By the way, I must add that this is sooooo right. This is the God's honest truth.....when Brent does this to me and he gets me there, sometimes if I really let go and writhe and moan he actually, uh, how can I put this delicately......he makes a wet spot on the bed!!!!! I swear to God it's true....he is the only man I have ever met who could come just from making a woman come.:o

you are so rt. about the relationship thing-it is soooooo much better and I think more fun. BTW reading this thread is making me rowled up and damit I am at work and even then I have no boyfriend -dang it:( :( :(

Happy Hour Sweetie, that is why God Gave us Happy Hours . .:)

been there done that:D

I must agree with Ericka-that period of "anticipation" is a time that compares to no other.

Ladies, all I can say is, after 10 years of dating(off and on) and 21 years of marriage to the same man, it only gets better-IF there is love, trust and commitment. The most difficult time is when the babies need you at all hours and exhaustion sets in. If you have a man who is understanding, it all falls into place somehow. Actually, it's almost like reverting back to the begining when spontaneity and creativity kick back in, not to mention the re-emergence of anticipation.

When we look at each other we don't "see" what others see.
I'm still 27 and he's 28. I'm "the girl with those great legs" and he's the "sexy, Southern, bad boy" who made my heart race and tied my stomach in knots. This is the real prize and sad to say, jumping in and out of bed with numerous "aquaintances", living for the pleasure of the moment, can blind you to what we ALL are hoping for in the end-to NOT be alone. This is not a condemnation af sexual liberation, it is merley a point to consider.
It's hard enough to find the right one. Here's a twist on a common analogy. When shopping, you don't pull out a sweater and buy it, you lok it over-see if it's shop worn-is it an irregular-WHAT WILLTHIS COST ME-all these things before you even try it on... Sometimes it's a very pretty sweater and it's on sale! You are very tempted-some WILL try it on, others will keep looking and a few will buy it because it's there and it's cheap. Who will be the happiest? I think the one who keeps looking until thy find what they really want. Too bad for the ones who bought the first sweater they saw. There was a "perfect" one on the next isle...they didn't take the time to find it.

again justamom speaks so well and right on the nail! :cool:

Okay, I didn't think I was going to reply...
 

All this talk makes me miss my boy...who I just saw yesterday. Oh well...;)

Anyway, I really think it's best to wait until you've found that right person. I've found that the sentiment, at least to my college friends, sounds really conservative, but they often end up regretting their adventures. When you know, you KNOW.

Moving on "downtown"...I love it. :p Some people don't...it may be due to discomfort with sexuality, etc., or it could be that it just doesn't do anything for them. I used to be the latter. Something happened, I don't know what, but now I could seriously have it every day. I'm glad because I'm with someone who is even more enthusiastic about it than I am! :D

Oh yeah, the subject line. You know, I really don't know. I just don't know. I think it definitely has to do with the size of the lady. But, maybe I'm wrong.

I was just enjoying reading this thread, but I have to jump in.

I'm down with "oral communications", but the thing about being comfy with letting a guy go down there got me thinkin'. I've found that I'm more relaxed if I've been keeping up on my bikini waxes. I'm pretty sure it's all in my head, but if I'm more tidy below the belt then I don't worry about all the things that could be wrong. Has anyone else felt te same way?

Since we've already gone this far, guys do you have a preference of a girl's bikini line? Would you freak out if a girl you were getting with had a brazilian wax (almost no hair, except a "landing strip" down the center) or would you just think she's well kept?

Heidi

Heidi, I have been obsessed with keeping things "well-groomed" since I was 15!!!! My man actually prefers it all gone, so that is what I have been doing. But he doesn't mind a nicely designed landing strip either. I think if your drapes totally don't match the carpet it is a good idea to remove it, you see these chicks in Playboy with the bleached platinum pubes and it's like "get a life!!!"

I would like to mention something that is possibly controversial. I agree as usual with most of what Mom said, but I would like to make a case for experiementing A LITTLE before marriage. Ideally, the person you marry is the person you will be with, faithfully (unless you work that out amongst yourselves) forever. Sexual compatibility is a MUST. You need a chance to discover what you like and you need a chance to find out if he is a good fit (no pun intended.) I thank my lucky stars every day that Brent has yet to find any of my fantasies or preferences to be odd or disgusting or wrong. And I am eternally grateful that he never ceases to amaze (and excite) me with his own. And you don't have to actually do THE DEED to find all this out....you can do everything else and still have a pretty good idea. Watching shows like "Real Sex" or "Taxicab Confessions" togrether is a great way to kind of feel each other out (again no pun intended) as to what is intriguingly kinky and what is appalling. I mean, if someone told you you had to eat chicken every night for the rest of your life, how would you react? Well, if it was a plain broiled chicken breast day after day, you'd rebel pretty quickly. On the other hand, if you could have the chicken fried, or baked, or cut up and tossed with pasta, or in parmigiana, or whatever pleased you, you'd be a lot more likely to keep enjoying the chicken. (Where do I come up with this crap?) But you get the idea.

Heidi,

It doesnt matter to me really. I'd probably prefer less rather than more. Its what makes her comfortable is whats good with me.

Kevin

ErikaXO
I hear ya on the errr...chicken thing...
as far as the brazilian mohawk or whatever it was, neatness, especially in that area is def. a good thing. Being bare, eh, not really all that necesary. i remember someone mentioning how having a completely bare women made it seem like he was doing a 10 year old, which was disturbing enough to hear., i think it left some kind of messed up imprint in my mind. So, I guess what I'm saying is, neatness is good, bareness could be good too, especially for the "oral communication" ( I should copyright that term), but too much is def. too much.

Bald I say:D But of legal age of COURSE;)

Ya man, no jait bait for me!

Since I was the one who started that bikini line trim tangent & everyone has been so forthcoming with their own likes/dislikes, I might as well thow myself into the mix. :) I have always been thankful to be in a monogomous relationship b/c I prefer the "brazilian mohawk" & I assumed that other guys would be freaked out to see a near-bald nether region.
Going back to the begining of the thread, I can't answer the question about comparing size vs technique. I've only been with 1 person. I might be bringing this thread up in the future b/c I've been having that "but he'll never find out" thought more than I should be. :confused: That's probably best left for another thread :confused: :o
"Oral communication" is wonderful. Guys, if you don't do it you should! I do understand those ladies who've said they don't feel comfy letting any old guy go down on them. If I ever act on that "he'll never find out" thought, I don't know if I'd let the new guy go down on me. I'll be sure to update everyone on my new found info if that situation ever occurs.
Premarital relations. I'm clearly not married & have clearly had relations. As long as it's healthy sex, I don't really care. I have had friends do it so that they could feel better about themselves, hang out with the big man on campus & other not-so-great reasons and later regretted it. To each his own.
If I forgot to reply regarding anything else, I'll edit this post later.
Heidi

ErikaXO,

I love your posts. You crack me up. :)

Kevin

Your more sensitive when theres less too.

Thanks for the compliment, Kevin.....I do my best!!!! As to the sensitivity thing, you are right on the mark. Makes a biiiig difference.

While we are on the subject of grooming, how do you ladies feel about the guys? Some of them can be pretty, uh, furry!!!! I know of guys that "shape things up" a bit down there.....

Anytime Erika. XO rocks :D

If a guy shaves down there I am gone! I will have none of that!

Yikes!!!
 

I don't mind a bit of "grooming" but it's kind of freaky if a guy gets rid of it all down there. I sometimes dated a swimmer in college and everyone knows swimmers shave their bodies but this guy kind of went overboard with the shaving thing. All I can say is "Yikes!!!"

Oh, I totally agree....there has to be something there. Although rumor has it that the less hair there is, the larger the equipment looks. Not to be gross, but lots of times "the boys" are covered with hair and it makes it harder to....(that's it....it's gone....I have no shame left whatsoever!!!!!!!!) lavish the proper reciprocal ATTENTION on them......I would have no problem with a little hair removal there. My dear hubby has let me clip things up a bit but he isn't down with the shaving thing. I guess his brother tried it once and it was Hell growing back.

Not to be gross, but lots of times "the boys" are covered with hair and it makes it harder to....(that's it....it's gone....I have no shame left whatsoever!!!!!!!!) lavish the proper reciprocal ATTENTION on them......

GOOD LORD! GOD BLESS YA!

Hey Erika, I don't think ANYONE on this thread has any shame left. So don't worry 'bout it!!

But since I have been pretty quiet, I will throw in my 2 cents-This guy I dated a looooooong time ago is now back in my life, and he shaves EVERYTHING. Yep-and let me tell you , that is a first for me. And I don't think I like it, personally. But, I love him, so its ok.
And as for the oral communications-oh yeah, you give to get, I believe in equal opportunity, as I am sure all the men probaly do too!!;)

Definitely must agree. It makes me feel like I'm with an 11 year old! EWWW!

Yeah I agree, but like I say, it can't hurt to strip a little excess fuzz off the peach.....

But when you get rid of that much how do you keep from having razorburn and grow-back itching and stuff?

Okay...the hair on the "boys"...I feel like it's a hindrance, and if you want special attention paid to them, special attention must be paid to them beforehand.

Less hair is better. I used to think it didn't make a difference, but it does. Oh yes, it does. :D

Since we have no shame here, I have agree with everything Erika said. Trimming is a definite necessity. Some people are preoccupied with the..ehm..."smell factor" and guys need to realize that they have that going on too!

no shame no shame
 

I have shaved the nether region and it hurts and itches growing back, I am scared to wax b/c I have waxed my eyebrows many times before and since my skin is so thin b/c I am a redhead my eyes swell shut and i am scared as to what would happen down there. Any redheads out there that has done the wax thing????
how did it go???

To the folks who go down. Do you use protection, like condoms on the guy and saran wrap on the girl? Or, not?

nope
 

i've never had a guy use saran wrap, and i would never use a condom. i don't think it would be half as good (especially for the guy) if there was something covering it. but thats just my opinion :D

seriously girl, you crack me up - you could write a book :cool:

Re: nope
 

Yeah, I could understand that, but the thought of tongues and mouths touching raw skin.....

On these discussion boards I take advantage. Believe me, I don't have the guts to ask questions like that in person. :)

Re: Re: nope
 

is completely erotic and hot ;) (sorry i had to)

Re: Re: Re: nope
 

Yeah of course, when it is done to someone. :)
But, when someone does it to someone else.....

i found this cartoon to be pretty damn funny - and i thought you all would enjoy it as well :D




WARNING - this is for mature eyes only!



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lol! that is too funny iowahawkeye! it fits in perfectly with the topic of discussion around here lately!! :D :p

The cartoon was SOOO funny! :D

As for saran wrap/latex...I think I'd use them if it were a random hookup...don't really know what you're getting into. For serious relationships, definitely not. SH80er, it is STILL erotic and hot (oh my...I really have no shame anymore!) to service your partner without covering. If you can hear every little moan, feel every little fidget...it's DEFINITELY worth it.

Ha ha ha...I should be a sex advice columnist! ;)

???
 

Forgive a question from an old lady who's been out of circulation for a few years....Saran Wrap? What do you do with it? Like you'd tear off a sheet and put it on your you-know-what? Eeeew! :confused:

Nicole - Love your cartoon; you're too funny! :D

It is now official: THERE IS NO SHAME LEFT ON THIS BOARD!!!