Why not get paid for something you do for free every month anyway? :D

Because you need to have a LOT of eggs ready for fertilization at the same time.

The irony of this is that I know a couple who could not conceive, and are on public assistance. The woman was also illiterate.

They were artificially inseminated THREE TIMES - for free, of course! - and are still on public assistance!!! One good thing that did come out of it was that the mother learned to read when her eldest started school.


One of my sisters couldn't conceive - her witchy mother-in-law would call her every Mother's Day to say, "Maybe there'll come a time when we can wish YOU a Happy Mother's Day, too." They eventually found out it was his misfunction, which helped a little, and decided to adopt a foreign child. The orphanage they used did a classic bait and switch on them - they had signed for two sisters, 6 months and 18 months old. But, gosh darn, their mother showed up and they couldn't adopt them after all. Since they weren't leaving without a child, they did adopt another little girl, who is gorgeous. All in all, the final tally was well over $30k - for just the adoption.

only once a month?
You, sir, are more of a man than I can hope to be.

Those ads never stopped running. I see a few every day in the Columbia student newspaper (usually they're requestiong $8,500 and right on up), and occasionally I'll see one in certain magazines. Usually they want a blonde haired, blue eyed woman, 5'7" or taller, with high SAT or other test scores. I've seen a few requesting Jewish or Asian women with good test scores and in excellent health. I very rarely see African-Americans or Latinos being solicited that way.

Regarding price of adoption--doesn't it depend on the circumstances? I read Dan Savage's book on how he and his boyfriend adopted a baby, and in the conclusion he mentioned that it was about $20,000, and that didn't count transportation and other incidental costs (for example, they paid for the birth mother's living expenses those last few months).

Okay, I"m getting confused on everybody mentioning numbers and such.

I guess I feel like I would totally do it, b/c somewhere out there is a loving couple who wants a baby. And maybe this woman wants the ability to actually be pregnant. Ya know? And IF i was in that situation I would want someone to do that for me.

But then the whole hormone shots and whatever scares me. So....idk

I think he might have been talking about how a woman usually ovulates once a month. (Although there are women who ovulate twice a month, some that never ovulate, and some that ovulate irregularly.)

On topic:

No. I don't think I would ever do this for someone I don't know. (Aside from having PCOS and only ovulating once in a bright, blue moon.)

I do understand that there are people out there who would feel comfortable doing this and having biological offspring somewhere out there. That's great.

Personally, when my husband and I decide to have another child (down the road), we will try naturally. (Max was big surprise to the OBGYN who told me I would probably never have children.) If that fails, then we will adopt. We had discussed adoption when we found out I had little chance of ever having kids. So, we would definitely adopt.

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We're actually considering becoming foster parents through our church's program. We love kids and can't help but think that we have a loving home that we could share with children who don't know what it's like to have someone to love and protect them.

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From Chickens
 

Yeah, I buy eggs at the grocery store all the time.

Whether you choose to sell your eggs or not is a personal decision. I don't believe that one can say it's a good thing or a bad thing.

For me, it's a non-issue because being a diabetic, I can't sell my eggs anyway.

This is an interesting topic of discussion and I have a few comments.

1. I have actually thought about donating my eggs and in all honesty it was because I a) needed the money and b) have all the eggs I will ever have in my life. Yes, the thought of having a child out there that is partly mine was an issue. But I ended up deciding against it.

2. Fertility treatments: who are we (as a whole, society in general) to say to a woman that she can't go through treatments. The want and need for your own biological child is incredibly strong. I'm not even married but I know when I do get married I will try naturally to conceive but if I can't I will not hesitate to go through fertility treatments because I want to experience pregnancy. To feel your child kick for the first time inside you, would just be amazing. So even though I haven't gone through it I can totally understand why these women are going through what they are going through.

3. Adoption: I think other than the costs one thing that hasn't been said is the difficulties in adopting. Adopting in the United States, from what I've heard, is difficult. They do background checks, credit reports, check your finances, tons and tons of interviews and this isn't even including the costs of going through an adoption. Plus the laws in each state for how long a mother has until she can come back in and claim her child. In one state, it's 6 months. You could get a child and 6 months down the road this mom could come back into the picture and want her child back and you as the adoptive parent have no legal rights and I don't even think you get your money back. So there you've lost your child and the thousands upon thousands you've spent are down the drain. I've heard that adoptions in the US for newborns, 2 year waiting list.

And not to say that international adoption is any cheaper. You have to pay for the airfare. And you ain't just going once you have to go repeatedly. My second cousin recently adopted a little girl from China, they had to go over (from what I heard) 3 times. That is a lot of $$$$ if you are doing roundtrip airfare, hotel accomadations for you and your spouse. Again not even counting the cost of the adoption. This isn't also including the amount "red tape" one has to go through to do a international adoption.


I would actually like to adopt. There are tons of children out there who need good homes, but I want my own biological child also. And I have every right as a person to try to obtain of them.

Now these are just my opinions and my thoughts. I'm not pointing the finger at anyone.

Please just respect my opinion.