I say piss EVERYONE off and go to Saudi Arabia Mecca and try to get married at the spur of the moment... That would be interesting.

Besides, you all need to work on your relationship if you add anyone's family into the mix. Because when you two are alone, all you have to deal with is each other...

LOLOLOLOLOLOL.

DTMFA, Taualumna. Is that what you want or need to hear? Because otherwise, you've heard perfectly good suggestions already and you continue to ask the exact same questions as though this is some intractable, immovable obstacle to your having a wedding. Have a civil ceremony and a cocktail reception, don't offer food. Elope and have two receptions. Tell his (apparently distant) relatives to suck it up and deal with having kosher food on one side of the room and nonkosher on the other or feel free to not attend and you'll send pictures. And really, if this is what you think could trip up or end your relationship, you all won't make it very long in an actual marriage. His sister seems to have found a way to deal with it, why can't you?

She wants us to validate her desire to end the relationship.

His sister doesn't have religion "issues" he seems to have. In fact, she's involved with a musical ensemble that sings Christian music! Mr. Tau finds that very odd.

Then you need to end this relationship if that's a deal-breaker and KIM because issues like this will only get murkier when (IF, hello) you get married.

Okay, I'm going to give this another shot.

You're Christian and he's Jewish. During the three years you've been dating, this hasn't really been an issue, because neither of you are particularly religious or observant. However, as you have begun to talk about marriage (and having kids maybe?), you're starting to wonder if a Jewish identity is more important to him than you (or he, perhaps) thought. And you're wondering whether that might be a deal breaker for you.

Do I have it right now?

It's actually fairly common for religion, or at least religious identity, to become more important to people when they get married or, especially, have kids. People who were somewhat indifferent to their own religious background often start to see things differently when they create their own family; they want that family, and their children in particular, to have a religious identity.

If this is the case, then we were right. Your question really isn't about how to deal with food at the reception. That's just the conversation starter for a much deeper issue -- one that really has to be resolved before marriage.

Taulalumna

Is this like that video that you did about the dumbing down of movies for Americans? It's not really what you say it is, is it? ;)

I think the true issue is what does your significant other think of the plight of the poor petited ones?
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...tite+manifesto

Nobody ever likes all the food served at weddings! Have a buffet with something kosher, something Chinese, something vegetarian, and people will work with it. If not, they'll get take-out later.

That being said, you should probably break up.

I think maybe she doesn't care what we think anymore.

Basically yes, that's it.