Okay, here's a serious question about discretion.

If you're a wannabe, and you make line, and your best friend is already a member in another chapter, can you tell her about your experiences, because you think she understands where you're coming from? Or do you wait until it's ALL said and done and the bountiful lady has finished wailing?

Chapter business stays in the chapter.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by 12dn94dst:
[B] Chapter business stays in the chapter.

Amen Soror, I couldn't said that better myself. That was something I was TAUGHT!!

Perfect, thank you!

In light of recents posts, I though it would be nice to bring this discussion back to the top.

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[This message has been edited by CrimsonTide4 (edited June 28, 2001).]

Discretion: THOSE THAT KNOW DON'T TELL
THOSE THAT TELL DON'T KNOW

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Discretion: in the context of Greek life. What exactly does this mean to you?

Discresion is, to me, being careful about what you say and to whom you say it. If I'm interested in ABC Sorority, Inc., I shouldn't tell any and everyone one I meet. You never know who you are talking to. They very well could just be a member of the particular sorority that you are interested in.

I also think that discresion is knowing when to keep your mouth shut and knowing when to keep things to yourself. When "on-line" for a particular sorority, you don't tell evreyone. Thats something that you keep to yourself. It's not their place to know your business about anything that is sorority-related.

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It might just be me, but I don't think it is wise as prospectives to post your full name all over GC. :o Cool to tell us your first name but when you have told me your name plus the city and state. . . :o


Now some of you as prospectives have gotten to know members and they have gotten to know you in return and based upon a rapport that has been established, there is less anonymity but for a good majority of you, you are still without that rapport.

Just be careful of what information you put out there about yourself.

Just your helpful discretion tip of the day. :)

Without an orientation course called "Black Greek Protocol and Etiquette 100", I'm afraid that the subsequent courses isn't going to mean much to a prospective (albeit its a step in the right direction).

RainMan,
As far as I'm concerned, there is no need for a course in "Black Greek Protocol and Etiquette 100." Those who want to know etiquette and protocol will figure it out the same way as all the rest of us. They will experience and observe the behaviors and resultant positive or negative reaction of those around them and practice the common sense that their parents' taught them.

SC

While I hear where you are coming from, it does both propective and members alike a great disservice and creates a lot of needless aggravation and "tension" (Read the "Embarassing Rush Moments" thread).

Learning by "atmosphere" is confusing, frustrating, and extremely unnecessary.

ETA: Cynically speaking, what does discretion mean to me?

"Do as I say, not as I do".

I am a product of INROADS. When I was in INROADS, we were told that when you go into a new job, you observe and learn from your observations. Then you act accordingly. This applied to dress and other things. What is the difference between learning by atmosphere in a professional environment and in the Greek environment? Most of your actions as a human being are learned by "atmosphere."

My mother taught me a very valuable lesson as a child. Whenever I would talk about how things that happened at school were unfair, she would tell me, "Life is not fair, get used to it. Those teachers have their diplomas. They got theirs, you gotta get yours, and you have to go through them to get it." Greek life is no different. Don't like it? Don't aspire to it.

Myself also being a semi-product of INROADS (hated it; didn't even want an internship from them), I can say that at least to a certain degree, you was given orientation sessions on etiquette and protocol via the TALENT POOL. Most of these prospectives are given by word of mouth via the campus grapevine etiquette and protocol rules that by human nature often gets these messages warped and distorted and by the time it gets to the prospective, the etiquette rule winds up sounding ridiculous because someone in the grapevine didn't get their facts straight. That is why I don't trust 2nd, 3rd, or 4th hand protocol info.