Some GLOs do not have to allow affiliations - I know my chapter voted on several affilate applications during my time there. And, if it was a large SEC chapter expecting a large pledge class - - I'm guessing they didn't want a girl they had already passed on previously AND they didn't "pick out" themselves. (Since this was a well documented "end run" around the membership selection strategy, it was probably justified not to affiliate her.)

My own brother joined a national Frat his freshman year at a smaller school, and then transferred to Ole Miss. He told me that as an "Affilitated" member, he could not vote on ANYTHING. He was simply a "social" member. But, that was the way it was organized with them.

BTW, the young woman in the discussion was actually a lovely and kind person and fit in well with the chapter on my campus, sorta leaves you to wonder WHO wanted her to join the SEC chapter . . . :rolleyes:

Nolefan, if that is a reference to adult beverage time....a nice glass of pinot noir is being poured right now.

I hope your daughter is having a good week!

Skit round has started....this is the last year they will be done. Ole Miss will be moving to a sisterhood/values round next year.

Yes ma'am - and as a matter of fact I only drink red :) You're so kind, yes, my girl is enjoying herself, it's been fairly low key so far. I do think this is a great life lesson for her and that she is learning things. ex: She mentioned to me that a house she hadn't been as impressed with the first round made a great showing for philanthropy day and she really likes them as well as any of the others now. It was fun to hear her talking about how proud each sorority is of their respective philanthropies and what they do to support them. I love that this aspect means something to the chapters and to my daughter.

It's amazing, this "mama waiting in the wings" business is harder than I thought it would be. It is WAY harder than my own rush experience for sure. My favorite part has been how much I'm learning about my daughter and her observations. I have also loved how much fun my sorority sisters are having keeping up with how things are going this week as well as some of our family friends who wrote recs for my daughter. We have lots of text threads going and my daughter has felt very loved hearing from the ones she is closest to. Really a neat thing.

I'm going to go put my younger daughters to bed so I can have another glass of wine, I'm able to keep busy during the day but these evenings of waiting for a phone call from her are just about all I can take :) I end up awake way past my bedtime (eastern time zone) and then having to get up at 6 a.m. - I'm so glad tomorrow is Friday :)

Leaving school when rush didn't work out as expected was definitely a thing. A high school friend went to Emory in the 70s, participating in rush in Aug before school began. She didn't get the bid she wanted, so daddy packed her up, she immediately moved into a dorm at SMU, which they had on the string with all of the deposits, dorm room, fees etc (at that time SMU had deferred rush in Jan) Daddy bought her a new wardrobe, a red convertible, and she pledged the sorority of Daddy and Mommy's dreams in Jan at SMU.

Blew my little State U mind, but it happened.

Hope we hear some wonderful stories about this recruitment!

That's crazy! What happened to "suck it up, buttercup"?:eek:

What time do the girls receive their invitations?

Not for the Princess!

We had a gal from my town who transferred to 3 different schools - albeit 3 different years - to get the sorority of choice - each time a less competitive campus. She never transferred back to the original campus, though, so I'll give her that.

And it still happens.

I wrote an update but the internet ate it.

Daughter aka my pretty pretty princess (that was her favorite game when she was little ;) ) is going to have round 2 of sisterhood today. She made friends with sisters in a few houses after getting to Ole Miss campus and I think that helped her. She kept the houses that invited her back for philanthropy for sisterhood round. Legacy chapter invited her back for the second invitational so that's good too. A friend of hers was cut from recruitment and PPP feels lucky.

I took the afternoon off work and am driving to Oxford soon. It should take several hours and I hope the roads are clear.

Nolefan and Sassymom- GOOD LUCK to your daughters!! and keep the wine handy -you've almost made it through. Friends daughter was cut by one of her favorites but still had 4 great ones for skit (sorry sisterhood :-) ). She also had a very good friend that was released all together so she is feeling very grateful.

I wondered why recruitment was just taking place now. It seemed really late.

I've mentioned this before on GC, but I love those stories about how women would transfer schools and go thru another recruitment in order to get the group they wanted. That's crazy! :)

Those stories were pretty commonplace in Texas. Some of the girls would stay at the new school and others would transfer back and attempt to affiliate. I don't personally know anyone who rushed unsuccessfully at school A, transferred to B and pledged the desired group there, and transferred back to A and successfully affiliated.

This is the best story I've heard yet about that craziness! That young lady must have had psychotic-level determination to reach her goal to put herself through three rushes!! How could she even function at school? The physical, mental and emotional exhaustion would've been a severe detriment starting out the school year, and getting the grades you needed to even initiate! :eek:

My question is, if all this comes out, will you really be afforded the post-graduate social amenities that the "right" sorority gets you? Or will you be Tilly the Transfer until you're in the nursing home?

That is good to hear. I'm glad your friend's daughter is being openminded and feels grateful. I didn't go to Ole Miss but I've heard all the houses are great. Cuts are said to have been brutal this year from what PPP heard. PNMS have been whispering that it's because Alpha Phi is colonizing this year. From the earlier posts in this thread I guess that might have some truth to it.

PPP had only left 4 after the first round of cuts and luckily all 4 invited her back for sisterhood. We were worried before but now we're thinking her chances are good that she will get a bid. PPP just called and said that she feels good. They have to meet in about 2 hours and she seems cool as a cucumber.

Good luck to your friend's daughter, Nolefan's daughter, and every other PNM going through rush. This has been so nervewracking and I wish I could have some wine just thinking about it but some singalong music will have to do for now.

My chapter was used twice like this when I was an active. It was when there wasn't a snowball's chance of a "yankee" getting an SEC bid, if you lived above the Mason-Dixon line! What really burned me was the number of women who would have been committed to the chapter who had been cut so that these special snowflakes could get a bid.

Another phenomena was when a chapter closed (in our case, WVU), and many sisters transferred and wanted to affiliate. For the most part, we accepted them happily.

But maybe, if they wanted to be a member of that GLO sooooo bad, they end up being really good, involved alums? Do you think that is true? Or do you think it's all about being in a certain GLO on a certain campus?

I had never thought of the alumnae involvement. That makes me feel much, much better about a few tense times in the ole sorority suite! ;)

And yes, I do think that campus culture has a lot to do with it, too.

Stay dry Nolefan!!! My mom's in Columbia and yes has been contemplating both arks and life-boats! Glad your daughter is doing so well!!! Hang in there!

Adding to the multi-rush stories--I'd heard about this sort of thing happening, but I only saw one first-hand--and it was a doozy. A girl in my high school class, daughter of high-profile society donors (who were and are absolutely people), was one of the nastiest pieces of work I've ever encountered. Mean, self-important, and just hateful. Her only friends were hangers-on who enjoyed her parents' generosity. We both moved into the same private dorm at UT, and started recruitment together. This was back before open houses, and you started out with up to eight invitations (out of fourteen houses). She started out with a full set of invitations--and was immediately cut from every.single.one--including her mother's house.

Within twenty-four hours, she was out of the dorm and on her way to Mary Baldwin, where there are no NPC sororities. I didn't see her again until our ten-year reunion, where she refused to speak to anyone and left early. I hope all that money makes up for having no friends.

UT as in Texas or Tennessee? Why go to a reunion if you're not going to talk to anyone?

They are at Prefs right now.... Eeeeeeeeeeek!!!!!!!!

Thank you nolefan! And congratulations on your middle daughter turning 13! That's a big one. I hope the slumber party went well, that the girls helped keep you distracted, and that y'all danced into the night.

Three daughters? That's a lot of recruitments. ;) I only have my one daughter and one son who is still in high school. My husband is not a fan of Greek life even though he dated me as a sorority woman, so jury's out on who will end up influencing our son more.

With the breaks...the same thing happened to me with my daughter's schedule during the philanthropy round! I'm so far removed from my own recruitment and not at all in the know about Ole Miss recruitment that I almost had a panic attack. Thankfully things turned out okay. Congratulations to your daughter for having a full schedule and being happy about all of the houses she has left. I think that your daughter sounds like she has an amazing attitude about this process. She seems to be taking things how they go and I think that being relaxed is the only way to get through this in a positive way. I hope she gets her top choice on Sunday, but if your daughter has a relaxed and grateful attitude, I'm sure Sunday will go swimmingly no matter where she ends up.

PPP is so excited as well and I'm so glad that she didn't let tent talk influence any of her decisions. We talked about it a bit last night after I got in (the drive was fine but I was tired after hours of driving!) so after our talk I went back to the hotel and we had an early night. I asked her if she wanted to spend the night in my hotel room, but she said that wasn't allowed to do that, so we got together for a quick breakfast this morning, after which she had to go get ready because they had to meet at 12:15 pm for preference. I didn't realize how early in the day preference would happen, but this will give us a chance to get dinner together afterward and maybe catch a movie so that we're both distracted. The Martian just came out and is supposed to be good.

I do hope you're not getting too much rain! I've heard that hurricane Joaquin has been terrible! Hope you're hanging on and that it's not as bad as was expected!

In other news, I can no longer get updates about how PPP's rush is going because last night I accidentally smashed my iPhone. Now I don't have any means of taking pictures or video tomorrow since I also forgot to bring my camera. The nearest Apple store is 2 hours away and my phone insurance won't ship to an address that isn't my home address. Not that I'd be able to get a delivery on Sunday anyway. PPP keeps saying that I wouldn't get any good photos or videos anyway so why worry about it? I guess if she's not fussed about it, I shouldn't fuss about it either, but this is one of those cases where I as a mom get pretty wound up and my daughter is pretty chill. She said there are going to be many photos taken and she would take a lot with her phone as well, so I will have a photo or two of her with her new letters.

Does anyone know how long the bid day festivities go on for tomorrow? I know that we need to get to the Grove by noon and that bids are distributed just at 1:15. I'm assuming it'll be an all day thing with bid day parties in the evening and that PPP and I will just get breakfast on Monday before I drive home. It's a pretty quick trip and that makes it quite tiring. But I'm glad I came, even though PPP is busy with the whole recruitment thing. ;)

I'm assuming it's Texas based on her username. ;)

I agree, there's no point in going to a reunion if you're not going to talk to anyone. That's strange.

For all the Ole Miss women, is The Lily Pad where we're supposed to get bid day gifts? I didn't realize until PPP told me that some moms send their girls presents every day of rush week. That seems excessive.

I also didn't realize that we could order presents before bid day and that they'd get a master list of the pledge classes. I'm going to walk there now to see whether I can still place an order. :)

I left Bid Day gifts for Beloved Granddaughter up to my daughter; she dropped the ball. I am still very sad over that, but there's no way I'd say anything to her.

BTW, BG is a Senior this year; not at Ole Miss, though.

She went to try to show off her continued superiority, flash her big diamonds, perfect husband and make sure that everyone knew she was STILL better than they are.

I hope it didn't work.

Pref parties are over and the hard work & sleepless night begins soon....

She found someone to marry her? LOL Poor guy.

She is NOT missing having a sideline seat, because we three have been in contact and I will be standing in for her in The Grove tomorrow and sending photos and videos!

Go to Big Bad Breakfast on North Lamar ... you deserve to take home a teeshirt that says, "Oh, Lard!"

Yes! Big Bad is wonderful! Best biscuits ever!

Quota 142.

I love following this thread. I'm gonna pop back in later today to see where the girls of the parents in this thread wound up! :)

I love reading this!! I pop in every year around this time to catch up. I hope your daughters find their homes!! Good luck to all!

My niece is so excited! I can't wait to hear where she lands!

nolefan's daughter ended up in Pi Phi. She is in her dream world. I took pictures and videos for her mama since she couldn't get there. We were texting all afternoon ... heheh! I will leave it to her discretion as to any photos she wants to post.

There were A LOT of very happy girls. When they took off running for their houses, I nearly got trampled!

LK, you are so thoughtful!

Yay for a Pi Phi Angel!
 

So excited to hear about a new Pi Phi angel! I know about a dozen girls participating in recruitment and have seen pics of 2 Tri-Delts and 2 KDs so far. I'm sure it has been a super exciting day!

YAY Nolefan(s) daughter!!! So happy for her and for Pi Phi... my friends daughter is a new DG and is "over the moon" with happiness... So excited for all of the girls and their mom's... and seriously LK you are awesome... :-)