Oof, my cousins are all married now, and I get that "So where is your boyfriend?" thing all the time.

I smile, and tell them (politely) that he is in Fort Wayne with his family where he belongs. I also tell them that he and I go to school together 8 months out of the year and I prefer to spend the holidays catching up with my family and other friends.

Being nice generally shuts them up. :)

Re: Let the "Where's Your Boyfriend?"s begin!!!
 

I was just wondering this . . . I don't think we get it as much or as early. I think a mom or other female relative is likely to ask this question of a guy when he is much older than girls getting the same question.

Also, I think a guy's family knows that a lot of times men will be dating but not bring their girlfriend home for the holidays for a variety of reasons so won't bring it up.

How often do we har stories about X girl being the first one the parents met even though he has been in the dating game fo years and multiple partners?

Also, and I know this sounds harsh, girls receive more social validity by having a guy than a guy does having a girl. Very little of our social value is determined by us being single or taken. Also, guys don't seem to have a social shelf life, or the shelf life is much longer than the dating female.

Oy. And if you still think there is social validity attached to being single or taken, you are too old for this board.

I used to get that question all the time. now, it's like when are you going to find someone new...they're just jealous, because he didn't buy them diamonds for christmas.

But, on Christmas Eve, they asked for him, and it's like he has a family too and it's the same night they do their thing. If you want to see me next Christmas, you'll shut up and stop asking. :)

Just kidding. I wasn't that mean. But that is what it feels like.

made it through the entire holiday without a single where's your boyfriend

Both my nephews, ones 23 and ones 26, are getting married. One on New years day and One in June (or possibly sooner). Since I am close in age to my nephews they are more like my brothers. We only had 5 adults (including me) and 3 kids at our house for family dinner last night and I bet I was asked that question at least 10 times (people felt the need to ask it multiple times). Today we went over to my sis' house and one of my nephews was there and started in again saying hopefully soon I will have my own family. Geez people, I'm only 21, let me at least graduate first. The next person in my family is only 17, but I could care less if she's married before me.

Then my mom started talking about baby names for my "children" at lunch today...

Uhm . . there are a lot of 20 msomething's too old for this board then . . look at the engagement threds and wedding threads . .

No one asked me but I started to few bad cuz my 16 year old cousin brought her boyfriend. And he got her a "promise" ring. :rolleyes:

Don't knock promise rings! That means they're going to be together 4-EVER! ;)

1) sitting christmas eve with the fam and my sis's fiance....mom makes the comment about how she wants 6 kids from both of us....i was like, "both of who!?" b/c i'm the single girl and whoa, no babies, thanks. she was like, "both of you" to me and my sis...."you'll find whoever he is somewhere.....someday.....you know....wherever......" grrrreat.

2) my mom bought me both b. jones books (yay!) b/c we both know that i relate all too well to her (minus the being a 30-something singleton)...and then my sis pipes up, "yeah, but you don't end up with the good guy in the end"

THANK YOU! I'LL BE HERE ALL NIGHT!!! :p :rolleyes: :eek:

In Russia, if you weren't married by 22, it was as if you were destined to be an old maid forever and no one would want to marry you, and my mom got married at 20. Now that I'm 21, whenever we have any family gatherings, the *ahem* older relatives who all got married very young start asking me why I haven't gotten married yet, when am I getting married, and my personal favorite is when they ask my mom how many grandkids she wants (I'm an only child). Gee thanx. I get to see them all on the 2nd, really looking forward to that one.

*cough cough I was sent this thread by KLPDaisy...thanks ho, i mean thanks girl lol* ;)


I don't get this around the holiday. I get it all the time. But really only from my Pawpaw(grandfather). He decides whether I"m successful or not by whether or not I have a boyfriend.


The conversation this holiday went like this:

"Jennifer you got a boyfriend yet?" - Pawpaw
"Nope, not officially." - Me
"Well, that means no." - Pawpaw
"No! I've been on a couple dates with this one guy" - Me *getting very defensive*
"He got money? Smart?" - Pawpaw
"He's an engineer" - me
" Well, hell - that's better than what you want to do. Keep him." - Pawpaw

My Pawpaw believes that I should marry or date people that will only make money. B/c I will never amount to anything and should only be a housewife. So he's overly concerned with my dating habits. So its always fun trying to explain why I don't or why I do have a boyfriend. le sigh

Surprisingly I wasn't asked this question, to my recollection, once this year, which is kinda unfortunate because there are so many games I would loved to play. For example, this guy I was/am(?) seeing is friends with my cousin, so had someone asked me if I was seeing someone, it would have gotten back to him if I said no. Does that make sense?

For as dumb as boys are, girls are just as stupid.

ETA: But my 17-year old sister got the question a million times!

My boyfriend's mom has decided we better settle down and start popping out babies because she had three kids already when she was my age.

Um that's nice, I'm going to professional school instead. And we've been dating for three months.

Oh, my family gave up on me a long time ago! My cousin and I are the "old batchelor" and "old maid" of the family.:p