I suppose in that case I won't post my recruitment story. Maybe I'll just post where I end up taking a bid instead.

I'm relatively new here
 

I've been reading for about a month I think. This might sound jerky, but I mean it more in exasperated good humor.

Some girl will start her rush story and either a concerned citizen or a killjoy will jump in and tell her "Oh don't tell us that! People can figure out who you are."

I don't get what the problem is. It's a public forum. Posters have to know that. If they search for their schools, they'll see people from their campus.

If the PNM chooses to tell her story, she's probably aware that anyone could read it. If she says bad stuff and people can figure out who she is, she runs the risk of getting cut. It's hard to see how she wouldn't know that.

If she's not saying anything bad, what's the harm? Even if people could guess who she is and who her favorites are, so what?

(Really, people, couldn't you guess the favorites of any PNM at your campus? First round, you know they love XYZ. Second round, if they get cut by XYZ, then they'll probably look at QRS or ABC. If you don't know how the groups in your greek system rank up, a PNM Greek Chat rush thread is the least of your worries. )

(Why do bad sports even have to guess? They kind of say, "it could be harmful if anyone figures out who you are. Let me do it for them by outing your campus." What the hey, people? Why do you do this? Sure, I suppose if someone had access to all of the information forms they could count the double legacies, but until you suggested it, how likely was it to happen?)

If you rush was ruined by your Greek Chat thread, please speak up. I want to understand what happened.

JESUS H. CHRIST.

NO ONE FREAKING TOLD YOU TO NOT POST YOUR RUSH STORY.

All I said was to not assume that no one will figure out who you are. That's it.

I doubt that the most famous one will post, sorry. She hasn't posted on GC since she depledged her sorority.

Tell me about it.
 

What happened in the most famous case? What got her into trouble?

I know they didn't tell me that. But a couple people certainly implied that it could somehow be dangerous if I post my story. So why should I bother writing out my entire story on here if it could somehow jeapordize my rush. I'll post where I end up so anyone who is interested can see if they have a new sister. I don't see why you're so up in arms. I've just rethought my original plan of posting my experience, and keeping it safe by simply posting where I eventually end up. That's what's important afterall.

Out of respect to her and to the two sororities involved, I'd rather not discuss her situation publicly. Longtime GCers know what I'm talking about, though.

I only do this because she and I exchanged PMs quite a bit back then and it was a heartbreaking situation all around.

All I will say is that "DISCRETION IS KEY!" started around the time this PNM depledged her sorority.

How's this for a suggestion?

Why don't you post your rush story AFTER you're done?

I don't see how that would help. According to my understanding this unfortunate girl was found out after she already received a bid. This is why she was forced to depledge. If I post my story afterward, they could still find out who I am. Is this correct?

That's kind of a frustrating answer.
 

It's not that I doubt that you, OTW, have the PNM's best interests at heart, but really now, why'd you bring up the most famous case only to say that you can't discuss it?

I understand that your knowledge may go beyond what was public, and so, in good conscience, you don't want to fill me in, but why post an enigmatic reference in the first place?


Maybe we can try this instead:
Can a rush story be told in such a way as to:
enhance the PNM's rush experience,
captivate Greek Chat readers,
provide feedback to chapters during rush (even in a general sense)?
If so, how? If not, why?

You know what? It's really up to you. It really doesn't matter to me if you decide to post a story.

I see recruitment stories as a courtesy to GC. You don't have to do one, they're appreciated by many, especially when done right.

What's most important is you finding a home on your campus. So...I'm sorry if I've thrown some reality your way. I don't believe in blowing sunshine up the PNMs asses, so if I'm guilty for telling it like it is, then so be it.

Obviously it's up to me, it's my life. I'm sorry but I just feel too vulnerable to share my story. If anyone is interested in hearing some of my thoughts during recruitment I can send out some PMs. I will post where I end up on bid day as well. I won't say which houses I am a legacy to, but I will give opinions on certain houses if PMed, in case anyone is curious about their chapter. Thanks for everyone who has taken such an interest in my story. I'm sorry I won't be able to share it with everyone.

PNMs should know first and foremost that they take a risk of getting found out if they post their story on GC. It doesn't matter if they're a campus of 100 girls rushing or 1400 girls rushing. I don't say this to scare them, I say this to make them aware of it.

I brought up the poor PNM as an example that this could happen because it has happened. I'm not obligated in any way to discuss it in detail. I'm sure longtime GCers will remember her story, and if they want to throw it out there, go ahead. If that's not good enough for you, then too bad. DEAL WITH IT.

And regarding your last sentence...CurlyGurly's rush thread from 2002. There's your answer.