I agree with you, Scooby.

It's all about where you set priorities and what matters most. We had sisters that were PRACTICALLY married (long term boyfriends - one of them was my Big Sister) and they participated as much or more than everyone else. So they didn't attend every Saturday night fraternity party or stay out until all hours - why does that matter in the big scheme of things?

I guess there are some organizations or chapters that don't want the stigma of having a "married sister". I would think in this day and age of more "non-traditional" students attending college than ever before (40% of students today are over 25 and over 70% of students work), that fraternal organizations would keep an open mind and look at individuals for who they are as a person.

I posted in the prospective pregnant mother member thread and I agree with most of the post in this thread.

My chapter has me (a mom) a newleywed and 3 recently engaged sisters. 2 of which will be very good stepmoms.

Our participation in our chapter has not diminished, in fact I think we have striven to be more active then other actives , it's like we have something to prove.

my sister who is married , her husband is a marine so he understands the whole sisterhood aspect of her life. He is extremely supportive of our chapter and when he is down and we have an open event he is right there with us digging in an getting dirty, so to speak.

So having a married sister can add alot to your chapter, no to mention the extra pair of hands you get when she brings her husband around i.e move in, move out , loading heavy items.

I think married members and pregnant members are two entirely different ballgames. We have a sister who got married during her new member period. Her fiance, who is in the military, was being sent out of the country. She still lives in the dorm, and participates in a lot of things. Her husband is back in the US now, and he is very supportive. He comes to visit, comes to formals, etc. Being married is not a huge time commitment, at least not any more than a very serious relationship! People who are married still live lives outside of their spouses. I see no problem with it.

I would not make the same statement about a pregnant potential member or a member with a child.