Or maybe you should stop dealing with maybes and just go for it?

Just ask him - it's as simple as that. Whether he says yes or no, then it's no longer an issue. This back-and-forth stuff just isn't going to do anything though.

I say you should ask him to do something relatively non-date like that way it does seem like your trying to "date" him. And then if he says no, it doesn't really matter cause it's not like you have to see him everyday, actually you wouldn't have to see him at all if it bothered a lot he said no or you were embarrassed. But I think if you don't it will bug you or at least it would me.

excuse me?:confused:

okay okay- I know- i am a BIG chicken! I wish he would call me at least. I dont know, I have a feeling that if he liked me he would have called.

I am going to try and stop by his branch one day and see if I see him that way I can talk to him and maybe ask him out. If I just call him on the phone it might be like I am stalking him because he might think "why does she keep calling me!" Like I said before, we were not that close to begin with.

Ok lets put it another way . . . suppose this is The Love of this decade for both of you.

Are you going to let it go bad because he is shy and you are afraid?

If he says no . . . you don't have to see him.

IF he says yes and it doesn't work, you probably get some free food from it, some excitement, probably some heavy make-out sessions and a good story.

Does he like me?

I dont think so!

So our manager had her baby today. Since he is no longer at the branch, I called him when I was going home from school. I was somewhat nervous, but thought it would be a good excuse. When I called him he said he had already heard, but thanks for giving him the heads up. He asked how everything at the branch was going, and we just briefly talked about things. He sounded somewhat dissapointed with his new branch because its not what he is used to. I told him to not have a negative attitude and he said "yes ma'am"


I told him we had a new girl start at the branch, and he was telling me how our manager had told him they hired a new girl and was teasing him about how cute she was. So I told him I didnt think she was cute, and kind of reminded me of this other girl that used to work there- which we thought he liked, so he replied by saying "then yeah, i probably wouldnt like her anyway" and then said he isnt going to get invovled with any co-workers. She wouldnt be his co-worker anyway since he is at another branch anyway- but gives me some relief with him being elsewhere.



Anyway- he told me what when I go to his branch, through the drive thru, he would be sure to help me out. So I told him I would get down so I could talk to him. Anyway- at the end of the conversation, which again, was for about 5 minutes, he said again "thanks for the heads up on calling me to letting me know she had the baby" but he added "BUDDY!" What kind of guy calls a girl that??? Before, when he was still at the branch im at, he had called me buddy twice before as well. I didnt really like it then, and I dont like it now. Maybe he thinks I like him, and its his subtle way of telling me he only views me as a friend, if that, nothing more. I couldnt have been more dissapointed.

BUDDY? I am right, right???? Guys dont call girls "buddy" if they saw them in any other way other than a friend.


:( :(

I'm a girl but my nickname for my ex was Buddy...i don't know why but i just started calling him that instead of honey, sweetie, etc. I don't think it says anything either way about whether he likes you. However, I do think that you have nothin to lose by going down there and asking him to get a drink sometime. If he wants to go, he'll say yes. If he doesn't, he'll be evasive or say no directly. Either way you'll know if he likes you or not.

thanks for the positive feedback.

I actually think that I saw him at wal-mart today. I am not 100% sure if it was him, but more like 99% sure. He was behind this rack, so I couldnt completely see all his face. My heart just started beating really fast, and plus I was in a hurry so I didnt say hi.

That "buddy" thing really made me think though. Maybe one day I will go into his branch, but I know that I will be really nervous- especially since I dont see him every day anymore.

Anyone else have any thoughts on the "buddy" thing?

I call girls that I like Buddy!

So to sum it up....

He doesn't like you like that.

Move on and know that a great guy will take an interest in you and treat you like the special person you are.

/end thread (pretty please? My eyes are bleeding from trying to weed through all the subtle innuendos...)

this thread is hilarious.

Have you ever kissed a boy? Before I read that post with the buddy thing, i thought he might like you. before reading that I would have said to not worry about whether he likes you or not, just ask him out even though its not your style.

I have another way of deciding whether he likes you or not: post a picture.

When we like a guy we want to beleive that anything they do or say to us it's because they like us.

As someone mentioned before, the guy has you number, he knew he was leaving and most of all the movies he borrowed would have been the perfect chance for him to take you out.

Its obvious the guy is not that interested.
Want an idea?
Go to his branch with a friend and tell him you were passing by to invite him to a party (and make sure several friends are going as well to that party) if he doesn't go. Just forget about him.

This is pretty terrible advice outside 'laboratory conditions' - in the real world, this often is incomplete, inconclusive, and you'll miss out on many opportunities if you follow this sort of thinking.

We are going to miss out the opportunities that not worth it.
The real world is:
1. If a guy likes a girl: He will find a way to keep her close. PERIOD!

I mentioned in another thread that we can lead a guy to pursue us. but will only happen if he likes us in the first place. By what bucutie02 is being described, the guy likes her but not the way she is expected to be liked.

Bucutie02 you deserved better than that. Just wipe out a tear or two and.....NEXT!!!

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Any posts that include lines like this immediately lose credibility with, oh, anyone who's ever been on a date - if it weren't such a meaningless cop out, I'd love to spend my valuable time arguing, but instead I'll just say this:

bucutie . . . there's an easy way to find out everything you need to know. You just need to . . . ask.