i once knew a girl who was raped by her own grandfather


what a sad little girl

There is a man who has a sidewalk stand on Pitt's campus, and I know for a fact that he's raped one of my sorority sisters years ago. It really irks me that anyone buys anything from him!

that is horrible, Honeychile

he should not be allowed around any of those girls

THANK YOU so much to everyone that responded, I know it was shocking for me to just post this and put it out there... I feel like if I name what happened, it's scary as hell but for some reason it's cathartic or something. I am going to go see someone, and again, thank you to everyone that has reached out by listening (reading) and by providing resources. I have decided not to report it. This has been a horrible decision, but considering the circumstances, it wasn't malicious, which is hard to believe, I know, but it wasn't. It's been two weeks, and any kind of medical exam (besides getting tested, because one thing I do know is that he didn't use a condom) would bring no evidence. I am going to counseling and I just want to work through this. However, another thing is that the more people I talk to about this, the more awful awful stories I hear (worse than my own, but I know it is all relative), it makes me sick to my stomach. I would like to work in a rape crisis center (not now, but eventually... down the road) and to talk to other women (and men) that have gone through this.

It's weird, like you always think you would know what to do in a situation, but it turns out, that when you are there, you really don't know. I literally take things day by day and hope that when I go to sleep the nightmares get a little better. I also have nightmares about what happened, but about other people, my friends, family and this happening to them. I don't trust men. I always had a comfortable relationship with men, things were what they were, I didn't try to contort reality. Now, I am mistrustful, I don't like people touching me except for my close friends hugging me or something. I guess I'm just evaluating everything around me because everything is so different. I've also started praying which for the first time in my life, seems like a good thing to do (I've always felt kind of uncomfortable about it...) and it's hard, but it's getting easier to do it.

again, thank you to everyone for being there for me, the fact that none of you know me, but I know are there for me, that is not something you find, and I need it more than ever.
You are all such amazing people.

AlethiaSi,

it makes me sick as well to hear how often this happens to people. i count myself fortunate that it has not happened to me, and i pray it never does. i, too, am one of those super-trusting people who lets her guard down a bit too soon. luckily nobody has taken advantage of that. its a shame, friendly, outgoing, open people are vulnerable to that type of attack. its not in my personality to come off as abrasive or bold, it would be completely uncomfortable for me. i think now, though, for the sake of my family and myself, that i reexamine that aspect of who i am and try to work a more cautious angle into my life.

dont let this kill that sweet, bubbly part of you. that is what makes you YOU. you have already been robbed of something else important and special, hold on to this as tight as you can! :)