I have never cheated and I never will, but I did once date someone who was cheating.

I'm also of the opinion that the old adage "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is not true.

I cheated in a previous relationship...and vowed to never do it again. I still feel guilty over it. Recently I was on the other end of the relationship and was cheated on...again, I know that never again will I do that to someone.

My feeling is that if you don't care/love someone enough to stay committed/faithful then it's not even worth being in a relationship with that person. Ending it will be better for both of you.

I also have no respect for anyone that knowingly is with someone that is in a relationship. Especially the people that actively pursue someone that they know is in a relationship. Karma is a bitch and it will come back.

This past November the boyfriend I had previous to this one decided he was going to go visit his ex in Colorado, who he had described as psycho, unbalanced, etc. What I found out was that they were actually engaged, and he was cheating on her with me.
She and I figured out what was going on, he was confronted, everything came out in the open, and they got married this past Sunday.
I'm glad she's stuck with him and not me.

I've never cheated - forgetting any moral judgement/relationship issues, I simply wouldn't be able to keep names straight. I don't have the energy.

I think the "Once a cheater..." adage is dependent on the circumstances. I do think one can learn from their mistakes. I haven't cheated but I was, unknowingly, "the other woman". In fact, it turned out the psycho ex he always complained about was actually his current fiance. After I found out I didn't see him in that way anymore, but we remained friends, which is when I learned that he had 15 or 16 "other women" throughout his relationship with Debbie and was a total slime bucket. At that point, I stopped all communication, even as friends. That kind of guy will never stop cheating...

No, I would never do that. Even if my SO did it to me(it has happened before), I just can't picture myself being unfaithful. It's just not in me. I don't understand why people do it anyway. What's the point? A lot of people I know think its cute, and quite frankly, its just asinine. If you don't want to be with that person, just say so. I mean,damn.

How can anyone think it is cute to cheat?

Were they molested as children or something...

Yeah, I'd like to actually hear someone say "oh cheating is adorable, I do it all the time." I don't know of anyone who thinks cheating is cute.

Cheating is for immature jerks. Be up front about your non-monogamy and give people the option of putting up with it or walking away.

"...tempted by the fruit of anooother...tempted but the truth is discoooovered..."

The thing that kills me is if guys do it then we're considered players, but if women do it they're considered to be sluts. It's all the same to me.

They're were several times when I could have cheated, but I didn't. It's not worth it. I like just one woman, and that's it.

haven't read the whole thread, but...
 

I agree. If you'd rather date someone else, break up with the person you're with. Do it out of respect for them, respect for the other person, and respect for yourself. By respecting yourself, I don't mean just not feeling guilty. I also mean that if you do cheat, people will always have that in the back of their minds about you. Some people will, at least.

So no, I've never cheated. I'm in love with my boyfriend and have been for over four years. :)

Whoops! I had already responded to this post. Oh well, I think my more recent post is better than the one two years ago, lol.

There is a whole article on AOL about this:
http://coaches.answerology.com/index...rer=coachesnew