some Betas at my campus have dropped sorority women. A couple Phi Delts have done it too. One was really sweet....the couple had been dating for a couple years. He did it at a mixer and many of his brothers were there. During the night, they all walked up to her and gave her a red rose, then he was last with a rose. They guys surrounded her and sang a song, then he put the necklace on her. And yes, all the girls cried. :)

Droppin letters/lavaliering is bad news. Don't do it unless you're absolutely sure you're getting married and even then only if you don't respect your letters. YOU earned them, not her. I reserve the right for me and my brothers only to wear the letters, because we earned them. Just becareful.

My advice... DO NOT DO IT!

Oh man, its only 10 months. I dunno, I guess every chapter is different, but for Kappa Sigma's at UConn, the only girls I know of who are lavaliered were greek themselves so they had a full appreciation of the greek system, and were girls who were engaged/married to brothers. In my nearly 5 years as a brother, no brother initiated after me has lavaliered his girlfriend, nor do I see it happening any time soon. We take it that seriously.

Me personally, my letters are one of my biggest sources of pride, I've made girlfriend's turn a Kappa Sigma sweatshirt inside out without hesitation, rather than wear the actual letters, etc.

It WAS 10 months...6 years ago. Check the date of the Original Post.

Never drop for GDI's. It means nothing to them.

Furthermore, yeah I know that at least in my chapter, they get tree'd... I had to clean up the mess from it when I was pledging.

Well I'm a douchebag... however the advice still stands for anyone considering it on short term.

Umm...no.

I was a "GDI" when I was pinned, I knew what it meant and how special it was.

Don't do blanket statements kids!

GDI - dumbest phrase ever. In fact I find it worse than "frat boy".

Why is it such a bad phrase?

I hate GDI's.

...so event or mixer shirts are a complete no-no apparently?

I have 2 friends that have been dropped, one by her now fiance who was a Sigma Tau Gamma and one by her boyfriend who is a Phi Chi. It was a very personal thing for both of them, no special ceremonies, "engaged to be engaged" if you will.

I pinned my GDI ( long time after graduation for both of us ) and she understanding my feelings to SAE and GLO she understood its meaning.

I did, later, 'buy back' my pin with a heart shaped SAE pendant.

Lavaliering happens A LOT at my school. I think guys do it to put off proposing to their girlfriends, honestly. All the sororities have candlelights when girls are lavaliered. It's a big deal, but I don't think it means as much as it should.

Endure Pain.

I would have to agree with the 'a lot of pain' at my school, the guys that 'drop' their girlfriends use to (as in up to this past year) get taken out into the middle of the quad, tied to a matress or something similar and get "sh*t" on. This was sometimes literal, sometimes figurative... but they go a whole lot of disgusting stuff dumped on them. The fraternity would usually wait until a guy's girlfriend was off campus, and no one was allowed to untie the guy except for the girlfriend who had to give them a kiss to set them free. It was pretty gross. It only happenend one time this past year and it was with the local fraternity...but before this year, it happened a lot.