Okaaaaay, you are crackin' me up with the paternalistic lingo today!

Gee, do I get a pass when I call a brotha a triflin' m.f., as long as it's done with affection? Or can I patronizingly pat you on the head while calling you a "rockhead" (that's not the word I'm thinking of), as long as it's done benevolently?

I'm sure your statement would make a lot of white folk who call us out of our name, out of affection, feel much better...

OA, bruh, we're gonna have to agree to disagree on this one, cuz I don't think you can call women names under the guise of trying to get a woman's perspective on your opinion, and expect not be to called on it, however much you meant those names with affection.