Okay now that's just not fair.

I just re-read every post in this thread and the people who made the effort to reply back have offered some great pieces of advice. Now, I don't know what was written in any PMs you might have received, but where exactly have they "judged" you?

Certainly no one's putting lesser value on graduating at 20 and pursuing your MBA. You came here seeking advice, and now you've been given info you probably didn't want to hear, you cop this attitude? Nuh uh!

If you're not going to pursue this any further, decide that because you know what your options are and what your chances are, not because of the amount of replies you got on a message board.

Classic example of someone coming to GC to ask a question, getting perfectly reasonable and respectful answers, then because she didn't get the answer she wanted to hear, we are all big meanies!

If a person can't handle not getting the answer they want to a question that they asked, I question their emotional maturity. I think the advice in this thread is spot on. I don't believe the OP is a good candidate for joining a sorority at this time.

I don't think anyone was trying to make you feel like a freak or anything like that - just letting you know what the score was before you got your hopes up too high. If you were at a different campus, or if different sororities were on your campus, the answers may have been entirely different.

The only person who said anything like what you're complaining about was PeppyGPhiB, who said THE STUDENTS would probably think you were weird because they'd assume you were older. She never said that anyone on GC thought that.

I agree. I don't see where anyone was rude-- just honest and giving you options that will work for your educational level and situation. Graduate students, as a rule, are not pledged to NPC sororities based on NPC bylaws. There are a few who admit grad students, but they are not beholden to this policy and a majority of the collegiate chapters who are allowed are unaware that this policy even exists.

You've been given suggestions for ways to seek out other forms of sisterhood groups, and some cautionary advice has been given on your selection of graduate program due to your age and lack of professional experience.

It was not intended as a slight to the accomplishment of being accepted to a program: that is a big accomplishment-- but many young people who move straight through from undergrad to MBA programs are not aware of the challenges that will lie ahead post-college when it comes time to secure employment. It isn't impossible if you're going for something like i-banking or possibly management consulting, but if you're planning on moving into IT or marketing, it may be an uphill battle due to a lack of pre-MBA/post undergrad work experience.

Best of luck.

Right, but she did not ask for advice on her career path, and it is really nobody's business to give her that. I think the advice ABOUT RECRUITMENT was good, because it was honest, even if it is not what she wanted to hear. It is unfortunate that some posters felt a need to criticize her life decisions as well.

Funny because I didn't see the criticism and I'm wondering where you saw it.

Because the message I got from adpiucf's post wasn't criticizing her life decisions -- it was basically stating that it may be virtually impossible to get an MBA and pursue a sorority. She came here looking for sorority advice but presented us with her life situation as well.

And I echo what Dani said. If she's not going to be able to handle the kind of stuff that we've said over here...then she probably wouldn't have been a good candidate anyway.

This would be the post in question, OTW. In my opinion, a poster who comes here looking for sorority-related advice does not need to be subjected to unsolicited advice about her career path.

Then she should have left her life issues out of it when she first posted.

Honey, if you are getting married AND getting an MBA, you have bigger things to worry about than sorority life. You have adult life about to hit you smack in the face. Take some time to let your marriage get rooted properly before you go off spending tons of time away.

Let's face it. If you are already going to be spending time getting your MBA, are you going to want to spend you free time with your husband or your 18-year-old new member class studying the sorority histiory, etc.

I don't foresee your choices as being compatible with one another.

Oh, and I don't care if people don't like my posts. Go cry to someone else if you don't like it.