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HotDamnImAPhiMu 02-01-2009 09:37 PM

I want to know what her thought process was once she knew she was having seven (the eighth was a surprise at delivery) babies. She knew she had six children already at home. She knew money was tight. She knew she didn't have a partner to share in the caretaking.

Did she worry about those things? Did she push them out of her mind? Did she optimistically think everything would work out despite all the odds? Did she hope some (most?) of the babies wouldn't make it? Did she think past the first few weeks - about the babies going to high school, college?

Unregistered- 02-03-2009 12:25 AM

Once mom of 14 comes home...grandma's taking off

HotDamnImAPhiMu 02-03-2009 07:34 AM

I love that, but do you think she really will? Once she sees the widdle babies and everything? I'm kind of doubting it. I think Grandma's irritated and the press probably got her all whipped up before they got that comment.

RaggedyAnn 02-03-2009 08:38 AM

I thought her daughter was living in her house??

DaemonSeid 02-03-2009 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 1773438)
True that, but who wants to practice common sense when there's a woman or couple waving $$ in your face? When a woman is willing to pay, common sense goes out the window.

Next question then...how does a single mom, living at home with her already 6 kids with no visible means of income, get the $$ to get the fertility treatment to get MORE kids?



Not unless she asked Daddy for an allowance.

Jill1228 02-03-2009 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid (Post 1774316)
Next question then...how does a single mom, living at home with her already 6 kids with no visible means of income, get the $$ to get the fertility treatment to get MORE kids?



Not unless she asked Daddy for an allowance.

That is what I want to know! The meds to prepare for the procedure runs a few thousand...let alone the acutal costs of the labs, ultrasounds and actual procedure.

I know some folks donate unused meds back to the clinic once they are finished. Hmmmmm, wonder if she helped herself to the meds needed to stim for the transfer?

Munchkin03 02-03-2009 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid (Post 1774316)
Next question then...how does a single mom, living at home with her already 6 kids with no visible means of income, get the $$ to get the fertility treatment to get MORE kids?



Not unless she asked Daddy for an allowance.


Her mom said she got "paid" for it. I don't know what that means, exactly. But maybe one of the benefits of working at a fertility clinic is free drugs and implantation? :confused::mad:

DaemonSeid 02-03-2009 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03 (Post 1774357)
Her mom said she got "paid" for it. I don't know what that means, exactly. But maybe one of the benefits of working at a fertility clinic is free drugs and implantation? :confused::mad:

Maybe but I doubt it because somewhere along the line those meds and money spent and made from them has to be accounted for.

HotDamnImAPhiMu 02-03-2009 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by RaggedyAnn (Post 1774309)
I thought her daughter was living in her house??

The parents had to foreclose on their house because they spent too much money trying to help their daughter.

When they foreclosed on the house, the parents moved into the daughter's house. From what I understand it's a 2 BR.

nikki1920 02-03-2009 01:04 PM

It's too small, however many bedrooms it has. At 33, your parents should not still be fully supporting you if you have 14 children. And I'm 32, with one, and my parents do not support me. They help out every once in a while, like when my car died this past summer, but not daily. And not with 14 kids.

DaemonSeid 02-03-2009 01:33 PM

They said it takes a village...well she has enough kids to become her own village (complete with zip code) and she is the idiot of the village.

...when they get old enough how does she expect to pay for daycare?

nikki1920 02-03-2009 01:48 PM

Again, with what money did she hire her?

As a single mom, she makes my uterus SICK!! Just SICK! :mad:

DaemonSeid 02-03-2009 01:51 PM

Waitwaitwaitwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaait.....and didn't somebody JUST post a thread that California is BROKE???

What.the.HELL??

Acceident...what accident?

Wait...i almost spit my water out at this:

Suleman, though, has hired an agent, Kauffman says, and there are reports she hopes to make money through TV interviews and even by working as an on-camera childcare expert.


WWWWWooooooowwwwww!!!

Jill1228 02-03-2009 01:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Munchkin03 (Post 1774357)
Her mom said she got "paid" for it. I don't know what that means, exactly. But maybe one of the benefits of working at a fertility clinic is free drugs and implantation? :confused::mad:

I dunno know about that. I know there are studies that you can sign up for that would give you a free IVF (with meds). But seeing her history (that she has 6 kids via IVF) they would have most likely rejected her outright

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Originally Posted by Jen (Post 1774405)

Can we say "ATTENTION WHORE"?


I knew you could :D

KSUViolet06 02-03-2009 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Jen (Post 1774405)

I think she's trying to position herself to get the most out of her "15 minutes."

She's trying to position herself to become like a Jon and Kate Plus 8.

Except I don't think people will be as interested.


honeychile 02-03-2009 02:14 PM

Question: Is she an American citizen or not? I know her father is an Iraqi.

honeychile 02-03-2009 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Tippiechick (Post 1772855)
She is a habitual in-vitro offender.

This is still the best quote of the thread.

nittanyalum 02-03-2009 02:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid (Post 1774411)
Wait...i almost spit my water out at this:

Suleman, though, has hired an agent, Kauffman says, and there are reports she hopes to make money through TV interviews and even by working as an on-camera childcare expert.


WWWWWooooooowwwwww!!!

Besides her litter(s) of children, she is probably saying she has the education for it too, this is from an article posted earlier about the grandma saying she's hitting the bricks supposedly when she gets home:
Quote:

Nadya Suleman holds a 2006 degree in child and adolescent development from California State University, Fullerton, and as late as last spring she was studying for a master's degree in counseling, college spokeswoman Paula Selleck told the Press-Telegram.

agzg 02-03-2009 02:23 PM

I wouldn't say this lady is a childcare expert - I'd say she's a birthing expert.

nittanyalum 02-03-2009 03:01 PM

I get the anger and distaste about her appearing to want to "cash in" in a sense now after this birth (though most others before her have done just that -- the only other family to have live octuplets were GIVEN a HOUSE -- remember that?).

Where I get a little uncomfortable is getting into the argument about whether she "can" or "should" have the children. If I support a woman's choice not to have a child she doesn't want, how can I not support a woman's choice who does want to have children?

I'm not saying I'd support someone who was having kids to sell them off or who gave them up for adoption or who got pregnant repeatedly just to have abortions. But this is a woman who has a college degree, already has 6 children including a set of multiples, and by all reports, those children are happy and healthy. So who would have the right to tell this woman she "can't" have more children? The fact that every embryo "took", or that the several embryos implanted may have multiplied (which I read in another article), was unexpected and yes, a risk she took. But she chose to keep what she thought at the time were her seven children. Can't that also be argued that she took responsibility for the decisions she made? She's always wanted kids, she took steps to make sure she could have kids, she likes having kids, she's raised 6 kids successfully so far --- will 8 possibly drive her insane? Sure, who knows, but people who have never had kids do it with six right off the bat, at least she has some older kids already that can help and it won't all be brand new to her.

I guess I'm just a little taken aback at the extreme outrage some people are showing and I'm not sure why it's all our business in the first place. Didn't the media initially break this story? I don't remember hearing about her trying to get press or anything when she was pregnant with 7 and already had 6 at home. Unless a woman has a history of abuse or is cheating the social services system or something, to me, this boils down to another variation of supporting a woman's choice, IMO. I wish her and ALL those kids the best. It exhausts me just to think about it.

KSUViolet06 02-03-2009 03:07 PM

I am not outraged but I am fascinated by the reaction that she's getting.

It is VASTLY different than the reactions that other multiple families have gotten.

I mean, people have bent over backwards to donate stuff and help out families of multiples (whom all consist of two parents).

I would THINK that people would be EXTRA willing and eager to help her/donate stuff/etc because she is single, but that clearly doesn't seem to be the case here.


nikki1920 02-03-2009 03:14 PM

It's our business b/c her story was publicized. I just find it very selfish, and I am a single mom, that she keeps having children and doesn't seem to be able to care for all of them. She has 14 kids under the age of 7. And I am all about a woman's choice as well. Hell, I always wanted kids, I want more, but I would not go about having 8 children with no husband/partner, no income and no plan. It seems unfair to me that she's put all this pressure on her parents to help her with her children. In my opinion, she just didn't think it all the way through.

agzg 02-03-2009 03:17 PM

I think the question running through a lot of peoples' minds is why would she seek out more children (even only one) if her financial situation isn't stable and there's no partner to help her out.

I mean, parents' help is great, I'm all for it - but there's nothing like having a life partner to take on some of the stress of even one baby.

I give single moms a lot of props for being able to do what they do, especially by themselves. But most single mothers don't choose to be a mother of 14 - or even 7, which is what she'd have had the babies not been multiples. So I can understand the negative reaction.

KSUViolet06 02-03-2009 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam (Post 1774471)

I mean, parents' help is great, I'm all for it - but there's nothing like having a life partner to take on some of the stress of even one baby.

I give single moms a lot of props for being able to do what they do, especially by themselves. But most single mothers don't choose to be a mother of 14 - or even 7, which is what she'd have had the babies not been multiples. So I can understand the negative reaction.

I get this. I mean, I know some single moms and I am 100% sure that they didn't CHOOSE it. It is hard for me to understand how someone would choose to bear the burden of taking care of that many kids.

Munchkin03 02-03-2009 03:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jill1228 (Post 1774414)
I dunno know about that. I know there are studies that you can sign up for that would give you a free IVF (with meds). But seeing her history (that she has 6 kids via IVF) they would have most likely rejected her outright

I don't know about it either. Perhaps I didn't express my skepticism enough. I couldn't believe anything these nuts say, because clearly the woman and her parents are Grade-A liars and charlatans.

For me, I'm not annoyed because of how many children she has...my grandparents had 13 kids, but they weren't sucking the government teat and the kids were all spaced out fairly responsibly. This woman is a leech on all of our resources. This has gone beyond talk of "reproductive freedom," and is just irresponsible.

agzg 02-03-2009 03:26 PM

This is going to sound awful but it's not even like she's the village bicycle, you know? She's not trying to sleep with a bunch of guys, she's trying to get pregnant. Every time!

It's such a vastly different case, too. She's not like the Duggars - it's obvious they're trying to build their own army or start their own nation or something.

She's not like John & Kate who had the resources for "just one more child."

WHY?!? Why would a single mom want 7 kids?

nikki1920 02-03-2009 03:30 PM

That's my point exactly.

It's her choice, but I (as a tax payer) would not want to have to pay for her choice.

I mean: FOURTEEN children UNDER 7?? FOURTEEN??!!!

DaemonSeid 02-03-2009 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam (Post 1774438)
I wouldn't say this lady is a childcare expert - I'd say she's a birthing expert.

Can we say that she is cheating considering that she is circumventing the penis?

agzg 02-03-2009 03:36 PM

She'd be cheating if she was an expert at getting pregnant.

However, I've never seen or heard of a penis having anything to do with pushing a baby out of a woman's body.

Actually - once. That man who was pregnant in Hawaii.

DaemonSeid 02-03-2009 03:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nittanyalum (Post 1774464)
I get the anger and distaste about her appearing to want to "cash in" in a sense now after this birth (though most others before her have done just that -- the only other family to have live octuplets were GIVEN a HOUSE -- remember that?).

Where I get a little uncomfortable is getting into the argument about whether she "can" or "should" have the children. If I support a woman's choice not to have a child she doesn't want, how can I not support a woman's choice who does want to have children?

I'm not saying I'd support someone who was having kids to sell them off or who gave them up for adoption or who got pregnant repeatedly just to have abortions. But this is a woman who has a college degree, already has 6 children including a set of multiples, and by all reports, those children are happy and healthy. So who would have the right to tell this woman she "can't" have more children? The fact that every embryo "took", or that the several embryos implanted may have multiplied (which I read in another article), was unexpected and yes, a risk she took. But she chose to keep what she thought at the time were her seven children. Can't that also be argued that she took responsibility for the decisions she made? She's always wanted kids, she took steps to make sure she could have kids, she likes having kids, she's raised 6 kids successfully so far --- will 8 possibly drive her insane? Sure, who knows, but people who have never had kids do it with six right off the bat, at least she has some older kids already that can help and it won't all be brand new to her.

I guess I'm just a little taken aback at the extreme outrage some people are showing and I'm not sure why it's all our business in the first place. Didn't the media initially break this story? I don't remember hearing about her trying to get press or anything when she was pregnant with 7 and already had 6 at home. Unless a woman has a history of abuse or is cheating the social services system or something, to me, this boils down to another variation of supporting a woman's choice, IMO. I wish her and ALL those kids the best. It exhausts me just to think about it.

I don't think if whether she can or should have the children, it's the question of her mental state and the ability of whther or not she by herself can raise them all...this very easily can turn into a Susan Smith or Andrea Yates type situation. Post partum depression? Possible.

It's as some have already said. Some have already stated that even with a job and spouse to help with it all it's a bit of a struggle to raise just one or two. So why on God's green earth would you spend the money that she had with no stability whatsoever that we know of to have enough kids to supply a basketball team including a deep bench? Plus let's add that she is still in her 30's, so who it to stop her from having even more?

Yes, there are no stories of abuse...yet, because we know so little about her but it's just stunning how much MORE info gets dropped almost daily and we, the public just wonder how deep this rabbit hole is going. No abuse but child endangerment? Yeah...possible....she is just one...who is to say while she is bathing one (or 2) something doesn't happen to one of the other dozen? This is not to wish anything bad upon her, but it's just unfathomable to see Mother Hubbard successfully raising these kids. Furthermore, as I asked earlier, how does she plan on earning an income? Heck even if she got a 2 million dollar deal from any network foolish enough to give her a deal, that HAS to get swallowed up by child care and doctor bills.


Not to mention, what kind of example is this setting for her kids as they get older?

So many questions....soooooo many questions.


I'm getting exhausted too trying to figure this out.

Bottom line is, when you can barely take care of yourself, why would you deliberately dig a hole like this?

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Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam (Post 1774488)
She'd be cheating if she was an expert at getting pregnant.

However, I've never seen or heard of a penis having anything to do with pushing a baby out of a woman's body.

Actually - once. That man who was pregnant in Hawaii.

So wrong...LOL

And she doesn't count...that was NOT a man....heh

...and if I remember correctly...she hasn't had her penis built...yet

Munchkin03 02-03-2009 03:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam (Post 1774481)

It's such a vastly different case, too. She's not like the Duggars - it's obvious they're trying to build their own army or start their own nation or something.

Yeah, they're not like the Duggars at all...I feel like a lot of people have been making that comparison when it's not fair to either party. After all, Jim-Bob and Michelle have been pretty freaking self-sufficient; they built a home for 18 kids debt-free, while this band of freaks can't even keep a 2-bedroom house from foreclosure!

agzg 02-03-2009 03:51 PM

What's going to happen with her autistic child? Has that been confirmed that she does indeed have one autistic child?

My SIL is a Special Ed teacher, and while she was doing student teaching she worked at a school for autistic children. She said it was exhausting. I just have to wonder, how's that kid gonna develop to his or her fullest when mommy has 13 other kids to take care of?

How are the other children going to be alright when mommy has to turn all of her attention to the one with developmental disabilities?

It just doesn't seem fair to any of the kids, really.

KSUViolet06 02-03-2009 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03 (Post 1774497)
Yeah, they're not like the Duggars at all...I feel like a lot of people have been making that comparison when it's not fair to either party. After all, Jim-Bob and Michelle have been pretty freaking self-sufficient; they built a home for 18 kids debt-free, while this band of freaks can't even keep a 2-bedroom house from foreclosure!

True. They may have 19 kids, but they also don't rely on our government for anything. Their kids don't even attend public schools.

nittanyalum 02-03-2009 03:57 PM

Hey, I'm not going to rain on the rant party, I just wanted to add a different view. And who knows what her income is, she was married, maybe she collects alimony? Maybe she does live off her parents -- isn't that their problem to deal with, then? And if she went into this expecting to exploit it, wouldn't she have started media-whoring herself around when she was pregnant and as big as a house with 6 kids already at home?

In any case, it doesn't sound like she'll want for an income, the hospital was getting deluged with calls and requests for her (and that's why the publicists came on board, to field all of the requests and offers), gifts are already arriving, they'll be fine: http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la...,6983653.story

epchick 02-03-2009 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by nittanyalum (Post 1774506)
And who knows what her income is, she was married, maybe she collects alimony? Maybe she does live off her parents -- isn't that their problem to deal with, then? And if she went into this expecting to exploit it, wouldn't she have started media-whoring herself around when she was pregnant and as big as a house with 6 kids already at home?

Well it says that she is an "unemployed college student" and the way she was able to pay for the IVF treatments was from her "work accident" settlement.

agzg 02-03-2009 04:04 PM

WHOA!

From the article nittanyalum posted:

Quote:

"In the first few days we got calls like 'How dare you do this?' and 'You should have your [medical] license revoked,' " Serrano said. There were even those few who wished the babies would not survive, Serrano said.
The tone on GC is fairly negative, but thank GOD none of us would say that we wished the babies would not survive!

I think, on the whole, there are more questions about the well being of the kids - not that some of them would kick.

I'm disgusted by that.

nittanyalum 02-03-2009 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by epchick (Post 1774514)
Well it says that she is an "unemployed college student" and the way she was able to pay for the IVF treatments was from her "work accident" settlement.

She has her bachelor's, she was taking classes in pursuit of a master's, an excerpt and link was posted with that info. previously.

DaemonSeid 02-03-2009 04:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nittanyalum (Post 1774506)
Hey, I'm not going to rain on the rant party, I just wanted to add a different view. And who knows what her income is, she was married, maybe she collects alimony? Maybe she does live off her parents -- isn't that their problem to deal with, then? And if she went into this expecting to exploit it, wouldn't she have started media-whoring herself around when she was pregnant and as big as a house with 6 kids already at home?

In any case, it doesn't sound like she'll want for an income, the hospital was getting deluged with calls and requests for her (and that's why the publicists came on board, to field all of the requests and offers), gifts are already arriving, they'll be fine: http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la...,6983653.story

Just a few things to point out from your article:

Some media reports have speculated that Suleman might be paid as much as $2 million for an interview, but Furtney said, "The money itself is not the object."

Riiiiiight.



Furtney said the public will be persuaded that "she is a very good person and someone they should support" after they learn more about her.

We will?

He described her as "very bright" with a "great sense of humor."

I swear I am trying very hard not to laugh, right now.


Her 15 minutes of fame might be fleeting. Diaper makers might donate products in exchange for a positive press mention, but longer-term sponsorship is unlikely, said William Chipps, senior editor of the IEG Sponsorship Report, which tracks and analyzes sponsorships.


And when that reality sets in as the lights dim...

Nannies, baby photographers and breast-feeding women called to offer free services and support.


Some of this is going to get creepy.

Many callers expressed outrage, demanding an explanation about who was going to care for the children and pay for their care.

The (Broke) State of California

nikki1920 02-03-2009 04:13 PM

The pregnant "man" is really a woman with a man's face. S/he's still has female plumbing, thus, s/he's biologically a girl.

IMO..

he said: "...the other dozen."

epchick 02-03-2009 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by nittanyalum (Post 1774517)
She has her bachelor's, she was taking classes in pursuit of a master's, an excerpt and link was posted with that info. previously.

Yeah I know that. I'm not sure what you are getting at.

My post was in reference to your question "who knows what her income is..." I was just stating that it is mentioned she is an unemployed student, so she probably doesn't have a lot of income.


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