Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

the number of bidless rushees at my school is, in a word, extremely small. While none of our sororities are NPC, our pref card rules are very similar. However, there is no penalty for SIP (suicide...which we still call it). As a PX, I explained to my girls the best I could about what suiciding could mean, but it doesn't stop girls from doing it, and for the most part, they end up getting what they wanted. Some had only 1 invite to final round, and assume that means that they can ONLY sign that one. Others decide to SIP as a group...a one-for-all and all for one thing...which only ends in a LARGE chunk of girls getting their second choice, "Independent".

We've also had a hard time explaining that if you sign indy as your first choice, you are automatically independent. Period. It took the better part of 20 minutes to explain that you could NOT sign Independent, and the XYZ. A lot of girls thought that, "I'll sign independent, but if XYZ wants me, then I'll accept". Umm..no, reverse that order on the cards. Because DESPITE what I know you want, your card will be read in the context of "INDEPENDENT", not as an SIP to XYZ. I constantly worry that I "forced" girls to sign XYZ rather than independent, but I didnt know how else to explain it to them.

Out of a possible 4 invitations, accept or accept w/ regret only 2. If you are ACCEPTING this invitation, this is a strong message that you would be interested in joining the sisterhood. You do NOT have to accept any, but you are encouraged to accept and finish recruitment. If you are dropped before final (as I was), you must still sign a preference card, even if you are just signing "independent". Girls are allowed to fill their bid card in any order, even listing houses they didn't recieve invites to. However, most only fill in the 2 houses they attended during final round (why? I have no idea). I know that of my pledge class of 9, 6 I believe SIP'd Tau Delta. In my instance, I filled in my pref card before pref day, alone in the GL office. I simply filled my card, ranking the 6 sororities in my pref order...pretty silly in retrospect, but I didn't want to be independent and I sort of knew that the bottom 3 were really NEVER going to bid me, but I took a chance. I got my "no match" call. No big deal But the next morning, I was snapped by my number 1. And this, this is why I desperately encouraged my girls to ATTEND their parties, clear schedules, and for chrissake, fill your card honestly, and DO NOT, and I repeat, DO NOT suicide as a group.

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

at larger schools it is near impossible, not to say impractical for recruitment counselors to hand out invitations for each day to each of the pnms,in their group, wherever they are residing. . most often, when the group meets for the first time, they decide on a place where they will meet at the designated time each day of recruitment-they continue to meet there thru out the week and the recruitment counselor will hand out the invitations to the next round of parties. they share their cell phone #'s and the panhellenic office phone #, so that they can be reached anytime, and the pnm gives them their cell #, their dorm room # or address off campus, their class schedule , etc. so that should the recruitment counselor need to track them down, she is able to. the do try their best to find any pnm who needs finding-they will even go to the dorm room or stand outside her classroom if need be.

Originally Posted by carnation

I bet some of y'all remember that 5 years ago, a PNM here told us that at her school on Bid Day, all the PNMs joined hands and stood in a circle with their eyes shut. Then the Rho Chis would come and tap the shoulders of those who didn't get bids and they had to leave the circle. When you were told to open your eyes, only the people remaining had bids.:eek:

I know they don't do it that way now, one of my daughter goes there, but I was just slack-jawed with shock when I heard it.

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

What do you mean by writing "independent" on the pref card?