There were as many spots as there women at pref. The sororities can have an entire class full of sophomores if they want to. Upperclass quota doesn't mean that's the only upperclassmen they can bid.

.... I think some of the information presented in the last few days isn't 100% accurate, but it's a fairly close approximation and probably about as good as the average greek will interpret it....

I'm bumping this for general info. How many times does a PNM tell us that there was a mistake and her friends in her top choice swear she was on their first list?

I bet that if one of my friends had rushed and not gotten a bid, I might have told her the same thing, though. Southern courtesy plus what else can you say?

A ba-zillion times. At least.

We had one girl in absolute tears this year. She preffed us and another house. Her friend accepted a bid from the other house and she from us. She lied to us at Bid Day and told us that her parents were in town and wanted to soend time with her. Two of our sisters walked her out when her ‘parents’ got there only to find out she called friends to come get her bc she didn’t want her bid from us anymore. Why accept the bid if you aren’t going to at least give the new member process a chance? Why take the spot from someone else who may have really wanted a bid from us? And then why lie? As I am handing you your new member goodie pack and book, just be straight with me.

My understanding is that she thinks they’ll give her a bid—-that she cannot accept for a year. And, that chapter is above campus total, so they won’t be doing COB or spring recruitment. I have no sympathy at this point.

If you accept a bid, give it a chance and get to know the women. You may truly love it. If you don’t see yourself in that house, don’t pref them.

Exactly- once you’re bound for a year, you literally have nothing to lose by trying to get to know the sorority. Unless you have some sort of delusion and think that being Polly Pouty Pants and refusing to accept an offer of friendship makes you more attractive to other sororities.

Oof. Let us know how that works out. If the other chapter wanted her enough, she would have been higher on their bid list.

I knew girls who completely dropped out of rush way early into the process after only being dropped from their #1 top choice, which seemed sad to me. Why not at least continue rush and give the other sororities a chance! I know SO many girls who came into rush with the idea in their head they HAD TO HAVE XYZ, and then when they went through rush and met all of the sororities, they totally fell in love with another sorority,got a bid from them on bid day and were absolutely happy with their choice, and that they allowed themselves to get to know all of the other orgs before choosing! It is so easy to say I want to be XYZ, because my best friend at _________ University is a XYZ!!! But every sorority at every school is different! You may find a sorority you fall in love with that you never expected! I hate that so many people in greek orgs have such sad bid day stories/ rush stories :(

Agree. I remember a chapter legacy who rushed the year I did - I think her grandmother also was a Gamma Phi She was released the first year and dropped out of rush at that point. Determined to be a Gamma Phi despite 11 other wonderful sororities.

She rushed her sophomore year. We released her after 2nd round, not a personality fit. She dropped out of rush again. I met her the next year through friends and when she learned I was a Gamma Phi, she told me she just couldn't imagine being anything else, hence dropping out of rush.

So sad because there were so many great chapters at my alma mater. Never learned why she was so fixated on her legacy house, but there you go. She totally robbed herself of a sisterhood experience.

PNM have to remember/learn that whatever goes on behind closed doors during recruitment, stays behind closed doors forever. I know a young lady who went through recruitment years ago. Her mother and grandmother were members of a sorority that was on the woman's campus. Gramma was a charter member of the chapter on the PNM's campus. She "knew" she would be a sister to her grandmother and sister following recruitment. To her surprise, the chapter her grandmother helped to charter dropped her. Luckily, PNM although very disappointed, did not drop out of recruitment and went on to join a chapter that was a perfect fit for her.

DaffyKD

bumping for 2023--good info!

Currently, what is the maximum number of chapters a PNM may list on her Formal Recruitment Pref Card? And did the NPC mandate/agree to hold to a max number?

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