Personally I hate children and don't really want any. I think they're cute and all for a little time being, but I just can't tolerate them for long periods of time and don't intend to. Yet whenever I tell this to any of my friends, they all look at me like I'm Cruella DeVil or something. Especially one of my sorority sisters, who wants to have 5 kids by the time she's in law school/starting out her first year in a law firm and has a full time job. And she tells me I'm the crazy one...

I would like kids, but I don't want babies. I used to despise anything under 4'5". Now I just despise things that can't go potty by themselves.

I want 2 someday in the far away future. Just not anytime soon. I'm hardly responsible enough to take care of myself nonetheless a child.

The mom behind you should be more worried about the young teenagers having kids rather than people who don't want kids!! Don't even get me started on that issue!! I get so irritated when I see these 18/19 year old single moms with 3-4 kids (who of course all have different fathers), working min wage jobs, and I'll stop now....
Although I now have a child (1 year old) and wouldn't change anything, I applaud you all for not rushing into having kids or for chosing not to. It's definitely not for everyone!

I want to have 3 or 4 kids myself. Being a mom (prayerfully housewife too) is a role that I would gladly take. :)

Yes. I would like to have 3-4 children. The first within the next year or two, preferrably.

Now, if only my body would cooperate with me.

Some people have that heart-wrenching desire to be parents, which is why so many go through IF treatments to be able to have biological children of their own. Some people just don't want kids ever, which is completely fine. Some people change their mind on the subject as their life situations change. I don't think any of those is better than the other, it all depends on what you want and feel is best for you.

This is a sore point between me and my husband (DH) on the one side, and our parents and the neighborhood busybodies :rolleyes: on the other.

I don't want kids right now. I may change my mind down the road, but honestly... I probably won't. The thought of childbirth squicks me out. The whole pregnancy process scares me. Then there are the joys of taking care of a small baby - can you say sleep deprivation?

DH and I have agreed, no kids for at least the next 2-3 years. Our lives are crazy enough right now without adding kids into the mix.

However... our parents desperately want to be grandparents. DH and I are each only children, so we're their only hope for grandkids. My parents make a point of oohing and aahing every time we're with them and they see a baby or toddler. My in-laws are more blatant, and recently went so far as to try to get a friend of ours to convince us to have a baby! :rolleyes: :mad:

And the busybodies in our community! I can't gain five pounds without somebody asking me if I'm pregnant. (This is great motivation for me to stay on my diet. :p )

Okay, </vent> :)

I wouldn't mind raising a child or two... I just really don't want to have to go through the pregnancy and childbirth thing. I'd love to adopt, though. There are so many babies and young children out there in need of good homes and loving parents.

I really want a healthy little girl (gotta be an AOII legacy;) )....soon... :)
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I don't necessarily want kids. I don't necessarily do not want to have them. I am somewhere in the middle where if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't. I don't care if have them or not.

I know right now I have no desire to have kids. I think if I somehow ended up with one I'd hightail it to the nearest adoption agency and say here you go! Go to it! Find my kid a good home because I sure as heck couldn't give it one. Nor would I want to right now. Why? I don't have the money, resources, or own any residential dwelling right now. Yea I know pretty much I wouldn't be able to support it nor do I want to be tied down to a child's schedule.

I also do not understand why people come off offended when I say I don't necessarily care if I had kids or not. It's kind of like I am saying being a mom is a horrible job and being a mom is on the low-spectrum of the totem-pole of class status. Of course I am not saying that nor do I think that.

I have a strong desire for children and have for many years. But I know that I'm nowhere NEAR that point now. It's an "in the future" goal for me. But yeah, I would like at least 2, more if it was financially feasible.

One day, there will be at least two bittybugs. My dad hopes to be able to field almost half a football team between my offspring and my sister's. But that is many moons from now, when we are married and (hopefully) financially able. And honestly, if the future Mr. Bug is well-off enough, I wouldn't mind being a stay-at-home soccer-mom type. But I doubt that will happen.

Parenting is like marriage, IMO: it's one of those things you do when you know you're ready for it and so is your partner. If you don't want 'em, don't have 'em. We have contraceptives for that. It's your choice, nobody else's. If they happen, take it and roll with it--I was "supposed" to come along about 5 years after I did, but my parents still did an awesome job. If you want 'em, have 'em. But make sure you can support them emotionally/financially.

This is about as difficult as explaining how being Greek is so great to an outsider...lol, but, I'll try.

I have two very individual kids who are very bright in different ways. It is an amazing thing to watch them grow and learn over the years. You don't understand how much you can love someone until you feel the love the love you have for your children (given that they're wanted and you want to take on the job, I think you could be very resentful if that's not the case). I have a strong sense of purpose knowing that I am responsible for raising these children to be independent, compassionate, contributing members of our society. They are only 11 and 9 now, but in that short period of time, I have been able to help them thrive and grow into these little people who have their own thoughts, feelings and ideas. I love talking to them and hearing their ideas. They make me laugh (and cry!) and they are the center of my universe. I'm not sure what my goals in my personal life would be if it weren't for them. They keep me motivated to continue on and stay strong through anything, because they need me. They also keep me young and observant. Because of them, I "stop and smell the roses" to coin a phrase. I am excited to show them the rainbows, the squirrels, the ducks, the toads I find in the yard when I'm mowing, etc.

They frustrate me to no end some days, but most of the time, they just amaze and fascinate me.

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Yes, I want children. Probably btwn 3 & 5. I have a very strong maternal instict and longing to have children. I have worked at a daycare center and in my church's nursery since the age of 16. I babysit a bunch, which includes running the kids to soccer, T-ball, Dance, and TaeKwonDo, and being there to cheer them on at games when their parents can't make it and I love doing it.


All that being said, some days when i'm running myself ragged just doing stuff on MY to do list and barely even have time to walk the dog.... or I have to worry about who takes care of the dog when I go out of town... I think about how much kids would tie me down.... but then I figure I'll be ready in a few years.

:D You're hilarious!

On the topic: I'd love to have some little pjs running around. I'm ready now to be married but I'm NOT looking. Two children are good for me, but I'd be happy with whatever number God chooses. And, I do believe in birth control.

Thank you for sharing - I appreciate it.