Honestly, I think it did a bit. There was a point when we were together that I thought we could be together for quite a long time, there was a proposal involved in this situation, there were a lot of factors that really affected me with how i acted with him and how I act now. I have tons of trust issues when it comes to guys and while he is not the sole reason for them, things have happened since then to reinforce them, he was a part of me developing them. And even know, in some ways, it's getting to me just thinking about him and the situation.

Otter-


You might ask why in the world I would want to be with someone like that. Well, I'll put it in chick terms. You know how girls can't stand rejection? Like, you know how if a guy turns them down or cheats on them or does something that is some form of "You're not good enough"...and then she get back wiht him or calls him back or something like that but then she'll drop him if they get back together or pop up randomly to remind him of what he's missing out on and then dip out purposely just to leave him in despair just so that she can end up back on top? Well, thats sort of whats going on here. I dont handle rejection easily or very well. When a girl lies to me I take it as rejection of some sort, as if I'm not good enough to tell the truth to. So what do I do? I'm stupid, just like most guys, and I end up going back till I get the truth and she says she's sorry and becomes passive so that I'll end up on top. Its wierd, I know, but most guys out there have to be on top whther they admit it or not.

Someone told me about that the other week and I didn't believe it until they showed me a webpage that had Paris Hilton's emails on it. I guess that would explain Jessica Simpson's weight loss.

Letting her hair down in a t-shirt, saying anything crazy, has a whole new meaning now.

I know you said all these girls are hot, blahblahblah...but seriously, it's not like there's only 4 hot girls in the world and you were lucky to get all four in your group of friends. II'm not sure what exact answers you're looking for with all this...like "these girls suck!" or "wow!" but seriously, I know you don't want to look like the wimp in the situation who had this girl lie to him...but I think it would make you look better to just drop her. Just my opinion. But it does seem like you get into these situations a lot, so maybe...therapy? :p

I don't really think you want our opinions. You know what you think.

You can choose how you act and to a grand extent you can choose how you feel. Choose what makes you happy.

Okay, it sounds to me (from the little bit that I actually read) that you and your friends are not mature enough to be in meaningful and trusting relationships. You should probably take some time to be with yourselves and find out what you're really looking for before jumping into bed with anything that has two feet and a heart beat.

I have been screwed over by someone I was in love with. Guess what -- it's still not normal behavior. It doesn't matter if it's hard. Playing the part of the psycho just compounds the problem and makes both of you meaner and crazier. Most of the time in relationships like these, walking away is the only thing that's going to stop either of you from being crazy and hurt.

Reading his away messages to see what he's up to? Acceptable.
Driving past his house at random hours to see what he's up to? Unacceptable and a little crazy, although maybe acceptable if you only do it once and regret it afterward.
Cutting off the edges of his blinds so you can see into his window whenever you want? Psychotic, and the kind of behavior that leads to restraining orders.

This is why restraining orders exist, kids. Getting screwed over in love doesn't mean you get to do whatever you want to the person in order to make up for it.

I think the horse is out of the barn on this one.

Yes, y'alls behavior is a bit psychotic... In regards to her lying, some people do have this problem, I believe in a lot of instances they do it to keep themselves out of trouble. Have you ever reacted badly to her when she has done something small (like forgetting to do something she said she was going to do) and she admitted it? Once this happens some women (and men) feel like just lying and telling you what you want to hear will be easier and not cause a fight, or drama, or...

I know you like the HOT girls, but maybe a cute girl with a good personality is the way to go. You wouldn't be embarrassed to introduce them to family, bring them to work events, trust issues may or may not be a problem - but most women I know do not get themselves involved in the types of activities you have described in previous posts.

I think all guys have reacted badly to things women have done. Thats something Ive made a point to change. Instead of reacting at the moment Ive learned to "respond" after Ive thought about it. For example, this one girl told me she made out with a black dude once. Well, its been my experience that chicks that go interracial end up doing a lot of nasty things...like getting double teamed and triple teamed. If its a girl i care about I get bent out of shape. I know its my own insecurities that cause that....but its something I gotta get over. Well, the girl that did that ended up being someone I care about...and still do. I got over it but its not something I like to think about. If its just a "fuck" I could care less. Whether you think its racist or not, if a white guy tells his white girlfriend "hey, I have sex with black chicks as well as white girls" it kind of freaks them out if they were raised a certain way. How do I know this? A few of my friends have went chocolate at least once just to try it out and then told later GFs and the girls freaked out. Its wierd, though. When those same guys told other girls they've banged asian girls it was no big deal. Thats what I dont understand. Anyhow, my point is....its all about responding rather than reacting....and Ive learned it the hard way. :rolleyes:

Point taken, Cash. The best thing you can do is respond after thinking - even in matters that don't concern sex. Sometimes you will just have to "put your blinders on" and keep in mind that she is with you now, and that is what's really important.

Some women also like to be beaten with electrical cords. I think you should recommend this to guys in your advice. Anyway dude, after having sex with the beeyotch you should woop her with an electrical cord just so she doesn't do anything stupid.

What do all the ladies think? Did I give good advice or what? I bet all of you would be real obedient if you got woopings with electrical cords.

-Rudey

Whatever works to keep your ladies in line Rudey ;)

I suppose. Well, then I think you set the standards too high. I am not saying there is a problem with going out with hot looking women. I am just saying, when you are looking for a lasting relatioship, I think your priorities are a little off. I am not stupid enough to think that a man doesn't pick women based on their looks. I think the problem lies in the fact that is all what some guys look for. If a girl looks good, that is all that guys need to go out with her. Well, what about her as a person? I am only saying this because it seems that all of these stories that you tell involves gorgeous women with serious issues. Why is that?

Personally, my problem with guys is that my standards are too low. I have had to take a break from guys are figure out what is that I am looking for. I am a firm believer that there is someone out there that is the person of your dreams. Sometimes you just have to wait for them to come your way instead of searching.