Um, great! I'm 25. How old do I have to be for you to give me the OK on this?

Just asking. Cause I thought it was understood that most people take offense to anytime someone says, "Thank God I'm not [in your situation]!" Including, "Thank God I'm not single anymore!", "Thank God I'm not female!", "Thank God I'm not white!", etc.

I must have missed it. I still don't see it.

Maybe your husband could help you break the sentences down into more managable segments?

I didn't say anyone DOES have the right, but if anyone did, it would be us old dried up biddies (sarcasm as I apparently have to label it). You missed the

IF

in my reply.

Oh, and I'm saying "Thank God I don't have to go through formal rush again" - wow, I just offended a large portion of people on here!!

In your own words:

Well, honestly, yeah. If I was going through rush and you told me you thought rush was the most stupid, vapid experience of your life, and full of crap, I'd be a little insulted.

Maybe I'm missing the point here, but to me, she threw out a thinly veiled snippy remark, and certainly not for the first time.

I think I'd be insulted if I WAS married. The dating got you the husband, right? And had a hand in developing how you interact with other people, react to situations, etc.? But I should be smug and nasty to everybody who's NOT married because my choices are for everyone?

Funny how when people get all smug and nasty I quit being nice to them.

You are reading WAY too much into this. Seriously. All I saw was someone saying what SHE PERSONALLY felt - not that everyone else in the world was pathetic because they weren't at the same place in their life.

Really? Seems incredibly simple to me.

I'm sorry your highness, I didn't realize that you were the only one who was allowed to be smug and nasty, I'll remember that next time.

Just so you know, because you're apparently clueless - most people are going to get smug and nasty when you start in on it first.

Good to know so am I. :) I'm not so much offended by AlphaFrogs comments but it confirms an opinion that I've found that is felt by some married women.It reminded me of a dinner partyscene from Bridget Jones Diary book.

At the party hosted by her married friend Magda, Bridget Jones is the lone single person while everyone else is part of a heterosexual married couple. All of the SmugMarrieds, her phrase not mine, were sitting around the table and making snide comments about her single status and how she needed to get off the pot as it were and find a man.

I've had some married women friends make those type of comments to me. Depending on where I was in my life when those type of comments were made sometimes it did bother me and other times it didn't.

Don't you think you're being a little overly sensitive here?

Alphafrog is fine with the dating part of her life being over. She's entered into a new stage of her life that she's happy with.

You're happy with the stage of life you are in. There really is no reason to be angry about this.

People have different opinions about a lot things. Some people do like dating more than others. That's why there are people who are constantly dating and others who are serial monogamists. There are some people who have the goal of becoming a trophy wife. If that's what makes them happy then who are we to judge?

*catches up on thread*


...tiptoes out of conversation...

Guess I'd disagree with your take on things.

The way I read her comments (and taken in the context of her other posts, of course) she sounds judgemental and nasty. So, yeah, that's a problem.

AlphaFrog - you have a tendency to rub people the wrong way, at times, and I think the way this thread came off the rails might be the net result of all those 'little things' (bitchy comments, inane banter, stubbornness, etc) compounding. Note that this isn't really a bad thing, it's just how it is.

For instance - if I called Rudey a sanctimonious douche, he would probably laugh because he would know I'm joking with him. That's our history. If I called YOU a sanctimonious douche, I'd get a nasty PM (probably multiple). So note that the messenger also matters, in addition to the message, when you're implying that she's 'putting words in your mouth' (or vice versa) - that might be the root.

-RC
--is also a sanctimonious douche, but seriously this thread sucks