I would contact your daughter's ZTA big sister and speak with her about this.

Re: Can you lavalier with a soldier?
 

ZTA may do things differently, but in my chapter we did candle passes not only for lavaliering but engagements as well. I don't see any reason why your daughter couldn't have a candle pass if her boyfriend wanted to tag her, unless the chapter just doesn't do that. Contact the chapter advisor or even a member, they should be able to tell you. :)

I would imagine that her chapter would allow this.

When I was in school a member had a boyfriend who was an independent and didn't go to our school - he gave her a promise ring and she was allowed to have a candle passing as though it were a lavaliering.

At my school once a sister was lavaliered/pinne/engaged she contacted the ritual chair, who was responsible for organizing the candle pass. I would imagine that your daughter could talk to the person in charge for their chapter and explain the situation.

Congrats to your ZTA!! :)

~Allison

Re: Can you lavalier with a soldier?
 

I don't see why not (unless ZTA has some rule that it must be a fraternity lavalier). As I posted earlier in this thread, my husband (an independent) gave me a little charm on a pendant, and my chapter had a candle lighting for me. Why should we miss out on all the fun just because we fell in love with independents?? :D

Somehow I never saw this thread, but I have a few things to toss in here.

*I have friends that are pinned by SigEps from three different WI chapters. NONE of them have ever sat in on any rituals other than those open to the public (like Burning Heart). About half my active chapter is pinned or about to be to a SigEp, so I think I'm relatively knowledgeable on the situation. ;)

*ZTA-Mom, I think that tradition sounds really cute, and I'm sure her chapter would have a candlepass for a tagging, since it sounds just like lavaliering to me.

*I think it's amazing how much this varies from campus to campus - I know lots of girls from Platteville who were pinned, hardly any at Marquette who are, and my friend, who is outgoing president of his Phi Tau chapter, had never ever heard of pinning until I mentioned it.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, to all of you wonderful ladies!

The tags arrived as a surprise for a very patient Senior in love with a soldier. They don't have much time to shop in Baghdad and he wanted her to have something that showed his committment to her for hanging in there for almost the entire school year , especially her senior year as a chair in her sorority. So many activities she had to attend alone or with friends. :(

It's also a family tradition going back 3 generations so it has major significance in the family as well.

Her Christmas wish is a candle passing ceremony (they request them for major committment like pinning, etc.) and without spilling the beans knew you all could help me- it's still a secret until Christmas Eve! :D

It's a spare set, just so nobody worries he's without his tags in battle.:p

Happy Holidays!

UPDATE:

Well, I guess it was more wishfull thinking on the home front. Soldier Boy considers it just a "keep me on your mind" kinda thing than an actual comittment on his part. :(

He should be able to give your daughter his dog tags regardless if it's not a fraternity lavalier. ZTA doesn't have any national rules about lavaliering.
I think that sounds like an awesome idea!

As an International Officer of a NPC group, women NEVER give their pins to a BF no do they give their letters by giving a lavaliere either! Letters should stay within its members unless it is on a t-shirt associated with a function or philanthropy.

Fixed your post.

There are many national/international officers posting on here and if this was an NPC-wide rule, one of them would have piped up a long time ago.

Fixed it a little more.

Really, I'm not one to take a red pen to any old random post, but if you're going to bump a 7-year old thread with a two sentence post in which you identify yourself an "International Officer of an NPC group," at least try for some correct grammar and accuracy.

As a freshman, I was pinned by a fraternity man, and at the time I wasn't aware of how meaningful it truly was. Now that I'm a sorority woman, I wish I had known. Even though we aren't together now, I think it would have let me know how much I truly meant to him.