Me and my boyfriend have also just moved in together...

I moved into HIS place and he makes sure that i know that it was HIS place before.

He also has the infamous black leather couches which i have to admit are NOT my favorite part of the place. But we tried to make compromises...

for instance
he can keep his couches..as long as i can buy some decorative and colorful pillows to throw on them to make them look better, also i had to spend a good day CLEANING them... black leather couches dont LOOK dirty...but they are if you dont take care of them. Im sure the couches had seen more play, partys and all out maddness that Id like to know about...but at least now they are CLEAN..and have some nice pillows that compliment them.

Also, his office remains his office, and since he is a buisness guy and does alot of things in there, i dont complain. We put my desk and things on one side for my teacher stuff and he has his things on one side. It works, I dont try and change his setup though...

The toliet paper complaint i get ALL the time..but i cant help it.. girls use it every the time..not just once or twice a day like boys.
But if I buy it I dont hear the complaint, so I buy the huge size and it lasts longer.

When I moved in with my bf the amount of "products" i had amazed him, I also have baskets under my sink..but luckily we have seperate bathrooms so this helps ALOT with the complaining. Before his old roomate moved out we were sharing one..and we faced many of the same problems.. my hair things, my lotions etc. Now that we have seperate bathrooms we are all set...everyone is happy.


I guess the most important part of all of this is that its a learning process... its like a trial run to see if everything works out if things get more serious. I like to think of it as an adventure..

but most importantly remember ...compromise.. and if your GF doesnt understand that sit her down and explain the meaning of compromise.. maybe then she will see it slightly different.

GOOD LUCK!!!

I think the reason you, the Munchkins, and the KSigKids haven't had any problems is you're mature couples who were ready to make the committment.

When you have an immature couple moving in together, you're going to have problems no matter what.

And what's more, you're not going to have the emotional tools to think of things like compromising, letting the little things go, etc.

touche'

I moved in with my boyfriend a few months and haven't experienced anything like that. I moved into his condo knowing that it was his name on the mortgage and that I was just lucky enough to find a place in Atlanta that's in a good location, spacious, and for a good price! Our place is a 2 bedroom/2 bath condo so we both have our own walk-in closets and our own bathrooms. This certainly alleviates a lot of the stress of giving up personal space. I don't nag him about leaving the toilet seat up or leaving whiskers in the sink. Only when we're having guests come over do I ask him to clean up his own bathroom...or if it becomes a toxic waste zone.

We have the normal couple arguments but never an all out fight. Living together takes getting use to and it takes compromise. The best thing we could've done was sit down with each other before the move in and told each other our roommate pet peeves. We knew ahead of time what the other was expecting out of the living situation and I think it's made us much happier roommates!

Craig, I think your problem might be that you still think of your apartment as being "your" space and she senses that. When she moved in, the apartment became both of yours and she's trying to show that she has a say in things too and that it's her space, not just yours. Just let her know that you realize it's her space too and compromise.

I find it funny that a thread made for men was filled with nothing but women voicing their opinions about living with their boyfriends and how good it turned out. I wonder how different the stories would be if your boyfriends gave their opinions, ladies. ;)



Anyways-


The living together thing is coming along fine. I had to handle my business. I moreless got gangsta and laid the law down on how things are going to be. I kind of had a feeling she was trying to establish some sort of leverage or semi-dominace by redecorating and I had to let her know who the boss is. Come to find out her mother was the one who told her to do something like that. :rolleyes: *ever notice how its always the would-be mother in laws that make everything a pain in the ass?*

I gave her 3 rooms to have out of the 7. Its a 2 bedroom/2 bathroom condo. The office was already staying and we both decided on that, so we each had 3 rooms to do what we wanted. Since I own everything I had first pick. I chose the living room, one of the bathrooms and the kitchen (because I do all the cooking). She got the bedroom, the dining room and a bathroom. To make her feel better I also gave her the utility room. We have 2 walk-in closets and one of them had our stuff in it and the other was like a storage thing. This week I cleaned it all out and gave away a lot of stuff to poor people to make room for her clothes and shoes. So I solved the closet issue. We already did the pet peeve thing before she moved in, I saw that one coming long before ZTAngel and Mr. ZTAngel ever thought about doing it. ;)

As far as my couches go, I found out the reason why she didnt really like them. I didnt know it but there were nut stains all over it from where people have screwed over the past few years. I never saw them until she pointed them out and even then you have to look real hard. She didnt say it outright, but I know she was thinking they came from me taggin my ex-fiance's ass. And in all likelihood thats where they probably came from. We used to watch porn together on the 64inch when we were drunk. I told her they were from my old roomates, Brad, Travis, Billy & Tony fucking dirty bitches late night or from my english bulldog, Beavis, when his little pink thing comes out. After that I quickly changed the subject.


Its not that bad having her living with me. She does all the cleaning, cleaning that I couldnt keep up with if my life depended on it. She thinks I was spoiled growing up because my mother always had an aunt jamama that did the cleaning for us. But it evens out. I do the cooking because she can't cook for shit unless its cookies, muffins or a cake. I let her try to cook last night and she gave me raw broccoli, water chestnuts and sliced carrot with unseasoned chicken she cooked on a george foreman grill :rolleyes: I had to drown everything in soy sauce just to be able to eat it, but I still ate it. I think the only thing that gets on my nerves is the fact that she likes to fuck entirely waaaay too much. Its when I wake up in the morning, when I come home from work, after dinner and before I go to bed. Sometimes I feel like I don't even have both legs in the door before she's already trying to take my damn clothes off. I'm like fuck man, let me get both my legs in the door or get a glass of wine down me first. Seriously, whatever happened to just giving a man a blowjob and letting him passout? 2 nights ago I asked her if she was about to start her period and she said yea, in a couple days. So later on I was laying on the couch and she walked by and bent down to kiss me (which aggrevates me because she kisses me like every 5 minutes). Instead, I grabbed her by the waist and put my head between her legs and sniffed real big. I pulled back and said Ewwwww!!! She got mad and stormed off. She was pissed for about 30 minutes and then was back to normal. Later on that night she wanted to fuck and I told her I don't put the dank in the stank. She got mad and rolled over. I told her not to be mad because all chicks have a distinct smell right before they start ragging and that I don't like fucking when pussy smells like pre-period vagina. She sighed, gave me a kiss, told me she loved me and rolled over to go to sleep. But other than her always wanting more sex than I.....everything is fine.


As for those of you who think its a "wuss" thing to live together instead of getting married first....thats probbably why you ladies are the single ones still living with your parents after college. Its called being smart. Its called not putting yourself in a situation to where you'll end up getting a divorce. First you have to be friends with a person of the opposite sex, then you have to be really good friends, then you see if the two of you can still be those really good friends while dating, and then you see if you two can remain that way while living together. If you can do that you'll have a great marriage. At least thats what the old people I know who have been married for 40+ years say to me. Said.

Is redecoration more of a girl thing than a guy thing?

I have known girls to move in with heir BF's and they seem to want to get furniture and stuff . . .

I have known boys to move in with their GF's and i don't know any that really wanted to redecorate or started taking up a lot of space with their stuff . . .

Why the difference?

Also, the guys i know were pretty ok with the girl changing things around, I wonder though, would girls be as likely to be ok with the boy wanting to make more masculine changes and take up lots of closet space in her place?

I dunno . . . Its still really his place isn't it? She's just staying there for now on a trial basis that may become permanent.

I am not sure that her wanting to launch sometype of permanency campaign this early is precisly sane.

Thats pretty territorial. Although I guess this is better than pissing in the corners to mark her space.

If she lives with him and helps to pay rent then it's not just his space anymore.

Oh my craig. You have a very uhm . . graphic writing style. Its not precisely TMI . . . just graphically written.

If she ever reads this she is going to kill you . . so of course I had to quote it to immortalize it. :p

Well she's not exactly paying rent right now. She just now got a job at a hospital that she's been trying to get. They didnt have any openings for her field of practice but amazingly something popped up out of nowhere and administration gave her a call. When she was in college she worked at Victoria's Seceret and became a manager while still in her undergrad. Before she moved here I made her get a job as a safety net so she wouldnt be home all day laying out at the pool waiting for me to come home and hit it. She got a management job at the V and hated it with the utmost intensity. As soon as she heard from hospital administration she quit. She has money but even still I havent made her pay anything towards rent yet and won't until the end of September. She recently took over the payments on the X5 her parents bought her 2 years ago and I think if I made an attempt to have her even make an effort to come close to splitting the total bills for my place it'd put a lot of unneeded stress on her.

That's really nice of you then. :)

Or...you could get an apartment by yourself, like me, so that you have a nice quiet place to sleep when you don't want to go to your boyfriend's house. Then you ladies don't have to put up with anybody else's crap lying around--it's fabulous!

Or live with a sorority sister after college so that it's ok that you're at his place 5 nights a week and there's still someone around your place. ;) I just know if I moved in with him after almost 7 months I'd kill him. I'm still attached to my personal space and I know he feels the same way, we've even discussed that we don't want to live with someone we're dating because we want time to get away if we need it.

YES.

I love having my space to chill in, even after 3 + years w Mr. Amycat. If we were to live together, it would have to be a BIIIIG place, because I need my space and so does he.