...so do you honor the soror's wishes, or honor the implied meaning of the song?

i'm honoring my soror's wishes and honoring what i perceive to be the overall meaning of the sweeaheart song, ...if she's a delta, then delta is her first love.

I would probably gp. If I did, I would sing.

I do think the singing issue is very different for the sororities than the frats. We serenade the soror. They typically serenade their frat's bride. I think that is a more uncomfortable situation, even if you are willing to attend.

i ain't sinnin (oh my bad) i mean singing the hymn, s--t i couldn't sing the hymn anyway. why? u ask -- because i wouldn't be there -- no way-- no how not unless God came to me and commanded me to go to the wedding. but wait what was that little biblical story ? oh yeah you know the one about sodom and (sp) Gommorha.
IT JUST AIN'T NATURAL

it's not hard to do the right thing, it's just so much more fun doing the wrong thing
JYHAD

I'm sure yall real surprised but...
 

NOPE...wouldn't go near the place. If I had a "friend" who knew me...they'd know how I feel. I'm not going to support i.e. condone anything I don't agree with. And I could not be in the same room with my sweetheart song being sung to a couple of women....that would utterly disgust me... BOttom line...if I can't support it wholeheartedly...I'm not going to be there. I dont think this is the same things as just not liking the bride/groom. TO me when you witness a union..you're being a witness to and giving your blessing. I could not bless such a thing.

As for my bruz...the answer is still no. It sends a chill up my spine to visualize the bruz being "OWT" at this type of wedding.. UGH!

I have family members that are Jehovah's Witnesses and they don't attend funerals....I don't hate them for it...I actually respect them because they stand by what they believe in... I would hope my friends or Sorors would respect my wishes the same

Love_Spell, you crack me all the way up!!

I would not attend.

hehe.. I hope in a good way:D :p

As far as songs go...
 

The words (like someone else stated) would not fit the occassion(as far as the sweetheart song is concerned). It was meant for a man and woman union. So I don't think it would be appropriate to sing it. The hymn would be okay.

Would I attend..hmmm I don't know.

Like Soror Dancerella said, I wouldn't sing the sweetheart song either, due to the words. I would attend the ceremony and I would serenade my soror with our hymn.