| SOPi_Jawbreaker |
06-19-2006 03:28 PM |
Ok, I know what I've written below isn't very PC, but here's my sorta serious/helpful advice (even though the OP may very possibly be a troll):
With the exception of white girls that have a thing for Asian guys, in most of the white girl/Asian guy couples I've seen, the guy is very very white-washed (like he doesn't have ANY Asian friends at all, doesn't hang out with Asians, doesn't do any of the stereotypical Asian-American things like being nerdy or being a ricer).
The "Azn" thing makes you sound like a ricer. The shaving your armpits makes you sound like a very very very metrosexual Asian (like the stereotype of Asian guys being really baby-faced or kinda feminine-looking). I don't know you. I don't know what you look like. But this is just the vibe you're giving off from a couple of posts.
Anyways, my advice (this advice also pretty much applies to guys of any race that complain that girls don't like nice guys). From the get-go, you have to come across as a masculine, sexual being (like she can imagine herself doing things with you...even if you or her are saving yourselves for marriage, she has to at least be able to imagine having steamy make-out sessions with you). Once a girl sees you as a non-sexual, platonic friend, it's over. You have no chance. Now, the problem is many guys think that coming across as a sexual being means being an asshole or being overly aggressive, when in fact, that kind of behaviour just makes you come across as desperate and unable to get girls. And girls can smell desperation a mile away. The guys that are able to get girls act laid-back. So my advice is when you meet a cute girl, start a very casual relaxed conversation with her. Look into her eyes (but not in a creepy, boring-holes-into-her-head kinda way). Look interested and intigued by her and what she's saying. If the conversation stalls, ask her questions about herself (this advice works for just general conversation-making also...most people's favorite topic to talk about is themselves). Read her body language. If she seems receptive, lean in a litte (I stress, a little...don't get too much into her personal space, that she feels uncomfortable and creeped out). If she's still receptive (hasn't pulled away), gently (almost barely) touch her arm or her back (not in a creepy, lecherous way, but in a soft, affectionate, endearing way). The leaning in a little bit and the gentle, barely there touch will let her categorize you as non-platonic. Don't do anything more for a while. Let her wonder and think about when you're going to kiss her. Let that anticipation build up in her.
All of this is assuming you're able to do these two things:
#1 That you are able to be presentable (well-groomed and well-dressed in a masculine way)
#2 That you are able to gauge whether or not a girl is receptive to you making a move and if not, you don't press on
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