I joined a very good fraternity on my campus, took 18 hours, worked at a golf course, had a 3.6 gpa....and never missed a meeting, party, etc. during my pledge year. Your post is borderline idiotic.

Sweeten up is like your open house night before you start the rounds of parties. When I went through, they called it sweeten up because there was always sweets to eat. Things have changed A LOT since I was there, because we never had a second round of recruitment this late in the semester...

But enjoy and good luck :)

I wonder if this is sort of a preview for the fall semester? It's a little late in spring semester to be recruiting, especially through panhel, isn't it?

KDDani, that's what I thought too. But I was told today that some of the sororities here will be taking 2nd pledge classes. The pledging period would be 2 and a half weeks instead of 4-6 weeks. I'm not sure why they are doing this now as I don't know if they've done it in the past. Oh well. I am just glad to be getting another chance no matter how I have to do it.

I'm majorly addicted to this thread. It's a rush thread in the middle of March!!!! :p

so why is my post idiotic? thats great that you did all those things, but face it, for most college kids its impossible to manage that much stuff. maybe it was your major? mine was way to hard to do all that.

anyways, she had said that work is just MORE important to her...more being the operative word there. what is she gonna do when one of her sisters needs her? tell them that she might have to work and work is more important to her????

You're not living up to your signature. Everyone disagrees with you. Let it go.

the advantage the sororities would have by holding a 2nd informal recruitment would be to get them at or near total before school is out for the summer.

and the point of this thread? initially, it was to commeserate with the op and as her circumstances changed to give her encouragement and advice. sort of "virtual" hand holding. i remember many of us doing the same thing for many others, including some of the posters to this thread.

Yeah, after reading Heather's posts, she probably sat back and thought, "Eh, those sorority girls are a bunch of vapid airheads" and is thanking her lucky stars that she avoided the experience.

You know what this makes me think of? Advice columns in newspapers. There's forever a letter from some girl who writes in, "I'm beautiful, I make a lot of money, I'm smart, I'm funny, WHY WILL NO ONE DATE ME?"

LMAO. Because on the first date, she tells the guy, "I want you to know... I'm now ready for the reproductive phase of my life."

Sorry, Bachelor segue... :D

ILP-- good luck with CR! Let us know how you make out.

I hate to bet a dead horse but you are wrong. Plenty of people manage to do all that and more. Even if your major is extremely difficult, you can hold a job and be greek. It's all about time management! I think it is great if you do not have to work while in college but alot of students do. I am sure that you do not study 24 hrs a day... I bet alot of kids that do not work spend those hours doing something else not school related.
In fact on of my favorite examples is the president of my chapter my senior year. She had a job, a great GPA and believe me she worked for it, she was involved in more clubs than anyone I knew, she was inducted in to the leadership honorary fraternity and went on to become a CDC and is now a different national officer and employed at HQ. She was the typical overachiever but you really don't have to be an over achiever, just able to plan your time efficiently and occasionally make sacrifices.

The vast majority of my sisters (including myself) worked, did the sorority stuff, did well in school and were involved in other groups.

Not everyone has parents willing to pay for their social activities, and many students have to work to pay the bills or earn spending money.

But I will say... find a better job that'll give you some experience at something, if even just an office environment, and something better for your resume than working in campus dining.

I very much agree with this. I get EXTREMELY irritated with people who "waste" their time. In 2 1/2 years I have only missed 1 chapter meeting, and it was because I flew out of town to see my long distance military boyfriend before he went out to sea for a long period of time. I only take 12/13 hours worth of classes, but I work 25 hours, AND I'm involved in 2 other organizations on campus (one being student government, the other a professional IT organization). People who can't (or rather, don't) manage their time effectively get on my nerves - especially when they come into chapter whining and complaining about how busy they are. Guess what, we're all busy, so if you're looking for sympathy, you're barking up the wrong tree.