Wareagle, you are awesome. Good luck tomorrow.

Wareagle: You go girl! Sending you best wishes for tomorrow!

Wareagle....we are all rooting for you! You are so right - Auburn is a FAMILY and you are already a part of that! Keep us posted tomorrow.

So glad to hear an update from you Wareagle! Good luck - hoping you hear from all of your chapters from today, especially your favorites!! Please keep posting...

If this ends up being a duplicate please forgive me! I think I canceled my previous post.

I am keeping my fingers crossed for my PNM daughter. I was not greek in college, and the information we got from the school when we signed up for rush indicated that letters of rec were like extra credit. She did get letters for about a third of the houses, but I am hoping her lack of recommendations won't hurt her this round. She had 9 philanthropies so I have my fingers crossed. She has had a lot of fun!

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=121246

Just plugging the topic I started in the Recruitment Forum regarding an article from Auburn University Division affairs about deferred sorority and fraternity recruitment. I decided to post a link here because I thought those interedted in Auburn Recruitment might enjoy reading. Please forgive the slight hyjack and War Eagle!

Hey guys! My pi chi just text me my schedule and I'm happy to say I've got six parties for skit day!

yay aubie!!!

Congrats! Sounds like you're in for a fun day! Make the best of it, and good luck!

First of all, congrats!

And a question, just because I'm curious.. Is this how PNMs are officially informed of their schedules at Auburn? Through text? If so, how long has that been going on?

I was released. It sucks. Good luck to all the other PNMs here!! I know you will all do great. :)

:(:(:(

I'm so sorry wareagle. Take today to grieve or be angry or whatever you have to do. Then tomorrow you can start to re-evaluate and see what's next on the horizon. My understanding is there isn't a lot of COB at Auburn, but I would express interest in that to your Rho Chi, just in case. You never know! And then start looking at what other clubs on campus can benefit from your awesomeness.

If you're still interested in Greek life, please go to the GL Office and sign up for COB! If you'd rather not think about that now, check out the lists of fabulous activities available at AU! They're online and at the Union. Also, posters about fascinating activities will start popping up around campus any day!

Oh no - Wareagle So very sorry!!
Once everyone else is on campus, it will feel different. I can tell from your posts you have so much to offer - it is their loss.... You are on one of the BEST college campuses in the world and have *so* many options.

wareagle please take carnation and DubaiSis's advice. you had an awesome attitude throughout the process and i know you will find your place in the auburn family

Could not have said it any better myself! You seem like a fantastic young lady, and it's their loss. The AU Family is more than Greek Life, the people at AU are some of the friendliest people in the world! I was in awe of how many clubs and activities that the University offers, and although I pledged, I'm still looking to take part in some, great way to meet people! Make the most of it, and good luck!

The thing is, Wareagle, you probably have a general idea of how RFM works, but it's not perfect. Chapters could have cut too many girls and end up short of quota, even though they are a strong chapter. The numbers of girls to keep versus cut is an art not a science. I'm not saying put all your emotional eggs in the "second chance at sorority" basket, but you should still consider it.

Daughter has 3 skit parties today. 2 standout favorites and one that she justcan'tseem to connect with. Not sure what the day will hold but she's still in it 100%.

As a side note she had 13 recs and she only made it back to 3 for philanthropy. So recs do not guarantee you past the first cut. (and most of those had 2 recs submitted)

That's great that your daughter got invited back. Perhaps she'll get to know the lone Sorority that she can't seem to connect with better. Definitely hoping her day goes well with all 3, especially the 2 favorites. Hoping for some good news next time you post (tonight or tomorrow)!

Recs are never a "guarantee" of anything. At a competitive school like Auburn, almost every pnm has them so all they do is put you on the same footing as those other pnms in that respect. With many chapters you will get cut without a rec, so when you have one you are able to at least eliminate the possibility of being cut simply because you don't have one.

Update here - my daughter also got invited back to 3 skit parties - one of those has been her favorite (so far) but she is open to the other two as well.... Should be a fun day for her (but a pins and needles day for me)....

Thanks for posting that about the recs GAmomof2.... I've been so distraught over this - We were counting on one family friend (a teacher) who promised to get many different recs for my daughter. AFTER rush began - I e-mailed her and discovered she did not follow through with any (except for her own sorority).... So your post has made me feel better. What will be will be...

Not only that, but not all recs are glowing recommendations. Just saying.

**hugs**

Go ahead and sign up. You're not binding yourself to anything if you do and there are no additional fees. If you still aren't feeling it when the time comes around to attend events, you don't have to.

My daughter was blessed with a full schedule of parties. She is very excited. She has five of her favs left and three of her top four. Two she still hasn't felt any connection with at all. She is looking forward to a great day.

I agree with what's been said about AU. It's a great place for so much social life and activities. Everyone will find their perfect place!

Wareagle - I know from talking with daughter that this has been an emotionally draining experience and I'm sorry things didn't turn out the way you had hoped. BUT - Auburn has so many great ways to get involved. Tiger Tuesdays is a great group to be involved in. Like others have said, after you think about it, maybe COB would be something to consider as well.

Good luck in whatever you decide - Auburn is fortunate to have YOU!

So sorry that happened to your daughter.

But for the sake of all PNMs at competitive schools, both now and into the future, I want to reiterate what I said above:

A positive recommendation WILL NOT prevent a PNM from being cut in any given round. It WILL only prevent her from being cut for the reason of NOT having one at all.

there are rush group photos posted on the auburn panhellenic facebook page. so cute and i loved the creative signs that the pi chis made to distinguish their group from the others.

A good friend of mine always does recs for girls that I know for her sorority, and she has been frustrated in the past few years because her rec girls seem to never make it past first round at the school she attended. She fired off an e-mail to the chapter today because out of 6 recs she wrote for very smart, cute girls, none made it back to 2nd round. The chapter advisor responded that at this particular campus where numbers going through recruitment are huge, her best bet is to bring the girls by the previous spring and introduce them to some members if she wants them to have a chance of being invited back. Think that goes along with the other comments about recs not meaning what they used to.

This site has been wonderful for my nerves tonight.... the thread on dresses with boots is hilarious!!! Best wishes for every PNM tomorrow. Any other moms planning to drive to Auburn on Sunday?

Her Dad and I will be there.

Sad news this morning.... my daughter was released :(. Thanks to everyone here for your support and valuable information. I wish the best to the rest of the PNM's and their moms I've "met" here.

Oh, Lavalier. :(

There's some great advice for released PNMs earlier on this thread and I hope that y'all will read it if she still wants to be Greek. Last year we had 2 released PNMs on GC who signed up for informal recruitment immediately and they ended up with bids. There were 2 the year before that.

Stay strong!

Lavalier & Wareagle,

I'm very sorry! I know this week was alot of work and stress not to have the ending you planned. I wasn't Greek in college and had an amazing experience. AU is such a great, friendly environment with so many great groups to get involved with.

I'm so very sorry wareagle and lavaliere. :( I was hoping for a happy ending for everyone on here. Chin up, put your name in for informal (if desired), and we'll continue to keep fingers crossed! Bottom line is that Auburn is wonderful school, and they will find their niche somewhere, even if it's not in greek life.

Has anyone heard how it's going for the chapters? Are girls dropping with chapters left because they aren't happy with who they have? We've heard none of that here, but the mothers in this thread seem to be smart and practical enough to have counseled against that sort of thing. I sure hope that's not happening when we know of at least 2 girls who would be livid to find out some ungrateful hag took their spot. (too harsh?)

eta/ and again, I'm so sorry for this outcome. Please keep in touch about what your daughter decides to do now.

lavalier, i am so sorry that your daughter was released. i hope that she will feel better soon(and you too). might i suggest that you drive to auburn in a week of two for a little retail therapy? when my college boyfriend and i broke up, my mother arrived the following
Saturday and took me out to lunch and shopping-it really helped!

Lavalier, I'm really sorry! I can imagine that it's been a very stressful and agonizing time, and your daughter seems like a really sweet girl! There's more than just greek life at AU. I agree with FuturePNMMom. The people at AU are arguably the most friendly in the entire country, and there are literally HUNDREDS of activities to be involved in. No doubt she'll find her niche somewhere, and who knows? Perhaps she might give it another try next year! In the meantime, organizations/clubs such as IMPACT and Tiger Tuesdays are GREAT ways to get involved, and I'm certainly looking to be involved in such a club aside from my pledging a Fraternity.

Good luck to your daughter and War Eagle!