How many flouncers have come back with a different name? Do they reinvent themselves and/or avoid those who pick on them?

So no one ever picked on you in school? Really? And I don't know why it's so hard for you to imagine adults being bullied. In abusive relationships for example, aren't the victims being bullied? Being bullied has no age limit.

How many are actually being picked on though? In most cases, when the OP stops the foolishness and doesn't carry it into a different thread, the issue is forgotten about and GC folks move on rather quickly from what I've seen. It's only when the OP keeps things going and engages in a back and forth (clearly not being a victim), that the foolishness continues.

I don't know because I don't click on every thread and don't pay attention to the threads that I do click on unless something entertains me. :)

But, my post wasn't rhetorical. LOL. I was really asking you to tell me more about those who come back under a new name. Do they try to create a new identity and/or avoid those who had been messing with them?

1. When I think "bullying," I think of it as a recurring event (John Doe gets picked on every day when he walks into school). Sure, I have seen people give me looks (beginning of HS, as I was "the new kid -- never before that and not during the end of HS), but because of my body type and demeanor, it never went beyond that.

2. I wasn't thinking in term of domestic abuse. I was thinking bullying in social settings. It's hard for me to wrap my mind around HOW adults let themselves get bullied (read: social situations), but I don't deny that it happens. If we're throwing domestic abuse into the equation, then I agree, bullying has no age limit.

LOL -- I guess I'm lucky that person never found me

I'm more intrigued by the supposed body type and demeanor (especially as a youngin) that would stop others from whooping his ass.

:confused:

What exactly are you trying to get at? Are you trying to break down my walls and get to my core so I can admit that I TRULY got bullied?

Yes, people get picked on from time to time. No, it doesn't always translate into bullying.

Just saw this article pop up on my email homescreen, and it made me wonder... Are kids more sensitive to bullying now BECAUSE their parents go and fight every battle for them?

When I was in Jr. High, I was not a small girl (looking back at pictures, I wasn't huge, like I was lead to believe, but most definitely NOT small). Some girls called my house when I wasn't home and left a chorus of them repeating "Jellyroll, JELLYroll, jellyROLL, JELLYROLL", over and over. Being that it was on the answering machine, my parents heard it. Then, they deleted it and pretty much told me to get over it, because there are always going to be THOSE people in life, and you have to learn to deal with it. I feel like I'm a stronger person than I would have been if they WOULD have stepped in every time something like that happened.


PS...after starting a major life change diet over 2 years ago, I HIT MY GOAL WEIGHT THIS MORNING!! I have lost 112 lbs.

/major tangent

Good for you Alpha Frog. Losing a 112 pounds is like being a different person. :)

Way to go, AlphaFrog! That's fantastic. :D

I agree with this. The Dr. Phil show talked about this topic. Dr. Phil said that it's basically people who need to vent, pissed off at the world, or whatever, so they'll use the internet to take it out on people who might be easy to mess with. He said that people who cyberbully have some unresolved issues, and I'll take it one step further. People who bully people period, have some unresolved issues. For the times I've posted on here, I have seen certain people get picked on, but I wouldn't call it cyberbullying because you can either close the browser, use the ignore feature, not respond, or just talk the same shit back. If it's just as easy for the cyberbully, then it should be just as easy for the person being bullied. This is a good topic.

Congratulations to you, AlphaFrog!

Congratulations AlphaFrogy!!

No, I'll find something else to do when I get good and ready to, not because somebody else is talking shit to me. When I was in middle school, if somebody was harassing me, I would just flat out beat their ass. Point blank.

It always seems to stop after a good ass kicking. I never was the one to get punked by anybody.

re: Adult Bullying

I think bullying does exist in adulthood but we over-18s call it harassment. Kids tell the teacher, adults tell the police.

Well, she DID say "when I was in middle school"

Why is it hard to believe that people can and do stand up for themselves? Not everyone has been a victim of bullying (general statement, not directed at you DF).

My point was middle school to adulthood, retaliating isn't an option for everyone and doesn't always scare off bullies...it can sometimes make the situation worse. My personal opinion is to avoid violence unless it's directly in self defense from physical bodily harm.

Sometimes, you have to do what you have to do *shrugs*

I don't think adults should be threatening to whoop someone's ass, but if it comes down to it -- so be it.

Each to his own. My main point was that it isn't always that simple.

Right. And my point was that sometimes, it is :)

Fair enough

Seriously, you two are as bad as Dr. Phil and I when we get going.

Oooooor we're still having discussions ;)

Honestly, I just typed that so that I could have the last word.

So that's two reasons for Yays for you!!

Congrats!!!

I think one has a lot to do with the other... Let's face it...for every Tracy Turnblad, Bridget Jones and Kathy Bates, there are a thousand Millie Dilmonts, Erin Brachovichs, and Kate Hudsons.

I had a teacher once say that auditions are like grocery shopping...if the shopper is looking for carrots, you could be the best celery ever, but you're not getting picked. Well, I'm finally a carrot.

No. Unlike Alumiyum and knight_shadow, you think you can both initiate and end a back-and-forth; and you haven't learned that you can only control when you stop typing.

I haven't? I didn't realize that controlling others was an option in the first place. If I had, I would have just gone straight for your off button.

Either way, if somebody disrespects me on or off a message board they will get dealt with. How I choose to do that is on me.

No, you just have some dumb clients.

Thank you.

Maybe it's just semantics, but I see bullying as a pattern of getting picked on. I don't think one or two incidents = bullying. Also, my parents were military, so I've been in military settings for my entire life. Kids acted out from time to time, but fear of getting caught by your parents or someone in their unit(s) stopped them from going too far. That, along with my attitude and build, is why I think I wasn't bullied.

And yeah, ass kicking isn't always the answer, but sometimes it is an answer.

And that's a fine interpretation, I'm sure people who study bullying have technical definitions and all, but that's kind of how I think about it too.

And yeah I'd suspect the military setting, for some people at least, results in less harassment for kids. I can see other individuals not fitting in/having the support of parents/etc.

And sure, violence is 'an answer' but when someone sees it as their first and necessary option - "I'm not going to let them punk me." - versus "it was the last straw and I had to do something" or even if it was a singular situation.

I'm not even exaggerating when I say it's the same attitude as my clients have. Hell we had a discussion about pride bringing you down today in group. (And they started it, I'm so proud of them.)

This deserves a bump.

LOL @ AlphaFrog and me

You ever had a back and forth with a username that you knew was a really silly back and forth; and you don't know what either of you is talking about? LOL.

Way to make me depressed about gaining back 10 of those 112#. You're such a meanie.:(


By the way, I still have no clue why bullying is such a big deal now. We all went through it and managed to survive without the Jonas Brothers PSAs telling us that bullying is wrong.

My bad, shawty. ;)

The media, including the Internet, makes everything seem like a bigger deal than it is. The reality is that it was also a "big deal" when we were kids. I don't remember if there were PSAs on TV but we had a few school assemblies about people who were picking on others. Some things are kids being kids but it's up to adults to minimize the impact of it all.

The bullying when we were kids would've been different if we had cellphones and the Internet.

Very true and I do believe that its more prevalent now than when I was a kid. Between texting, t-witter and FB bullying can now happen 24/7 instead of just during school hours.

Yeah the Internet generation is doomed for many reasons including cyberbullying. I won't go on my Internet generation rant. :p

Bullying still had the potential to be 24/7 even before all of the social media sites.

I remember seeing/hearing about people following others home and/or jumping them before/after school. There just seems to be more keyboard courage these days.

OK, 14/7 lol I doubt FBers and T_witterers are online 168 hours per week ;)

My point was that bullying occurred outside of school hours.

These kids are online 168 hours a week. These stupid phones give them access to everything while they are in class, in the car, at the dinner table...I HATE IT and I love that teachers/professors are prohibiting some of the access.

Yes, it did. :)