Any time we've done alum things, the contacts have been made through a verified list from HQ. Like Dee says, they wouldn't be on the mailing list or have been contacted unless they were members.

But if we were to put something in the local newspaper or on a website that everyone can see saying "alumnae chapter meeting at so and so time, anyone who is interested please show up" I would certainly want proof of membership in some form. That's probably not the best way to go about doing things like that though.

As the contact person for my alumnae chapter, I always check with National HQ when someone expresses interest in attending one of our events. Usually a quick e-mail is all that is needed to verify that the person is an initiated member and in good standing.

What is Tom talking about this time?

No wonder he doesn't return my phone calls. :(

To perhaps give Tom some clarity on the topic, we aren't talking about just meeting people in the street or at conferences. We are talking about a more longterm interaction such as transfering membership into graduate chapters. Membership in our organizations is a privilege and anyone who can't stand to have their membership verified must have something to hide.

Ditto for AKA. :)

Most of the women who join our group come because a friend brought them so we usually verify them that way. But I'm not at all above verifying them with our IH if necessary.

God what a twit.:rolleyes:

Oh, werent You supposed to ignore?:p

The thing is, the OP asked about "ALUMNAE" - not "ALUMNI."

I guess not all readers here know the difference...so just in case:

ALUMNAE = ALL FEMALE

And it's not a typo.

Some of us can speak from the persective of sororities and alumnae membership, but that isn't a requirement to answer the OP's question.

The more important point is that the OP is asking about graduated members who are seeking to become active or work with graduate chapters.

But she went on to say alumni/ae and her/him.

I couldn't agree more, sawrah.

I value our organization's secrets, so I do not find it offensive at all. When I moved to NYC and joined a grad chapter, I was asked to show my membership card (along w/my driver's license) AND had a prophyte vouch for me before I was admitted to the room where the meeting was to be held. I was thankful for their caution, actually.

The gate keeper is crucial, sawrah. ;)

"anyone who can't stand to have their membership verified must have something to hide."

There you have it...:)

True. I was upset that I got into a ceremony, without being verified once. :mad:

Exactly. If you can get in w/o being verified, ANYBODY can get in. That's not the business.