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I agree with what Diva7401 said. Even though I'm in a service sorority I am a SF for Alpha Kappa Alpha and have been pursuing membership for a while now. I frequent this board quite often but normally don't post. More often than not, I just read the posts and responses, and take in the advice and information that way.
I too have noticed the downright nasty attitudes of SF's that come in the room. They don't ask for suggestions or advice-rather, they DEMAND the answer they want, even though they won't get it. Quite simply, if you're not a member there are things that you won't be told. It's like that with Gamma Sig-I'm a member and there are things about Gamma Sig that I won't tell you. Therefore, don't get an attitude about it! Rather, if this is the organization that you want, all the answers will come when it is time to. I understand that completely with AKA and more importantly, I respect that. I'm also aware that this board doesn't even need to be here and there are members of AKA that take the time to guide us sisterfriends in the right direction. Just the fact that this board is here is a blessing! I would like to thank all the AKA members and SF's that show a common courtesy to each other and are respectful of each other. And as a SF myself, everyone has answered my questions and helped me in my pursuit of this great sorority! In Service, gamma_girl52 |
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I don't know, maybe it's me, but I don't understand half of these GIRLS that are seeking "help". They don't really seem to want "help", they want "do it". They want somebody to put their feet on the path, and push them from behind like you do a broken car.
I have requested and received help from DiscoGoddess and other members, and I have been nothing but grateful. I was careful to defer to them, because hell, they know. I can honestly say that all were cordial and polite. I think I've said this before, but people were becoming greek before the internet, it's not impossible. Sisterfriends have to get off their *sses and take the HELP, but do the WORK. That just my opinion, Miss. Mocha |
I just want to get the point across that when you are seeking something big, one mistake really can doom you. If you go for a $500,000 a year job interview and say one wrong thing, there is a good chance that you will not get the job. Alpha Kappa Alpha is much the same. WE ARE NOT HURTING FOR MEMBERSHIP, and whether or not anyone else EVER becomes a member, I will always be an AKA (Sorors, do you hear me?)! Sisterfriends, the less you say and the less you ask, the less chance you have of saying something wrong. Just like you would do your research before going for that $500,000 a year job interview (and I doubt that you would inundate the CEO with questions that could easily be found on the company web page), you must research Alpha Kappa Alpha. I made line my freshman year in college. I was 17 years old and I was one of 17 out of 100+ who submitted. I had to be on point, and I knew it. I am sure that if I asked my campus Sorors as many questions as some of you do, I would have said something wrong too. At that point I would have been one of the 80+ who is still seeking membership TO THIS DAY. Ladies, I am not trying to be mean, and most of you know that I rarely post unless the topic is light in nature, but I will not stand by while some of you come in MY house and act like it is owed to you, and we should forgive your mistakes (over and over again)and be nice about it while you treat us like...let me calm down. Remember, we don't have to because YOU are seeking what we already have.
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I got it...and a whole lot more... I pondered what I'd learned... I was then greatful that I learned it... I stuck around for the conversation... So the answer is YES! Hotep |
As a sisterfriend who has been searching for going on three years now, I can sincerely say thank you to all of my memberfriends who have helped me along the way, both directly and indirectly. I really do appreciate your help and guidance. I can use all the help I can get. Most sisterfriends do realize that you in no way HAVE to help us, but that you do it out of the KINDNESS of your heart. Thank you ladies.
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Doggone straight... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif Most of the time, dang 99.9999% of the time, I don't even have to ask... The answers lay before me, in forums such as these. Can we say search? (that was for our Moderators http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif ) The times I have needed input, advice, edification, clarification, etc. I get it, and it is WELL APPRECIATED... I even help my fellow SFs when appropriate. Shoot, it's been 3 years, 3 months, and 3 days for me today. Utilizing those resources/aids such as my fellow SFs has been a tremendously rewarding experience for me. I have made sooo many Member/Sisterfriends. That's what we are supposed to do, that's the whole point. BUT... There are times when I feel the same way Exquizit does... Quote:
Exquizit... I totally feel you!!! I have to 'bite my fingers' (if you will) on MANY occasions, just because I KNOW that the Members themselves will handle the MAJOR trash... I used to spend a lot of time e-mailing fellow SFs privately to attempt to help them out with their pursuits. I mean, dangonit, I was corrected a few times myself. But never in a million years would/could I just BLATENLY dish out the disrespect I see out here (on the 'net) on a common basis. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif It's a humbling experience to be corrected, for whatever reason. I thank God that my Mama taught me HOW to recognize/give edification, and how to ignore/refrain from disrespectful behaviour... A disrespectful person will always get their just desserts. Some of the crap I read... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif I swear, I just shake my head and sigh... It's like, okay "NO, who the helllll are you???" and at other time "OOOOOOOOOOOOOO she gon' get iiiiiitttt!!!" http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif I see why some SFs catch the verbal beat down... How dare a person TRY to bite someone's head off after rudley posting a question (that could have easily found been answered with a simple search or two or three or four...) Especially on the internet, where the warning emminates from every message board/club/forum high and low "YOU DON'T KNOW WHO IS READING!" Dang, do we (SFs) need another clue??? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif We shouldn't... but apparently some do. Funny, I don't see a lot of this crap on campus(es). http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif I can't stand a lazy person. Read dammyt, go to the Library, pull up a website, search a forum, and if you still have to ask, eat whatever comes your way. We can't expect people (Members) not to feel antagonized by some of the IRRITATING crap that's dished out by 'Ladies' who want what they've got. Shooot, I know how I am when 10 different people ask me the same 10 questions, ALL DAY. By the time number 2 gets to question #3 I have to start praying to God for MORE patience... Let's generalize things for a moment -- cuz this applies to LIFE. I admonish all of my fellow SFs empathize with anyone who is in a position of having something someone else wants... It can be brutalizing when people try to RUDELY use you for what info you may have... or LAZILY ask you questions about something they could figure out themselves (especially when you worked your azz off to get what YOU have)... Then they expect a courteous and humble reply. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif It behooves those of us in need of whatever information Members of Alpha Kappa Alpha may have to chill on the stank... Daayuuummm... Being stank will get a person nothing but stank company. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif ------------------ "No matter how worthy, admirable or fiercely desired the goal may be, it takes commitment and action to make it a reality." [This message has been edited by novella000 (edited May 17, 2001).] |
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Just to add my .08 cents worth. It has alot to do that a certain standard regarding our beloved Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated must be maintained. We as sorors must maintain that standard that is we must represent only in the confines in which we are bound by. We must not allow others to influence our natural human feelings to help others in need in such a way it jeopardizes our sorority. Our sisterfriends and significant others must respect that we have made a promise that must not ever be broken and if they love us and our sorority they would never ask us to break our promise. For when and if our sisterfriends become our sorors we expect them to maintain their promise and maintain the standard. We I was in college you never told anyone on the yard that you wanted to become greek and no greek would tell you Anything regarding their FRAT or Sorority!!! It did not and would not happen. I am appalled at the info. which I have attained recently regarding non-greeks and other greeks knowing pertinent information of a particular FRATERNITY or SORORITY. My brother-in-law in fact talks about the greeks in which he dates he knows their rites. I think that is quite SLACK!! I am thankful that my husband, family and friends have respected my love for Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority,Inc. Even the ladies that I know desire membership in our beloved sisterhood. Oh, I had a lady say Oh, I didn't know that you are an AKA you know I have always wanted to join. How do you join? I stated " you must be invited along with other qualifications". Oh really, how do I get invited? I know nothing about this lady except for her name. Back in the day you wouldn't come out and ask someone you didn't know and you would never do it in a public forum. Come on NOW!!!!!!! It is all about RESPECT and this lady is in her mid to late 40s so she knows better.
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I haven't posted very often on the board, but I just want to say that I appreciate a networking tool like this forum. I have met other memberfriends that talk about the problem of sisterfriends being disrespectful and so forth. But don't stop being helpful to the ones that know how to "come correct." I'm grateful for the advise and I take heed. So if anyone hasn't said it yet, or if they have I'll restate it, thank you for being patient and helpful. God Bless
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I just wanted to say that I have to thank all of the members of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. for answering my questions and even some that I wanted to ask but didn't because someone else did. The advice, direction, and even the constructive criticism helped me in many ways. Even though I have yet to find out where or not the chapter on my campus is active, I know the proper channels to find out once I am ready to submit. I have to say once again, thanks for everything.
And to my fellow SF's, I know what you ladies are talking about when you try to help someone who has addressed a question in a breach on proper conduct. I HAVE been cussed out several times and then they get blasted in an open forum. Then I get emailed again asking why did they, the Members of AKA (forgive the acronym), go off on them. Then I have to explain to them, like I do my daughter, that somethings are not to be expressed like that or that you should not have said certain words or phrases. After the multiple emails back and forth, they begin to understand from sitting back and reading posts that others have made. Once again, I would like to thank the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. and the SisterFriends I have met along my journey. Sorry the post is so long, but it's like that sometimes. Much love, Jade |
Hello Sisterfriends and Greetings to the Premiere Pretty Ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated. I must say I greatly appreciate all information that has been bestowed upon me. I am very interested in this sorority, and if not for the advice given to me by members of this great organization, I would not have known which way way forward. I have been gently directed to sites of interest and importance, which is how I happened upon this site.
I do not know what I would do without some of the most important people in my life (my aunt and cousin), and many others who are also willing to just listen when I have a problem. I am thankful for all those who are always there. [This message has been edited by reddnhott2020 (edited June 11, 2001).] [This message has been edited by reddnhott2020 (edited June 12, 2001).] |
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