I do thank you for changing your username, however you did neglect to tell me that you were put on National Probation. You could've been honest with me.

One does not get put on NP for just repeated "conflicts" unless conflicts are fights or something. You get put on for not making grades, not meeting financial obligations, or problematic behavior.

What qualifies as problematic behavior? I'm sure that could be interpreted quite broadly.

I don't remember the exact terminology, that's why I just phrased it that way. I'm sure it's similar to all the other NPC groups.

Yes, it's water on the bridge, but the way it's said makes it seem like NP is just something casual, and that's not the case. Who's trying to punish anyone? I'm upset as well because this person wasn't really truthful with me.

I think that Q has made some interesting points. Sorority life is not for everyone. I'm sorry that being in a sorority didn't work out for you, Q.

Very very true.

Well, realistically, I was placed on NP and then resigned rather than trying to return. So telling you that I was initiated and then left seems quite accurate. At the time we PM'ed, I didn't feel like talking about the NP. However, I've since changed my mind. Had I been interested in deceiving you, it wouldn't really have made sense for me to post about it on a widely read forum.

As other posters have pointed out, "behavioral issues" is a rather large bucket, and the term "repeated conflicts" seems like it could reasonably fit into it. YMMV

And that's just it. kddani and I are strangers who have exchanged a few PMs about why I didn't come over to the KD board and introduce myself. We ultimately agreed that since I was no longer a KD, I'd use a different screen name. Had we known each other, I might have chosen to discuss my situation, but at the time, I didn't care to.

This is the truest statement. I do think there's a GLO home for most women between NPC, Locals, Professional, MCGLO, NPHC and then the individual organizations that make up each of these. Still, it's not for everyone. One wise Sorority sister once told me that every friend will not make a good Soror. I have seen this play out time and time again. A Sorority, by virtue of being a sisterhood at its core, has certain "group think" elements, no matter how lax or informal. I think "most" women will find a home that fits them, as just being a part of society requires a bit of "group think." However, it doesn't mean that every person is a good fit for my Sorority.

Re: Personality and Greek Life
 

Um, I think that's why you go through rush and pledging... to determine if it's right for you.

Here's another thought...A sorority might be a wonderful fit, but the sorority life might not be! I rushed as a freshman because I loved everything that I knew about sororities. I had wanted to be in one long before I went to college! I loved the idea of late nights with wonderful friends, super-tight friendships that last forever, community service, sharing secrets, wearing pretty sweatshirts (I know it sounds silly), seeing sisters everywhere you go, being part of something with a long, traditional history, etc. However, as I came to understand the "Greek climate" on my campus and as I went through rush, I started getting this queasy feeling in my stomach. On paper, I loved every sorority! But, in the real-life situation of my campus, I knew I fit better into other aspects of campus life than I did into Greek Life. The sororities must have seen it too because I was cut from all but one (out of four chapters). I declined my bid because by that time I began to see that the organizations that I was already involved with (we had deferred rush) were meeting many of the expectations that I had of a sorority (except for the pretty sweatshirt part;) ).

Fortunately, I found Beta Sigma Phi, so I could have everything that I wanted from a sorority without having to go against who I was as a college student.

I agree with "Q" that personality has a lot to do with the "fit," and personal needs come into play as well. I have been involved with Martial Arts for ten years. I love everything about training, but a lot of people see the bowing and yelling and saying "sir" or "ma'am" as weird and even cultish. While I love the discipline and intense workouts, other people see these aspects of training to be excessive or strange. It's all about what you need and what you like.

Erica

I tend to think that there are "joiners" and "non-joiners" in general throughout life. The Joiners end up in organizations and the Non-Joiners don't. The Joiners volunteer to coach or be a cub scout leader, or just help with fund raising for an org, etc. once they have kids, the Non-Joiners don't. I definitely know people who have never belonged to any organization of any type and pretty much scorn the idea. I know more (because I'm a Joiner) who are Joiners and get involved in everything that they can. Over time, you will see the same parents involved in PTA/O, Scouts, rec sports, etc. It's all the same ones.

Different strokes for different folks! Isn't it great that there are orgs for the Joiners to join?

Dee