oye, I'm sure that I'll get a version of "margaritaville" sung to me by my chapter sisters...a side effect of having a jimmy buffet song as an official sorority song.

Nothing DZ related in my ceremony, but at the reception all of my sisters surrounded me and sang "A Golden Lamp and a Pale Pink Rose." Although, truth be told, I think the girls not from my school were just kind of humming along since not too many other chapters seem to know that song.

Later, we all got in a circle and sang along to "American Pie" which is not, of course, an official DZ song but whenever it would come on in a bar or at a party, was always our signal to drop whatever we were doing, get to the center of the floor and sway goofily. :)

One thing my bio sister did when she got married this summer was to pin her Kappa key on a blue ribbon to the inside of her gown just under the bodice. Oh, and her sisters serenaded her during the reception but I wasn't familiar with the song so I don't remember what it was :)

I plan on riding a live lion into my wedding ceremony and letting the lion feast on my bride-to-be's parents.

-Rudey

My groom's cake will probably be a fraternity related thing.

One of the flowers will be the white rose.

There is also a traditional wedding picture where the bride is held in the air by the brothers in attendance. I sure as heck won't be the first alum to exclude that tradition from my wedding.

Ooooh, now THAT would have been a good option for me! Unfortunately, my in laws are large people and I would have had a devil of a time finding enough snapping turtles to devour them in a timely fashion.

I love hearing what other Kappas do at weddings. I've heard some chapters sing Our Best To You, some do Dream Awhile and some do ones I'm not familiar with.

Of course, my chapter doesn't do the nice, pretty songs; we do the fun ones. :)

I made them out of crepe paper, they are kind of hard to explain. I'm not sure I have a close up picture. I'll look and see.

I wore my badge under my dress as well as a pearl ring that we all made the night before our initiation. The tradition in our chapter was that the rings were only worn on our initiation day and our wedding day. During the cake cutting I played the instrumental version of St. Elmo's Fire and my sorority sisters sang the "Sigma Kappa version."

From what I recall (I got married a LONG time ago) my sisters (chapter AND my double bio/GLO sister) conducted a rousing 2 verses of Oh Pat! along with our nicer songs. My husband's West Point classmates (no fraternities at USMA) sang something lovely as well.

Now that I think of it, we had purple and gold subtle accents at my SAE brother's reception and I remember my sister's chapter sisters singing to her as well. I know my SILs both married Sigma Chis and I believe they serenaded each of them as well.

I wish I had a photo of this, but when I was a collegian, a recent alumna married an SAE. There were violets everywhere, lions at every doorway, favorites of candied violets, but the coup de grace was their wedding cake. I hope I can do this justice!

They had 625 guests, so of course, the cake had to be large. The bottom tiers (separate, about a foot apart) were the Alpha Delta Pi pin and the Sigma Alpha Epsilon pin - both diamond shaped. Columns were on those, so you could appreciate that these were replicas of the pins, then the cake tiers continued, all diamond shaped, violets seeming to ooze from the top of each tier, draping down the sides.

About 3 tiers up, a staircase started on each of the cakes, one showing the bridesmaids (all ADPis), the other the groomsmen (all SAEs). This staircase made a bridge about 3 feet from the table, where the Bride & Groom were replaced by a sterling frame of linked hearts, with their photo in it. A canopy was over this, and then the cake went up into 2 more united layers - heart shaped. The symbolism was their GLOs, of course, with the bride & groom meeting, and love (the hearts) taking over. It was incredible, and I can't even begin to imagine how it stayed together, let alone how much it cost! Amazing.

As for me, I had an equal amount of ADPis and Phi Mus in my wedding party - even though Phi Mu isn't on our campus! There were violets in the spring bouquets, and my favorite legacy carried a basket of violets. I wore my pin on my camisole (sapphire points, so it was "something blue"), and there was a diamond pattern in all of the linens (that took some doing!). My sisters seranaded us with "Remember", and the dj played a special segment of "our songs". One memorable photo had me joining the standard kick line in my wedding dress to "New York, New York"! Unfortunately, I had the wrong groom...

Right now we're having a mixture of both org's for our wedding, however there's a lot more TKE stuff than my Lambda stuff. So far we are incorporating red (or cherry, heh) as the accent color and red roses for me and red carnations for him and his bro's that will be involved. All my sisters who come will be giving a red rose and for any of how bro's who show will get a beer ;)

Also, we're going to have about 4 other sororities at our wedding, oh the songs we'll be singing....:D

Here's a random question that was asked by him, since he pinned me and I have his pin, do I wear it or does he? We don't care either way but we're just curious.

Wear it inside your dress. ;)

What we did - if you both have guards on your pins - is that I wore my pin & guard, then pinned his directly under it, looped the chains together and pinned the guard. It makes an X if you do it right.

Do you have a picture of that?

I wore my husband's pin on my left but closer to the middle of my sternum and my badge to my left of that. The round part of the key merged nicely with the shape of his pin.

No, I don't - I didn't have a camera while I was in school (couldn't be bothered, LOL). And I don't think I can "draw" it on this message board. Since my pin is a diamond, and the PiKA pin is somewhat of one, they fit together nicely, both over my heart, but his under and slightly to the right (looking at me) of mine. Both guards were in their usual places, but the little chains crossed.

The easiest way was to put my pin and guard on, then his pin under mine, and take the little guard chain under mine, then put his guard under mine. Does that help?