I had an ex boyfriend once whisper that he would love to make love to me. When I said "huh?" he said that he loved me. I looked at him funny & then he said that he loved being around me. Apparently, he couldn't make up his mind. :rolleyes:

Its also possible you guys just heard wrong lol.

I can think of instances where I really thought someone said something, and it was something else entirely.

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Uhmmm James Dahling, is there something you need to tell us?

Not at all. Just searching through old posts and came across this one.

Well I guess everything worked out great for Dani ! :D :D

Yeah, I was reading that post and was a little confused, then I saw the date, and I was like, ohhhhh. :p

Funny enough, it's a different guy, since this thread was from 3 years ago :D

But yeah, I'm happy, and I didn't mishear it this time!!!

I mishear people allll the time! I think they're saying something totally different from what they actually said. I haven't done that with the L-word, luckily!

Channelling Prettyboy right now

her: Do you really love me?

him: I LOVE YOU more than all the rest of them jokerz, YOU STUPID HOE


:)

Once during my freshman year of High School my mom decided that she needed to meet my GF. We had been dating for about a month and a half...which in freshman year is a serious relationship. I told her my mom's plan and what we were going to be having. I swore she said "Oh, you have no idea how much I love you". That took me completely off guard because we hadn't said that yet. I thought it was a weird reaction for someone telling them they were going to be having BEEF STEW for dinner. Apparently that was her favorite food...

"Love" vs "In Love" ??
 

Dredging up an old post, but would really like some feedback on this .....!

What about your guy in your new-ish relationship (friends for years and then something surprising and rare just emerged in the last 3 months!!) saying *pre-relationship* that he's never been in love before ....but then, after the lightening bolt connection / commitment .... he says all the time "I love you", unsolicited, unadorned, and sincere as can be...not flippantly. ( I love him, too ...and we say it all the time)

Gotta be honest with you, though ..... a guy saying he's never been in love when he's over 30 seems to be a red flag, from my feminine perspective. I'm curious about this .....sooooooo...three questions to GC.

a) Is considering that a red flag reasonable?
b) Should I hold out for the "in love" comment or assume it, considering the circumstances and the credibility of this great guy?
c) ... and should the 'in love' comment be necessarily stated?

I'm waaayyy outta practice and may have slight trust issues (that I am determined to exclude from this relationship!)..... I have my own very strong opinions, but am very interested in other perspectives, both male and female. Help! :rolleyes:

i think the "love/in love" thing is crap. that's my 22 cents. as for a man not ever being in love over 30... dont know if i agree with that either. does your logic apply to women who are over 30?

It's not a red flag to me. :) He didn't say he was afraid of love, he said he hadn't been in love.

It's really not as uncommon as people think for both women and men over 30 to have never been in love--or to have never had a "real" relationship, either.

Well, that's one reason why this is a red flag to you. ;)

I definitely think there's a difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone.

Definitely. :D