Attention hooooooo

I'm not, just did it with 2.....i have over 300 threads.

It is totally an attention thing... I may have been known to do it once or twice in my lower-self esteem days (although I never kissed my girl friends - just lots of dancing and flirting). Guys ate it up... :)

Also, it is a money maker. I know lots of friends who have made out in front of random drunk guys who offered them free drinks and/or cash.

If that's not one of their motives, then I guess they really are bi-curious or bi.

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As an openly bisexual woman, I hate to see girls just do it for attention. There were so many girls in my high school that would brag about stuff just to get guys to be interested in them. I personally took a lot of sh*t from people and had a hard time being who I was without constantly being criticized. Yeah I'd get the, "so, wanna have a threesome?" or "dude, can I watch?" comments and it irritated the hell out of me. Not all bisexual people are quick to jump into bed with two other people, and not all of us are sex fiends.

In college I was more accepted, but people didn't grow up much for the most part (can't believe I thought they would :rolleyes: ). I tend to keep to myself about my personal life unless someone asks, because I don't want it broadcast. I'm not open for business 24/7. You want that, go to 7-11.

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Do you think you were actually born Bi-sexual or that maybe you had a fucked up childhood or some sort of traumatizing experience in your life to where you just went crazy? Or is it that you just like feeling as though you're in control in the bed and thats what drives you to be bi-sexual? I'm only asking because I'm trying to get an understanding as to why people become gay/bi-sexual when we're, as humans, inheritly heterosexual.

This is not a new trend at all. I remember the whole lesbian-until-graduation thing going on when I was in college in the early 90s. Yes, you see more of girl-on-girl kissing and stuff on TV now these days (witness the last few seasons of The Real World, for example), but that's because what can go on TV has changed. When I was back in college, when Roseanne kissed Mariel Hemingway on an episode Roseanne, it made news. Now it's almost seen as no big deal.

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Okay, to be totally honest, yes I think this is something I've carried with me throughout my entire life. Some of the severity to which I went totally bonkers when I first became sexually active was due to my environment when I was about 8 years old, though.

When I was about 6, my best girl friend and I would play house and now that I look back on it, it wasn't normal. Our actions weren't those that I believe were typical of playing house. I was fixated on her and whenever we'd get bubble baths together I would have this curiosity eating away at me. As soon as it kinda became apparent as a teenager that I did have an attraction to other girls, everything clicked. I've been like this forever. From what I hear, she's a 100% genuine bisexual as well. We haven't talked since her sister's funeral a few years ago. We sought solace in each other and it ended up pretty bad.

Now for my going bonkers at 14 (yes, 14- but my first and I are still best friends and I don't regret anything other than being that young)... I was sexually molested by my babysitter's son when I was 8. At the time that the whole thing was going on, I didn't necessarily want it to stop (which is common in many child victims). I had that curiosity there and it didn't seem all bad in my mind. I honestly think, however, that had that not happened, I might have held onto my virginity longer and not gone buckwild (buck nekkid).

I can openly talk about this because molestation and abuse are things that NO ONE deserves to have done to them. There are so many other people out there that it's happened to, and unfortunately many of them won't talk about it. I want other people who may be hiding their abuse to know that they have someone they can talk to who is 200% confidential. Talking about it can be such a relief. Yes, sometimes it means digging into that emotional vault and reliving the experience, but it's healing in many ways. Mr. Bunny knows what I've been through and while he can't understand how I feel, he knows that I fight it every day. He listens to me when I need it and he leaves me alone when I need that, too.

Okay, I'll step off my soap box now and get to where I belong at 3am- bed. If anyone ever wants to talk about any of this, please PM me. I'm a good listener and pretty decent at advice (except when it comes to myself, but isn't that always the case?)

ETA: I'm a freak in the bed, too... but no one's ever said it about me like it's a bad thing :D (I meant control freak...whatever)

I've heard the term B.U.G. used as in, "She's a bug." Bisexual Until Graduation. It's disrepectful to the LGBT community!!

I just read this and I remember LUGs too. Now, as I said, I'm hearing the term BUGs as well.