DoggyStyle and all MY Bruhs, please forgive me BUT...

Plain Jane, your comments are obviously an attempt to 'suck up' to the AKAs (I got love for MY Greek sisters http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif ) BUT we have an unspoken rule here on GC (since you ARE new and all http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif ) :

"those who know, SPEAK; those who don't, sit back and LEARN"

Since you are NOT a Delta, an AKA or an Omega ( http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif oops! You are not even Greek!), obviously yo do not fall into the category of those who KNOW...sooooo...

*Now, back to our regularly scheduled program*


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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

[This message has been edited by mccoyred (edited May 16, 2001).]

FYI for those who feel that they must stick there nose in to other peoples business....

Coleman Love exist between the Delta's and Omega's ....MY BRUHS that's right I said it MY BRUHS http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif just as MY BRUHS address Delta's as SOROR or RED

Now why NON-GREEKS and GREEKS for that matter have a Problem with this I don't know. Do you hear anyone tripping about the the men of Alpha Phi Alpha and the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha being the First Family??? ( No disrespect intended )

NO!! So please don't trip off the Coleman Love between MY SOROR AND MY BRUHS!!! BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T KNOW NOW YOU DO.....THE BOND OF A DELTA AND AN OMEGA CAN NEVER EVER BE BROKEN!!!!

OOOP-ROOOOOOO to all MY FINE, INTELLIGENT, BRUHS.


I'm OUT!!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Ok, so that pretty much sums this part of my response up for miss sexy mocha...now on to miss plain janem actually this sums up much of my response to you as well, seeing as how you fit into neither catagory...

The remainder of my response to you, plain jane, is that as my soror mccoyred has stated, this is an issue that those who are members of glos are, or at leasr should be very familiar with. First of all, the phrase "the bruhs" orginally was reserved for only members of Omega Psi Phi but as the things relaxed a bit throughout the century my sorors, who "unofficially" as you have pointed out, have taken on the ability to refer to them as that as well..ONLY because historically, not officially they are our bruhs. Now, as for the commonality of the phrase "the bruhs" being prevelant throughout the country or from place to place for all sororities, where I am from that is not done..PERIOD. That is like me referring to the Alphas as "the bruhs". That's not respectful to those members of that particular "family" for whom that phrase is reserved. It makes no sense. Now, some Omegas, as I am now aware, do not have a problem with other members of various sororities referring to them as "the bruhs" but even more DO have a problem with it and will not only look at you like you were never taught whose familiy you do belong to but will actually call you on it. This is precisely because of the reasons DoggyStyle mentioned: this is relationship that is taken very seriously. Now, my dear, since you are new to greek chat and you have plunged right in with your critical and even more so disrespectful comments toward members to my organization, allow me to school you a bit on GC etiquette:

1) Do read the title of posts and intitial statement made by the thread starter..this actually goes for EVERYONE! The particualr thread may not be one in which your comments are welcomed.

2) If you are aware of the familiy relationship, namely the Coleman bond, then refrain from getting involved in Coleman related issues.

3) Again, since you are aware that this IS a family, then do NOT make derrogatory, disrespectful, or rude comments to the Sorors who constitute the members of the said family.

4)Finally, this tends to be a positive forum and message board so basically , leave the quick snappish attitude at the door before you enter, and again, only enter when the door has a "ALL ARE WELCOME" sign on it.


I hope your posting on GC is positive and stimulating as so far most frequenters of CG's have been.

DoggyStyle, bruh, I apologize for taking up this much space in the forum but I won't allow your forum to become infiltrated with bickering any more than I will allow ours to. And you are VERY welome for the love and possessiveness, I was raised right.



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LAMBDA
4/15/00

FYI, I personally don't have a problem at all with any bond that Deltas have with the Ques. (As you have so eloquently recognized, we have our own bond with the men of Alpha Phi Alpha.)My response to CrimsonRage's question was to clarify something which appeared to be very confusing for her.

As you stated, Alpha Kappa Alpha and Alpha Phi Alpha do indeed share a special bond, but I feel very secure within that bond to not feel threatened if a member of another sorority refers to them as "the bruhs". Why would I? I know where the real love/connection/bond lies.

It's kind of like having a man...if you are secure in your relationship and truly know you are the only woman for him (and vice versa), you wouldn't be one of those possesive females that run around trying to fight every girl that says hi to him.

My best friend is a Delta, so I think the Coleman Love thing is wonderful....so believe me...I am not trying to minimize that bond or by any means claim the Ques as my brothers. God knows, I have more than enough of "the bruhs" as friends....I don't need them as brothers too.

Whooaa!! Hold on there!! Huh???

What is all this lecturing to me about being negative. I reread my message and as far as I'm concerned I was just asking a question. I asked to be EDUCATED!! What part of my message was rude??!!! Your response and MCCROYRED's response to me was rude and VERY derogatory. I think its sad that you choose to speak to another Black woman in that manner just because you are in a Sorority. Again, I was just asking a question.

How could you write the kind of response you wrote and say I'M negative. Have Mercy! But you know what, since YOU state that I'm not apart of any family, I'll do as you ask and be very careful with my questions.

To DoggyStyle and other Omega Men, sorry if I caused any drama, didn't mean to.

Jeez!

Shaking my head..... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif

Before I cause anymore confusion my previous post was directed to CrimsonRage.

Thanks again.

Fear not Sista, you are welcome to post your free and unadulterated opinion here. Secondly, I welcome your love and the others like McCoyRed. In too many places, people are being taught to ignore the bond. Why, I don't know. It is a beautiful thing and what makes it better is that it is not forced, faked, or written on paper. It has always been natural. Thats why I love to here a Delta say "whats up Bruh?" or "Hey Bruh, can a Soror get a hug?" No one else can say it like that. I'm hesitant to call a Delta that I don't know "Soror" or "Red" sometimes because you never really know how someone was raised.

Greek love and BTW, where SexyMocha is from, the Bruhs and the AKAs are real tight.

Please read the thread in my Greek Sisters' AKA forum about CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM.



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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

First of all, THANK YOU DOGGYSTYLE for answering me in an intelligent respectable manner.

as for MCCOYRED, you are right I am not Greek, I'm just a college educated Black Woman and thank you for educating me with your catty response. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

Not catty, just dropping some knowledge! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif

I'm out (sorry Bruhs http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif )



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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

Where I am from it is disrespectful for others to call MY Bruhs, bruh. It is a term used only between those that are part of the Coleman Family. Its kind of like referring to another member of a BGLO as Soror. That just wouldn't happen. Again, I stress where I am from. If a non-greek or another member of a BGLO used the term Bruhs to refer to Ques, they would most likely be corrected and shown the err of their ways. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

You guys are beginning to seem more like a gang rather than an fraternal or sisterly organization there to lift and UNITE the community. Seems some of you are more interested in seperating yourselves. Telling people they need to keep out this FAMILY and that FAMILY. If you an AKA you can't say Bruh to a Que, if you an Alpha, can't say Sis to a Delta, this and that and that and this, blah, blah, blah......

Peaches, again, to the uninitiated, your eyes deceive you. There is unity between the orgs, you just don't understand the "unwritten rules" of BLGO's. There is nothing gang-like about us at all. Yes, there is a disagreement, but it is not personal. These same people who disagree on this forum would party together in person. It is GDIs who misunderstand Greeks and always try to find fault with Greek Life. Somethings are easier to understand from the inside out. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

To those who are not understanding where my Sorors are coming from:

Think about this: would you be totally cool with someone who is not your brother or sister calling your Mother "Mommy"? I'm not talking about your best friend since you were 5, I'm talking about an acquaintance. You'd probably be taken aback and would no doubt ask this person why s/he is calling YOUR mother "mommy" when the two of you do not share a mother.

Yes, I agree that ON THE SURFACE this seems like a very non-unifying, even petty, conversation. But if one pays attention, it's very clear why people are reacting the way they are. There are regional differences in who considers whom frat & soror.

Not all confrontations/disagreements are bad things. If anything this is a learning experience for us. If you're a Delta living in GA, where Coleman Love is the thing, you probably won't know that the AKAs and Omegas in Utah (for example) are VERY tight. You will be very suprised to hear an AKA, who just moved to GA from Utah, call an Omega "bruh" out of habit. No doubt that Delta will ask what the deal is. That's essentially all that's happened here.

My suggestion to anyone who doesn't understand why we in the NPHC seem to separate ourselves from each other is to look deeper into the conversation and ASK FOR CLARIFICATION BEFORE CONDEMNING US for not doing what we claim to do.

OOP-ROO!! (cuz this is their house http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif)
OOO-OOP!!
OOP-PHI!
OOP-SKEE!
OOP-YO!
OOP-MAB!
OOP-ZEE!
OOP-YIP!
OOP-OLE!
(HOW'S THAT FOR NPHC LOVE?)

AND I'M GONE!!

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[This message has been edited by 12dn94dst (edited May 17, 2001).]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Peaches:
[B]You guys are beginning to seem more like a gang rather than an fraternal or sisterly organization there to lift and UNITE the community. Seems some of you are more interested in seperating yourselves. Telling people they need to keep out this FAMILY and that FAMILY. ][/QUOTE

I think all BGLO's attempt to uplift and better the community. But there are differences in the the organizations, thats why 9 different BGLO's exist. We are not debating don't come to my side of town or there will be trouble we are discussing term usage in various areas. Please don't compare us with those that break the law and I think all BGLO's would agree with that.