That would be more SPECIFIC.

More GENERAL would be "You smell".

Which is infinitely better than "We hate your guts."

In this part of the country, fraternities schedule invitation-only dinners(usually, suit and tie) for those rushees who are under consideration for membership.

I would think that if a young man didn't receive an invitation to the dinner, he would figure out that no bid would be forthcoming

We tend to say, "Instead of pursuing membership at this time, might we suggest that you please invest more time in hygienic matters."

yeah, that's how we did it too.

I always felt bad for the guys who didn't get bids, but I feel bad for the guys sitting there, because they're not allowed to say anything other than "try again, hang out more" when really they should be like "dude, you aren't anything like those guys, next time rush ABC instead" which would be helpful for all concerned.

(at my first school) I COB'd and on Bid night, we waited for THE KNOCK. There were 3 of us in our 10-person suite who rushed. Two of us got THE KNOCK, and one of us didn't. I was the first, my neighbor was the second (she heard me scream), and we waited for the third for the girl two doors down. I felt so bad. :(

I beleive that those who were not chosen received a phone call after all of the bidees were notified and escorted from our rooms.

Is there ever a good way to say sorry?

Someones heart and or ego will be broken.

:D

Ok this almost makes me want to rush Delta just so that I can get a letter like that.

Very good point.


5 months on greekchat and I've finally figured out that you can quote several posters at once.

I think yours would say something like "Instead of pursuing membership in Delta, how about you focus on the GLO you're already a member of...traitor":p

We had one girl who went through recruitment this year that did not get a bid to either sorority. It was the first time in 4 years that it's happened. The greek life advisor called the PNM, rather than making either of the 2 disaffiliated panhellenic officers look like "the bad guy."

Not true with Sigma. We still have interest groups and we encourage interests (in undergrad and grad) to attend events, volunteer, and get to know our members before intake. I know of many cases where invites to formal rush and interviews were not extended because the sorors didn't know the interests well enough. And I also know of situations where people didn't make it passed the interviews because the interview was the deciding factor if sorors weren't sure about whether or not they would extend an invitation to participate in intake.

Yeah this makes a big difference. Our prospects are encouraged to attend our public events and of course they attend our parties - LOL. But we can't do anything that may appear to be a pre-intake activity (if you know what I mean.)

I do understand the thinking behind this but realistically, those chapters that are going to break the rules, will do so before and during intake.

True, but our legal liability is lessened by having the rules we do.