an ongoing saga that i often see in many sistas.

i'll just say this....i believe black women are the most beautiful creatures on the face of the earth, but they're also the least taken. now, if that doesn't draw a red flag, nothing will.

i asked one of my friends "why do you choose not to date black women?" just to see what response i would get. he said "i'll give you three words........PEACE OF MIND".

DrPhil 10-27-2009 09:48 PM
Welp, congratulations to those Black men who don't want Black women. Somewhere there's a pony with rainbows shooting out of its ass that cares.

MasonsInquiries 10-27-2009 09:48 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by I.A.S.K. (Post 1860636)
IBTL,

The two questions posed are deceptive in that they are entirely different from person to person. Gender roles and the measure of a man/woman are assigned by the two people that make up that particular black couple. There is no true model couple for this.

As for the content of the article I can only speak from my experience:
I know many a black woman who is in the church, and an organizer, and a career woman and I know women who are each of these separately and a whole host of other types of black women. I know plenty who are married and plenty who are single.
The thing is no two are alike. They're all different and thus their martial status can not be generalized. Among those that I know there are some shared beliefs and facts.
Some of the facts:
As black women advance (educationally and career wise) we statistically lower our chances of finding a suitable partner
We prefer black men to any other race
More than 50% of black children are currently being raised by single mothers
We are career oriented

Based on these facts many women I know have come up with some shared beliefs:
About ourselves:
1.We do not want to be another statistic and will do as much as possible to prevent this from happening.
2.We have high expectations of ourselves and those around us.
3.We want stability.
4.We work hard.
5.We don't ask for anything that we aren't willing to give.
About Men:
1.We expect for our men to be providers.
2.We expect our men to match us- My best friend wont even have a conversation with a guy if he is not a college student or college graduate (or college bound/inclined she understands that school isn't cheap). She feels like if he isn't in school then he's not doing enough with his life to match what she is doing and wants to do with hers.
3.We expect STABILITY. this is by far THE most important thing for most of the women I know. The point in a relationship is to provide support and love for one another. As black women, we look for a sense of "home" or someone and something that will always be there for us no matter what is going on in life. Unfortunately this in many of our lives is something we've never been able to find in black men. Starting with the men in our early lives. More than anything else we want for our men to understand who and what we are and we want them to be our rock. We expect financial stability as well.
4.We expect unyielding loyalty.
5.We expect love and protection.

From my own personal experience I can say that there is some validity to the statement that "a fighting spirit is important, but not at home."
I find myself in situations where I am fighting and arguing and I wonder why does it take this much? Why am I pushing myself and getting upset over issues that should be handled cordially? Am I pushing too hard? Can't I just let it go? Even when my b/f wants to just leave the subject alone I don't. I find it is more important to reach an understanding on a subject than it is to keep the peace because ultimately the conversation is going to happen again and until we reach understanding it will be an obstacle.
Two main issues for me are:
1.I have found that most men (even mine) cannot handle dealing with someone who is extremely driven, outspoken, strong willed, and dominant. It is not a good or bad thing it just is. I know myself and I know that what makes me successful in business, school, and a great many aspects of my life is the fact that I am ferociously determined to achieve whatever goal I set and I am unyielding in doing so. I know that I do not have to be this way all of the time, but being dominant at work and not so at home is a delicate balancing act. One that I would prefer not to have to perform. If a man can't handle me being my blunt, determined, and strong willed self all the time then he's not the one for me. I am not opposed to compromise. I think it's great, but some things I will not compromise on and this is one of them. So as for me any man who wants to be with me can get with the program or K.I.M. Does this attitude of mine (one that many black women share) "scare" black men away? Nope. Most of them were raised by a woman with a similar attitude so they're used to it. Which leads me to #2.

2.Black men and women do not successfully COMMUNICATE. Even in asking if black men are being scared away by black women the basis of the question is "Do black me fear black women?" and you only fear what you don't understand. Thus the correct question would be "Are black women making it too difficult for black men to communicate with and understand them?" Now, that is a question with merit and worth actually answering. Communication between two parties is much more difficult than most people believe. There's the verbal, non-verbal, and the never expressed thoughts that make conversation difficult. Even in being as outspoken as I am I find that there are a great many things that I don't say. Being considerate of other's feelings, not wanting to delve deeply in to certain subjects, fear, lack of trust and many other obstacles prevent communication. Until black men and black women learn how to constructively communicate among each other there will always be fear and there will be a state of broken-ness in the black couple, family, and community.


*To take a realistic look at why black women are not getting married and why black men seem to be running away from black women the many external factors that impact relationships must be analyzed. The issue I have with articles (and even books) like these is that they do not fully consider all of the forces that impact the black couple. To truly analyze this would take more space than a message board could provide.
{applauding}:D;):rolleyes::)

well-said.

MasonsInquiries 10-27-2009 09:54 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by DrPhil (Post 1861484)
Welp, congratulations to those Black men who don't want Black women. Somewhere there's a pony with rainbows shooting out of its ass that cares.
well, i can't speak for anyone else, but i'll say that i believe alot of black women don't know what they want. i'm not speaking of the good ones (of course), but certain levels of ignorant & shallow behavior should not be tolerated in no relationship. it puts the marriage/relationship on any uneven playing field.

DrPhil 10-27-2009 10:01 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1861488)
well, i can't speak for anyone else

And I can't pretend to care about this topic. ;)

libramunoz 10-28-2009 12:58 AM
This subject is as tired as they come!

A brother posted this on my college's alumni website before and the answer is quite simple, it's no!
You can only be scared if you scare yourself.
You need to know who you are and what you are about before you are willing and capable of stepping up to somebody and asking them to consider to date you, much less even think of "go with" you or even marry you.
It has nothing to do with being a Black woman or man, it's about being able to know who you are and what you are/aren't willing to put up with.
Everything is constantly pointed out at how "sista's" are and act like such and such. However, why don't people look at it from the other side of the spectrum. What is a "brotha" acting like or what what is a "brotha" about.
It goes back to the old saying, when you're pointing one finger, there are three pointing right back at you.
Whomever came up with this article was half-cocked and half-thinking to begin with. It sounded like a personal question that they wanted to make a public battle. However, it needs to be looked at why the need to air your personal and private battles?
If a person doesn't want to date a Black woman, fine and good, because there is surely someone else who wants to date them. If a person has a problem with a "sista's" attitude, they should look at the attitude that is constantly given to the sista first. If a person doesn't want to deal with a "woman of color's" behavior, they need to look at what their behavior is first.
This article verges on stupid and inane and should have never been posted, printed, or written to begin with.
If you don't know who you are and what you are willing to bring to another person's table, then YOU, yes you need to keep it going.
If you don't know what you are/aren't willing to put up with in a relationship, then YOU, yes you, need to re-examine your values and define who you are as a person.
If you don't want to "date/go with" a woman that is Black or "acts Black" then do like they do it on Soul Train, keep the line moving, because YOU aren't the ONLY person in the world!
Sisters are who they are, people are who they are, and yes, we all have quirks, annoyances, and behaviors that we can/could/should/would re-examine, but life continues to keep one moving.

dreamseeker 10-28-2009 01:13 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by libramunoz (Post 1861553)
This subject is as tired as they come!
Quote:
Originally Posted by DrPhil (Post 1861490)
And I can't pretend to care about this topic. ;)
forreal.

I.A.S.K. 10-28-2009 01:17 AM
Yeah, i wrote a book, oh well lol
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by DrPhil (Post 1861484)
Welp, congratulations to those Black men who don't want Black women. Somewhere there's a pony with rainbows shooting out of its ass that cares.
I <3 you! I'm having the worst week ever and this made me LOL!!!
Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1861485)
{applauding}:D;):rolleyes::)

well-said.
Yeah, thanks. Though, most things that are well thought out prior to being said tend to be well-said. Think twice type once. I find it extremely disillusioning that you applaud my post, but continue to make the ill-contemplated comments that you do.

Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1861480)
like yourself, i also have alot of wonderful, supportive, and intelligent black women in my life (including my wife, mom-in-law, mom, grandmom, etc.). you're absolutely right about me using the word "most" in the incorrect manner that i was using it, so i apologize for that.

it's just frustrating when i see alot of black women act the way they act (in public at that!). when i made my original comments in this thread, some of the negative comments i recieved were exactly what i expected.....shallow & misunderstood (i'm not referring to your comments in any way, of course). i just get tired of seeing sooooooo many sistas that have a gift to potentially do anything they want in their lives, but can't because of their ways.

here's a perfect example.....i have a coworker i work with here in the baltimore city public school system (BCPSS), and the woman is so outstanding at what she does, she could damn well run her own school if she could, but because of her trashy attitude, she'll never get there. again, it's an ongoing saga that i often see in many sistas.

i'll just say this....i believe black women are the most beautiful creatures on the face of the earth, but they're also the least taken. now, if that doesn't draw a red flag, nothing will.

i asked one of my friends "why do you choose not to date black women?" just to see what response i would get. he said "i'll give you three words........PEACE OF MIND".
Next time express yourself in a clear, concise, and accurate manner and save the rest of us your "typical"/"I'm misunderstood" quips. You were not misunderstood. You failed to communicate your thoughts in an intelligible manner and then blamed everyone else for your failure instead of correcting it and apologizing.

You are the company you keep so if you find yourself constantly surrounded by black women who act in an unbecoming way then maybe you need to check yourself. You speak of these "frustrating" black women as if you are different from them. If you cannot see each of them as your sister and more importantly a direct reflection of yourself then it is you who is lacking and has the severe shortcomings.

I find it difficult to believe that you find black women to be the most beautiful beings on this earth when you constantly disrespect and degrade them by perpetuating asinine, ignorant, ass-backward stereotypes about them. If you do not understand the plethora of reasons why black women are the most beautiful, but least taken then you really shouldn't be contributing to this discussion except to ask for sources you should read to get a better understanding of the black woman and her place in American society and the world and how she has gotten here.

As for your friend who is seeking peace of mind specifically outside of the black woman... Maybe he should be searching for piece of mind. I'm quite sure once he finds that missing piece of mind he will be capable of finding peace of mind in himself and also in his sisters.

Another point that I would be remiss not to mention is that it is incredibly frustrating for what could possibly be intelligent discourse to be reduced to stereotyping and trolling. I say all of this for the purpose of achieving greater understanding as I feel somewhere in the muddled mess that you've been posting there is a slim chance that you might have some type of valid point or contribution to add to this discussion. I love a good discussion/debate, but only when it is done intelligently. Everything else is for sh*ts and giggles and the world already has too much sh*t and Dr.Phil has the giggles covered.

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 06:19 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by I.A.S.K. (Post 1861560)
Yeah, thanks. Though, most things that are well thought out prior to being said tend to be well-said. Think twice type once. I find it extremely disillusioning that you applaud my post, but continue to make the ill-contemplated comments that you do.
well, truthfully, i'm sorry you feel the way that you feel. my comments aren't "ill-comtemplated" at all......merely coming from experiences.

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 06:22 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by I.A.S.K. (Post 1861560)
I find it difficult to believe that you find black women to be the most beautiful beings on this earth when you constantly disrespect and degrade them by perpetuating asinine, ignorant, ass-backward stereotypes about them. If you do not understand the plethora of reasons why black women are the most beautiful, but least taken then you really shouldn't be contributing to this discussion except to ask for sources you should read to get a better understanding of the black woman and her place in American society and the world and how she has gotten here.

As for your friend who is seeking peace of mind specifically outside of the black woman... Maybe he should be searching for piece of mind. I'm quite sure once he finds that missing piece of mind he will be capable of finding peace of mind in himself and also in his sisters.

Another point that I would be remiss not to mention is that it is incredibly frustrating for what could possibly be intelligent discourse to be reduced to stereotyping and trolling. I say all of this for the purpose of achieving greater understanding as I feel somewhere in the muddled mess that you've been posting there is a slim chance that you might have some type of valid point or contribution to add to this discussion. I love a good discussion/debate, but only when it is done intelligently. Everything else is for sh*ts and giggles and the world already has too much sh*t and Dr.Phil has the giggles covered.
done for sh*ts? giggles? where's this coming from?

when have i "degraded" black women? i make statements based off of pure experiences, and now i've all of a sudden, i've "degraded" black women?

wow, oh boy......lol

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 06:23 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by DrPhil (Post 1861490)
And I can't pretend to care about this topic. ;)
cool! glad we have a "mutual" agreement...lol.;);)

I.A.S.K. 10-28-2009 08:35 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1861684)
well, truthfully, i'm sorry you feel the way that you feel. my comments aren't "ill-comtemplated" at all......merely coming from experiences.
Don't be sorry be better.
" you're absolutely right about me using the word "most" in the incorrect manner that i was using it, so i apologize for that. "
If you are repeatedly using words incorrectly then you have not contemplated your comments enough.

Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1861685)
done for sh*ts? giggles? where's this coming from?

when have i "degraded" black women? i make statements based off of pure experiences, and now i've all of a sudden, i've "degraded" black women?

wow, oh boy......lol
I can't help but think you didn't understand what I said, but it was quite clear. Anything that is not intelligent is purely for entertainment (thus for "sh*ts and giggles) and not necessary.
If you re-read the comment you'll see that I said you degraded black women by perpetuating setereotypes.
You made statements based solely on your experiences as if your experiences are indicative of "the black woman" and you also made ignorant generalizations of black women based on your "experiences". You also made yourself look foolish by stating that you've had positive black women impact your life, but continue to lump the majority of black women in to a group of "shallow" and other unbecoming adjectives people.
The fact that you do not find any of that degrading is part of the problem that black people face today.

Also, it is fine to base comments off of your experiences, but how accurate do you actually believe your measley life is when extrapolating it on to the vast majority of black women? Your opinion seems to stem from an uneducated perspective and to be based in absolutely no fact.

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 11:38 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by I.A.S.K. (Post 1861695)
Don't be sorry be better.
&quot; you're absolutely right about me using the word &quot;most&quot; in the incorrect manner that i was using it, so i apologize for that. &quot;
If you are repeatedly using words incorrectly then you have not contemplated your comments enough.


I can't help but think you didn't understand what I said, but it was quite clear. Anything that is not intelligent is purely for entertainment (thus for &quot;sh*ts and giggles) and not necessary.
If you re-read the comment you'll see that I said you degraded black women by perpetuating setereotypes.
You made statements based solely on your experiences as if your experiences are indicative of &quot;the black woman&quot; and you also made ignorant generalizations of black women based on your &quot;experiences&quot;. You also made yourself look foolish by stating that you've had positive black women impact your life, but continue to lump the majority of black women in to a group of &quot;shallow&quot; and other unbecoming adjectives people.
The fact that you do not find any of that degrading is part of the problem that black people face today.


Also, it is fine to base comments off of your experiences, but how accurate do you actually believe your measley life is when extrapolating it on to the vast majority of black women? Your opinion seems to stem from an uneducated perspective and to be based in absolutely no fact.
wow, ms. dr phil has arrived in the building.....lol. now you think you know me to a tee. this is really getting to be funny. now you think you now my education. you have just explained why "maturity has nothing to do with age". let me make this as clear as i can........I WAS MAKING MY STATEMENTS OFF OF EXPERIENCE! nothing more!

now, when you get your measley life together, then just maybe we can have an intellectual conversation. you're sad. truly sad....

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 11:43 AM
my think is this.....what's with the insults? i have apologized for anythiing i said that offended anyone (i have no idea why, but i did....lol). and another thing......if you would've actually read my post, it states "the majority of black women that I HAVE EVER COME ACROSS". it doesn't say "MAJORITY OF BLACK WOMEN, IN GENERAL". my experiences are what they are, and the truth is the truth.what in the world?

rhoyaltempest 10-28-2009 12:20 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1861480)
like yourself, i also have alot of wonderful, supportive, and intelligent black women in my life (including my wife, mom-in-law, mom, grandmom, etc.). you're absolutely right about me using the word "most" in the incorrect manner that i was using it, so i apologize for that.

it's just frustrating when i see alot of black women act the way they act (in public at that!). when i made my original comments in this thread, some of the negative comments i recieved were exactly what i expected.....shallow & misunderstood (i'm not referring to your comments in any way, of course). i just get tired of seeing sooooooo many sistas that have a gift to potentially do anything they want in their lives, but can't because of their ways.

here's a perfect example.....i have a coworker i work with here in the baltimore city public school system (BCPSS), and the woman is so outstanding at what she does, she could damn well run her own school if she could, but because of her trashy attitude, she'll never get there. again, it's an ongoing saga that i often see in many sistas.

i'll just say this....i believe black women are the most beautiful creatures on the face of the earth, but they're also the least taken. now, if that doesn't draw a red flag, nothing will.

i asked one of my friends "why do you choose not to date black women?" just to see what response i would get. he said "i'll give you three words........PEACE OF MIND".
This might actually be the biggest myth/stereotype being perpetuated right now. I have NEVER had a problem dating Black men, I'm married to a Black man, and so are most of my sorors and friends.

So in my world, this is totally a myth. The Black women in my life are educated, loving, independent, have great jobs/careers, own their own businesses, property, and dare I say it....most are also married! They are all doing the damn thing so sorry, I just can't relate.

If you are a queen, then you want and deserve a king. Period.

DaemonSeid 10-28-2009 12:59 PM
I am so glad that MasonsInquiries isn't allowed to speak for all Black men out there.

Just reading the first thing you posted in this thread you sound like a bitter person who is jaded and have your own issues to work out about relationships and probably expresses them THROUGH your relationship which leads you to not HAVE a healthy relationship which is why you are posting the eff'ed up opinions on this board.

That you are married is a surprise to me.

dreamseeker 10-28-2009 05:26 PM
*eats popcorn*

knight_shadow 10-28-2009 08:13 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by DaemonSeid (Post 1861788)
I am so glad that MasonsInquiries isn't allowed to speak for all Black men out there.
That's a task reserved for the Revs. Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson.

DaemonSeid 10-28-2009 08:18 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by knight_shadow (Post 1861984)
That's a task reserved for the Revs. Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson.
OUCH! :D

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 08:45 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest (Post 1861770)
This might actually be the biggest myth/stereotype being perpetuated right now. I have NEVER had a problem dating Black men, I'm married to a Black man, and so are most of my sorors and friends.

So in my world, this is totally a myth. The Black women in my life are educated, loving, independent, have great jobs/careers, own their own businesses, property, and dare I say it....most are also married! They are all doing the damn thing so sorry, I just can't relate.

If you are a queen, then you want and deserve a king. Period.
...and ya' know what? i can actually respect your opinions and the fact that you've been surrounded by so many of our people in a positive aspect.

DaemonSeid, i'm not bitter at all; just a person that has one question: "why"? the thing i don't understand is that this thread has a SPECIFIC title. i made my comments (some didn't come out the way i meant it to) and ultimately, i ended up apologizing for my "false" comments. rhoyaltempest, did i or did i NOT apologize for the statements that came out wrong?

DaemonSeid, i never drag my marriage into my personal thoughts because frankly, one has nothing to do with the other. in case you're wondering, my marriage is doing fine. believe it or not, she actually agrees with me on this issue whole-heartedly. but thanks for showing such genuine care.......LOL!:p

knight_shadow 10-28-2009 08:50 PM
^^^ Pushing up on Xanthus territory as far as giving out too much info is concerned.

Does anyone here really care about his marriage?

DrPhil 10-28-2009 08:53 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1862007)
the fact that you've been surrounded by so many of our people in a positive aspect.
Many of us have.

Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1862007)
just a person that has one question: "why?"

Exactly.

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 08:55 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by knight_shadow (Post 1861984)
That's a task reserved for the Revs. Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson.
lol...they can have that job! truly!

DaemonSeid 10-28-2009 08:59 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1862007)
...and ya' know what? i can actually respect your opinions and the fact that you've been surrounded by so many of our people in a positive aspect.

DaemonSeid, i'm not bitter at all; just a person that has one question: "why?" i never drag my marriage into my personal thoughts because frankly, one has nothing to do with the other.

in case you're wondering, my marriage is doing fine. believe it or not, she actually agrees with me on this issue. but thanks for showing such genuine care.......LOL!:p
Actually i don't care about your marriage but this is what I see...

From everything you posted on this thread...this is how you sound:

"I love my Black women and they are beautiful, but damn, they are mean and hateful bitches!"

And I can't back a brotha up that thinks that way because when you say some bullisht like that then I am going to start wondering what is wrong with you.

MI....you sound as hateful and as bitter as the women sitting around complaining about all men are dogs or whatever it is that they complain about.

And you keep talking about you came to this lil epiphany of yours because of the experience you have had ?

Every time you keep saying "a lot" or "many" or "most" you keep clowning yourself and making yourself look like a blooming idiot basing something empirically on something that happens in your little tiny corner of the world.

It's been said once and it bears repeating..you haven't dealt with 'a lot' or even enough women on this planet to be qualified enough to do this and the opinions that contradict yours on this board prove that.

Furthermore have you EVER considered ONCE that your experiences are also based on the company you keep? That probably the reason you keep running into these types of women that shape your experience is based on the circles you run in (or who knows, maybe you watch too much TV )?

Maybe you need to up your game and the people you allow in and you won't come off sounding like a bitter old crab of a man that you are coming off as right now because trust me, not only have you been offensive to the women on this board you have been offensive to myself also and sorry to say, I dont hold sistas in such a low regard as you do.

knight_shadow 10-28-2009 08:59 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1862017)
lol...they can have that job! truly!
I'm doing an OK job repping myself, so the Revs can suck it lol

DrPhil 10-28-2009 09:01 PM
As I always say, the common denominator in all the company you keep is YOU.

DaemonSeid 10-28-2009 09:05 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by DrPhil (Post 1862028)
As I always say, the common denominator in all the company you keep is YOU.
and there it is...lesson to learn for the day!

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 09:06 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by DaemonSeid (Post 1862024)
Actually i don't care about your marriage but this is what I see...

From everything you posted on this thread...this is how you sound:

"I love my Black women and they are beautiful, but damn, they are mean and hateful bitches!"

And I can't back a brotha up that thinks that way because when you say some bullisht like that then I am going to start wondering what is wrong with you.

MI....you sound as hateful and as bitter as the women sitting around complaining about all men are dogs or whatever it is that they complain about.

And you keep talking about you came to this lil epiphany of yours because of the experience you have had ?

Every time you keep saying "a lot" or "many" or "most" you keep clowning yourself and making yourself look like a blooming idiot basing something empirically on something that happens in your little tiny corner of the world.

It's been said once and it bears repeating..you haven't dealt with 'a lot' or even enough women on this planet to be qualified enough to do this and the opinions that contradict yours on this board prove that.

Furthermore have you EVER considered ONCE that your experiences are also based on the company you keep? That probably the reason you keep running into these types of women that shape your experience is based on the circles you run in (or who knows, maybe you watch too much TV )?

Maybe you need to up your game and the people you allow in and you won't come off sounding like a bitter old crab of a man that you are coming off as right now because trust me, not only have you been offensive to the women on this board you have been offensive to myself also and sorry to say, I dont hold sistas in such a low regard as you do.
are you finished?....lol

{whistling in the process with happiness}:D

DaemonSeid 10-28-2009 09:07 PM
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Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1862037)
are you finished?....lol

{whistling}:D
GC is still waiting for you to get started...

on the RIGHT foot.

knight_shadow 10-28-2009 09:10 PM
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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid (Post 1862038)
GC is still waiting for you to get started...

on the RIGHT foot.
http://www.pledgepark.com/images/smilies/bs.gif

DaemonSeid 10-28-2009 09:11 PM
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Originally Posted by knight_shadow (Post 1862041)
I know...I know and he's probably one of their refugees too *wink*

knight_shadow 10-28-2009 09:12 PM
^^^ Wouldn't surprise me...

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 09:15 PM
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Originally Posted by knight_shadow (Post 1862013)
^^^ Pushing up on Xanthus territory as far as giving out too much info is concerned.

Does anyone here really care about his marriage?
since he brought it up, i decided to address it. it's not like you'll ever see me handsome face, know my wonderful personality, or know where i work.

truthfully, does anyone care about you? you're just speaking merely for laughs, which (by the way), i'm doing right now reading your stupid comment. lol

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 09:17 PM
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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid (Post 1862043)
I know...I know and he's probably one of their refugees too *wink*
talk about having low self esteem! wow, you 2 need to seriously get it together!:D

DaemonSeid 10-28-2009 09:18 PM
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Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1862046)
since he brought it up, i decided to address it. it's not like you'll ever see me handsome face, know my wonderful personality, or know where i work.

truthfully, does anyone care about you? you're just speaking merely for laughs, which (by the way), i'm doing right now reading your stupid coment. lol
Not my concern altho I know one or 2 here who genuinely do.

as for 'coments' and laughing be forewarned that it goes both ways.

Except, more might be laughing at yours...

So look, I don't have time to play around tonight trading barbs with a 'misunderstood' misogynist. So either say something meaningful or go find another thread to play in.

knight_shadow 10-28-2009 09:19 PM
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Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1862046)
since he brought it up, i decided to address it. it's not like you'll ever see me handsome face, know my wonderful personality, or know where i work.
I guess I'm missing out by not seeing you handsome face. Egads.

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truthfully, does anyone care about you? you're just speaking merely for laughs, which (by the way), i'm doing right now reading your stupid coment. lol
Oh, the irony :)

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 09:22 PM
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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid (Post 1862050)
Not my concern altho I know one or 2 here who genuinely do.

as for 'coments' and laughing be forewarned that it goes both ways.

Except, more might be laughing at yours...

So look, I don't have time to play around tonight trading barbs with a 'misunderstood' misogynist. So either say something meaningful or go find another thread to play in.
yeah, go to sleep & get off your soapbox. that'll do the trick! ya' sound a bit cranky there!:p:D

nyt, buddy! lol

DaemonSeid 10-28-2009 09:24 PM
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Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries (Post 1862054)
yeah, go to sleep & get off your soapbox. that'll do the trick! ya' sound a bit cranky there!:p:D

nyt, buddy! lol
ok 'pal'

MasonsInquiries 10-28-2009 09:25 PM
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Originally Posted by knight_shadow (Post 1862051)
Oh, the irony :)
get some rest. it'll be ok.....lol. i believe it's your bedtime.


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