Too bad there is a firewall here at work...

Too bad it doesn't include GC. ;)

Your day would be dull without me....you know it...and wish me a happy GC anniversary today.

So for you young ladies ;) (under 40), you may want to consider freezing your eggs if you EVER FATHOM that you might want to have a child in 10-15 years...

When I was in my late 20's nothing like this existed... ONLY embryo freezing and since I was not attached, I did not want some goofy man infecting my eggs... :D

Anyhow, I do find it sad that so many folks force values on married couples. That is just added pressure.

"values" is a made up concept anyway, designed to scare people into voting for (insert random lies)

I'm 33 and have no kids. When I'm asked why not, I just say because I'm not married (even if I have a bf at the time, I still say that because...well, I'm not married).

That shuts people up right away I have found. :) But even if I was, my chances are slim of being able to biologically reproduce so even if I was married, that question is still rude as h*ll.

And quite simply, there are those that just don't want them, plain and simple.

I'm in the same boat now.

My DH and I have been married for a year and a half. Even at my wedding reception, our best man (DH's brother) included a comment in his speach about my MIL wanting us to "get to the baby-making." Geez! Give us a minute! We are far from ready - financially and emotionally. We live in a co-op barely big enough for the two of us. I can't even take care of myself. How would I begin to guide a child through life? And I'm not ready for the sleepless nights!

And now my (bio) little sister is planning her nuptials for early next year. Therefore, as soon as that's over and done with, I'm given the go-ahead by my family to pop out kids. Thanks! Just about every woman at work has been pregnant/given birth in the past two years. So of course, they're all just foaming at the mouth...waiting...

They can keep waiting.

I just can't tell you all how happy I am to read this thread...

It's a sensitive subject for me, and it's just really really nice to read that other people can't stand this question either. I swear that lately it has seemed as though everyone around me has completely forgotten their manners.

**Groan**

You saw the other hand doing the "thong dance?"

I didn't need to see that before I ate...LOL

I can relate
 

Yeah that! Of course most of the relatives that ask me this question were the ones who got knocked up as teens and have kids by different baby daddies :rolleyes:
Of course they asked me about kids RIGHT after I had a miscarriage :mad:


Folks need to butt out and STFU

WoW!!! This is exactly how my husband and I feel! I shock the hell out of anyone who asks when I'm going to have kids by saying "Never!" It is truly amazing how many people feel the need to council me "Who will take care of you when your old?", "It's different when it's your own kids!", "It's the best part of life.", "You'll regret it later.", "You'll change your mind...you'll see!" Where do people get off assuming that any of these statements are true or that it's there place to say them?

[QUOTE=AOII Angel;1652321]WoW!!! It is truly amazing how many people feel the need to council me "Who will take care of you when your old?"QUOTE]

I like to remind them that having kids doesn't guarantee you someone to take care of you when your old-it just means you had some kids. Believe me, I saw lots of elderly patients at work whose kids didn't give a shit if they were in the ICU.

Ha Ha!! I am not bold enough to say this to any of my unmarried friends with children, but I have asked some of my married friends this...Who needs 2 kids in the first year and a half of marriage? Were you on birth control? What possessed you to stop taking it? Normally that stops the question/answer session from them!!! :D

DEFINITELY!!! I am very concerned with having enough money to raise the possible children the way I was raised (never worrying about money). The other big issue is the cost of college.